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James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes

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Sep 1, 2022

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James Smith

James Smith, a renowned fitness influencer and author, shares groundbreaking insights on building confidence. He asserts that true confidence stems from accepting potential failures rather than a foolproof belief in success. Smith emphasizes that personal insecurities and backgrounds shape our social confidence, urging honesty with oneself as a starting point. He also explores the 'utility of deprivation' in relationships, advocating for small, actionable steps toward self-improvement while highlighting the role of daily habits in long-term success.

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Confidence is Achievable

Confidence isn't a fixed trait like height, it's attainable.
It's about perceiving reality and dismantling fears, not lacking something.

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Numbers Game

James Smith built confidence through door-to-door sales, seeing rejection as a numbers game.
He applied this to email marketing and social media, persisting for months before success.

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Pain Points

True pain points, not surface desires, drive lasting change.
Dig deeper to uncover the real motivations behind wanting to change.

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Journey to Confidence: Overcoming Insecurities

03:50 • 19min

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The Recipe for Happiness

22:32 • 7min

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Reflections on Relationships and Values

29:40 • 20min

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Cultivating Confidence Through Action

50:10 • 12min

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Utility of Deprivation: A Deep Dive

01:02:04 • 6min

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Embracing Growth Through Personal Reflection

01:07:50 • 27min

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Reflections on Life's Hardships and Personal Growth

01:34:31 • 2min

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The Power of Small Disciplines for Long-Term Success

01:36:53 • 2min

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Exploring Confidence and Healthy Living Tools

01:39:22 • 4min

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Slight Edge

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The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson is a philosophy that highlights the importance of making simple daily choices and taking small actions that, when compounded over time, lead to massive outcomes. The book stresses that success is not the result of big leaps or overnight successes, but rather the accumulation of small, almost insignificant actions. It encourages readers to adopt a mindset where they see time as an ally, recognizing that consistent daily disciplines, such as healthy habits, saving, and continuous learning, are crucial for achieving success. The book also emphasizes the importance of faith in the process, as results may not be immediately visible, and the need to base choices on a personal philosophy rather than immediate evidence.

James Smith is a fitness influencer and the two-time best-selling author of Not a Life Coach and Not a Diet Book. His no holds barred approach to fitness advice makes him unlike any other fitness influencer today, and now he’s bringing his unique philosophy to improving people’s confidence.

According to James, we’ve been getting self confidence and how to achieve it all wrong. Confidence is not a surefire belief in ourselves to achieve great things, but rather confidence is being at peace with the idea of losing or things going wrong. When you know it isn’t the end of the world, you realise losing isn’t the same as being defeated.

Like James’ brutally honest fitness advice, there’s no quick fix to confidence, or any miracle cure. James starts, like he always does, by looking at himself honestly - and truthfully - in the mirror, and all he asks is we do the same as well. James’ book is out today.

James’ book:

https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Confident

James:

https://www.instagram.com/jamessmithpt

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