Buddhist Strategies For Reducing Everyday Addictions (To Your Phone, Food, Booze, And More) | Sister Dang Nghiem
Jan 29, 2025
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Sister Dang Nghiem, a Buddhist nun and medical doctor, shares profound insights on overcoming everyday addictions. She introduces a Buddhist twist on the 12-step program, combining the 4 Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path. Sister D emphasizes self-compassion and social support in tackling cravings. She also discusses how to change addiction at its root through mindfulness practices. Listeners will discover strategies for cultivating right mindfulness and transforming their perceptions to break free from dependencies, all while fostering a supportive community.
Sister Dang Nghiem's Buddhist adaptation of the 12-step program emphasizes understanding suffering and engaging in mindful practices to address addiction holistically.
Mindfulness, rather than willpower, is highlighted as essential for overcoming addiction, encouraging a compassionate awareness of one's cravings and thoughts.
The importance of self-compassion and social support is emphasized, as they foster kindness and shared understanding in the recovery journey from addiction.
Deep dives
Understanding Addiction through Buddhism
Buddhism views addiction not only as a dependency on substances but also as a broader concept that includes everyday cravings and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Sister D emphasizes that many individuals are addicted to suffering, engaging in negative thought patterns and behaviors that perpetuate their distress. An example she provides is how some people, through traumatic experiences, internalize harmful beliefs about themselves, leading to a cycle of negative self-perception. By recognizing these patterns as forms of addiction, individuals can begin to address their root causes rather than just the symptoms.
The Buddhist 12-Step Program
Sister D creates a Buddhist adaptation of the 12-step program, integrating the Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path. This framework acknowledges the existence of suffering, identifies causes, and presents a pathway to cessation through mindful practices. Each step encourages self-examination and comprehension of one's situation, moving from acknowledgment of suffering to a deeper understanding of the conditions that foster addiction. This structured approach empowers individuals to confront and transform their relationships with their habits holistically.
Mindfulness Over Willpower
In the Buddhist approach, willpower is less emphasized than mindfulness as a crucial component for overcoming addiction. Sister D posits that true change arises from understanding the mind and its processes, rather than sheer will. This understanding shifts the focus to awareness and engagement with one’s current experience, promoting a more compassionate response to cravings. Practicing right mindfulness not only helps individuals acknowledge their addictive behaviors but also guides them to cultivate healthier thoughts and actions.
The Role of Self-Compassion and Social Support
Self-compassion is framed as an essential practice in overcoming addiction; it allows individuals to treat themselves with kindness rather than harsh judgments. Sister D shares her journey of cultivating self-kindness, suggesting that positive, loving self-talk can significantly alter one’s mental state. Equally important is the aspect of social support, which can offer collective strength and understanding that addiction is often a shared struggle. By engaging with supportive communities, individuals can experience a sense of belonging and shared healing that enhances their recovery process.
Practical Mindfulness Techniques for Change
Sister D highlights various mindfulness practices such as mindful breathing, body scans, and loving-kindness meditations for managing addiction. These techniques encourage individuals to connect with their bodies and emotions in a non-judgmental way, allowing them to navigate cravings and triggers more effectively. For instance, the 'I am enough' meditation serves to bolster self-esteem, counteracting negative beliefs and reinforcing personal worth. Implementing these practices daily equips individuals with tools to cultivate presence and awareness, underpinning long-term recovery from addictive behaviors.
A Buddhist doctor/nun on how we’re all addicted to something—and how to reduce craving.
Sister Dang Nghiem, MD, (“Sister D”) was born in 1968 in Vietnam during the Tet Offensive, the daughter of a Vietnamese mother and an American soldier. She lost her mother at the age of twelve and immigrated to the United States at the age of seventeen with her brother. Living in various foster homes, she learned English and went on to earn a medical degree from the University of California – San Francisco. After suffering further tragedy and loss, she quit her practice as a doctor to travel to Plum Village monastery in France founded by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, where she was ordained a nun in 2000, and given the name Dang Nghiem, which means adornment with nondiscrimination. She is the author of a memoir, Healing: A Woman’s Journey from Doctor to Nun (2010), and Mindfulness as Medicine: A Story of Healing and Spirit (2015).
This episode is part of our monthlong Do Life Better series.
We talk about:
Sister D’s Buddhist version of the 12 step program, which is a combination of two canonical buddhist lists: the 4 Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path
How willpower doesn’t fit into the Buddhist path of understanding and working with addiction