

Negotiation: Points of Know Returns
Feb 15, 2023
Chris Voss, a former FBI lead hostage negotiator and author of "Never Split the Difference," shares his remarkable insights on negotiation. He reveals the critical importance of empathy and listening in high-stakes situations. Voss discusses the transformative role of unexpected information, or 'Black Swans,' in shaping outcomes. He emphasizes the balance between vulnerability and confidence and illustrates how practical techniques can lead to successful collaboration. With real-life stories, he provides valuable tips for maximizing negotiation efficiency.
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Empathy Makes Agreements Stick
- Empathy precedes agreements because understanding the other side makes deals hold.
- Build relationships fast by discovering information during conversation rather than relying on profiles.
Training With No Safety Net
- Voss trained to negotiate with no safety net and learned not to panic without backups.
- That training made him comfortable getting information from strangers on the phone.
Invite 'No' To Gain Control
- Let the counterpart say no to preserve their autonomy and reduce resistance.
- Triggering no intentionally makes people feel safe and opens them to listening.