In a fascinating discussion, Tsoknyi Rinpoche, a renowned Tibetan master and meditation expert, teams up with Daniel Goleman, the acclaimed scientist known for his work on emotional intelligence. They delve into how to handle difficult emotions, introducing techniques like the 'drop it' practice and the transformative 'handshake' method. Rinpoche’s concept of 'beautiful monsters' highlights the potential for growth through our emotional struggles. Together, they bridge ancient wisdom and modern science, offering powerful tools for emotional regulation.
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insights INSIGHT
Cultural Differences in Embodiment
Western culture's focus on speed and achievement hinders embodiment of teachings.
Prioritize slowing down to integrate knowledge into the body and heart.
insights INSIGHT
Speediness as a Modern Challenge
Speediness is the most challenging aspect of modern life.
Three speeds exist: cognitive, physical, and subtle body/emotional.
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Overcoming Meditation Obstacles
Find calmness by addressing the subtle body's energy, not just the mind.
Use the "handshake practice" to acknowledge and relax reactive thoughts.
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In 'Why We Meditate', Daniel Goleman and Tsoknyi Rinpoche blend scientific research with spiritual practices to provide a comprehensive guide to meditation. The book offers practical techniques to overcome destructive emotions and achieve inner peace, making it accessible to both beginners and experienced meditators. It explores the physiological benefits of meditation, such as inducing a relaxation response, and delves into deeper psychological and spiritual insights.
Emotional Intelligence
Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
Daniel Goleman
In 'Emotional Intelligence,' Daniel Goleman presents a compelling argument that emotional intelligence (EI) is crucial for success, happiness, and virtue. Drawing on research in psychology and neuroscience, Goleman explains how EI, which includes self-awareness, self-discipline, and empathy, shapes our destiny. The book details five key skills of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, managing emotions, motivation, recognizing emotions in others, and social skills. Goleman shows how these skills can be nurtured and strengthened throughout adulthood, benefiting our health, relationships, and work performance[2][3][4].
Emotional alchemy
Tara Bennett-Goleman
In 'Emotional Alchemy,' Tara Bennett-Goleman offers a transformative approach by blending Buddhist mindfulness with Western cognitive therapy. This book helps individuals recognize and reshape maladaptive emotional patterns, known as schemas, which often stem from early life experiences. By cultivating mindfulness and self-compassion, readers can break free from self-destructive habits and foster more fulfilling relationships and experiences.
This episode is for anyone who has ever had a tough or tricky moment. In other words, everyone who is currently drawing breath on planet earth right now.
Today’s guests are powerhouse duo Tsoknyi Rinpoche and Daniel Goleman.
This is the fourth and final installment of our series called, The Art and Science of Keeping Your Sh*t Together. In each episode we bring together a meditative adept or Buddhist scholar and a respected scientist. The idea is to give you the best of both worlds to arm you with both modern and ancient tools for regulating your emotions.
In this episode we talk about:
The single word that Rinpoche believes captures the most challenging aspect of modern life
Two of the biggest obstacles for meditators
What Rinpoche calls the “drop it” practice
Rinpoche’s term, “beautiful monsters”
The four steps of the “handshake” practice, which is meant for meeting difficult emotions and being OK with them
Why reasoning with your feelings doesn’t work
How to experience a fundamental OK-ness independent of external conditions
A personal story from Rinpoche about being with one of his own difficult habits
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