

Tackling perfectionism as a busy adult with ADHD
12 snips Mar 28, 2025
Dr. Tara Cousineau, a part-time staff psychologist at Harvard and author of "The Perfectionist’s Dilemma," dives deep into the struggles of perfectionism faced by adults with ADHD. She shares how perfectionism can stem from childhood experiences and societal pressures, leading to anxiety and burnout. The conversation highlights the importance of celebrating small wins, embracing imperfections, and introducing new experiences to challenge limiting beliefs. Dr. Cousineau also offers strategies for cultivating self-acceptance and fostering a more balanced life.
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Dave's Messy Epiphany
- Dave Greenwood used to judge parents with messy appearances.
- After having a child, he realized perfection isn't always feasible.
Perfectionism as Protection
- Dr. Tara Cousineau views perfectionism as a form of protection, not a conscious choice.
- It's a strategy developed to avoid trouble or negative consequences.
Perfectionism Defined
- Perfectionism stems from a need to belong, paired with unrealistic expectations.
- This combination saps energy and can lead to burnout.