Kessonga, a social media and relationships expert, joins Robin to talk about managing change, avoiding comparison on social media, exploring worry and anxiety in relationships, checking in with your gut, processing behavior patterns, and recommendations/resources for change.
To avoid comparing yourself to others on social media, set an intention before using it and remind yourself that what you see is not the whole truth.
When dealing with change, seek mindfulness tools and resources such as books, podcasts, and courses to navigate life and live in the present moment.
Deep dives
Managing Comparison on Social Media
When using social media, it's natural to compare yourself to others. To mitigate this, set an intention before using social media, reminding yourself that what you see is not the whole truth. Take a pause to bring yourself into the present moment and be aware of how you're feeling while scrolling. If you notice comparison or judgment, try putting down your phone for a moment and see how that feels.
Living in the Present in Relationships
To focus on the present moment in a relationship, it's important to acknowledge any worries or anxieties you may have. Instead of judging yourself, accept that worry is a natural part of being in a relationship. Mindfully communicate your feelings with your partner, expressing your desire to be present in the relationship. Remember that trust and instincts will guide you, but it's crucial to create space between worry and reaction. Seeking therapy can also be beneficial for exploring and processing anxiety patterns.
Managing Change and Recommended Resources
Dealing with change requires mindfulness tools and resources. Books like 'Full Catastrophe Living' and 'Wherever You Go, There You Are' by John Kabat-Zinn provide insight on navigating life and living in the present moment. 'The Power of Now' and 'A New Earth' by Eckhart Tolle are recommended for understanding the power of present moment awareness. 'Battle Cry' by Jason Wilson addresses men's mental health but offers valuable insights for everyone. Recommendations also include the 'Radio Headspace' podcast, specifically episodes on change, and exploring the 'Navigating Change' course on the Headspace app.
Embrace wherever you're at in your life right now. Kessonga and Robin answer questions about how not to compare yourself to others on social media, being present in relationships, and recommended books for dealing with change.