Rena Malik, MD Podcast: Optimizing Health, Sex & Relationships with Science Backed Tips from Leading Experts Why Successful People Are The Most Broken In Love ft. Top Psychotherapist
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Oct 17, 2025 Jessica Baum, a licensed psychotherapist and attachment expert, dives deep into the world of attachment styles and their impact on love and relationships. She explores how childhood experiences shape adult romantic patterns, the magnetic pull between anxious and avoidant partners, and how to distinguish between genuine intimacy and intense emotional connections. Baum also emphasizes the importance of healing outside romance, building secure connections, and understanding the role of implicit memory in relationships. Discover practical strategies for fostering healthier bonds.
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Attachment Forms In Early Caregiving
- Attachment styles form in infancy through caregiver attunement and shape adult connection patterns.
- Secure caregiving lends regulation; inconsistent care seeds anxious, avoidant, or disorganized adaptation.
Anxious–Avoidant Magnetic Cycle
- Anxious and avoidant types frequently attract each other and lock into a pull-push cycle.
- The anxious seeks closeness while the avoidant retreats, perpetuating dysregulation for both partners.
Name Your Nervous-System Response
- Notice whether you expand (anxious) or contract (avoidant) when scared and name it to your partner.
- Communicate your nervous-system response so you both can pause and co-regulate instead of escalating.
