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How to Unlock Your Greatness by Doing Hard Things (with Michael Bungay Stanier)

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Jun 25, 2025

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Michael Bungay-Stanier

Michael Bungay Stanier, a renowned author and coaching expert, returns to discuss leading with curiosity and the radical nature of 'being lazy' as a trust-building tool. He emphasizes the importance of shifting from SMART goals to worthy goals that inspire growth. Michael also dives into how neuroscience informs emotional connection and resilience, advocating for coaching that empowers individuals. His insights on managing ambiguity and simplifying complex decisions make this conversation a must-listen for anyone seeking meaningful transformation.

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INSIGHT

Questions Shift Power

Asking a question and then listening shifts power and grants agency to the other person.
Coaching invites others to take responsibility, which requires leaders to let go of control.

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ANECDOTE

From Job Loss To Box Of Crayons

Michael became an entrepreneur after losing a job around 9/11 and gaining residency to start Box of Crayons.
Early years involved firing many 'bullets' until Nestlé invited him to build a coaching program, which became his cannonball.

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ADVICE

Be Lazy, Curious, And Often

Be lazy: stop doing other people's work and let them learn.
Be curious: tame your 'advice monster' and stay curious longer; be often: practice coaching in everyday interactions.

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Studying Law and Literature

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Winning the Rhodes and Learning to Question

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Running Focus Groups as Curiosity Training

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Challenging the 'Box' in Innovation

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Balancing Certainty and Ambiguity as a Leader

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Modern Change: People Over Processes

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The Power of Subtraction in Change

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Emotional Work in Transformation

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Becoming an Entrepreneur and Finding a Niche

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Coaching Habit Pillars: Be Curious, Be Lazy, Be Often

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Designing the Seven Coaching Questions

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Coaching for Performance and Growth

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Neuroplasticity and Habit Formation in Coaching

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Choosing What Truly Matters

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A Simple One-on-One Coaching Checklist

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Defining Positive Leadership

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Thinking in New Boxes

the New Paradigm for Business Creativity

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Back by popular demand! 🎧
In this new conversation, Michael Bungay Stanier—author of The Coaching Habit, The Advice Trap, and How to Begin—returns to the podcast to go deeper than ever before.

With his signature mix of warmth, clarity, and wit, MBS and Jean-Philippe Courtois explore:

💡 How to lead with less control and more curiosity
🔥 Why “being lazy” is a radical act of trust and growth
🎯 The difference between SMART goals… and worthy goals
🧠 What neuroscience teaches us about emotional connection, change, and resilience
🌍 And how to serve something greater than yourself—while letting go of control

This episode isn’t just for coaches—it’s for anyone navigating meaningful transformation, in life or at work.

🎧 Listen now.

More inspiration? Check out these related episodes:

- Dr. Caroline Leaf – on rewiring your brain for clarity, emotional regulation & growth: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1798971/episodes/15018482-managing-your-mind-with-dr-caroline-leaf
- Pete Carroll – Head Coach of the Seattle Seahawks, on Learning to ‘always compete’: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1798971/episodes/9268299-learning-to-always-compete-with-pete-carroll-seattle-seahawks-head-coach

- Charles Duhigg on The Power of Habit: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1798971/episodes/16315344-the-power-of-habit-with-charles-duhigg

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