The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

Loving With Your Parts with Peter Malinoski

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Dec 14, 2024

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Peter Malinoski, a clinical psychologist and IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, shares how he integrates Internal Family Systems with Catholic spirituality. He discusses the challenges parts face in feeling safe to love and be loved, while offering insights into healing attachment wounds. A fascinating experiential exercise invites listeners to connect with their inner parts, enhancing self-love and fostering deeper relationships. Peter emphasizes the importance of internal harmony as a key to flourishing connections.

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ANECDOTE

Hallmark Love

Peter Malinoski uses Hallmark movies as an example of what many parts desire in love: easy, painless, and undemanding.
He points out the unrealistic portrayal of love in these movies, where personal change isn't required.

INSIGHT

Vulnerability in Love

Being loved requires being known, which makes parts feel vulnerable and exposed.
This vulnerability is often associated with shame and the fear of rejection, similar to Adam and Eve's story.

INSIGHT

Unloved Parts

Peter believes most people have parts that have never felt loved, especially exiles.
He defines love as affirming what already is, which can be a foreign concept to some parts.

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On today's episode I speak with my friend and fellow podcaster Dr. Peter Malinoski, a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. Peter shares his journey of integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) with his Catholic faith, and building bridges between these two communities through his work with the Resilient Catholics Community and his Interior Integration for Catholics podcast channel on YouTube

We talk about understanding parts, healing attachment wounds, and embracing love. At around 26 minutes in Peter offers a wonderful experiential exercise/meditation where he invites you to go inside and connect with your parts to understand their assumptions, experiences, and beliefs around love.

Key Takeaways:

IFS provides a powerful healing framework that integrates beautifully with Catholic spirituality.
Why is it often so difficult for parts to feel safe being loved or offering love?
Protectors can play critical roles in bridging internal and external relationships when approached with curiosity and respect.
Healing relational wounds begins with internal harmony—inviting all parts to participate in Self-Led love.
Self Energy serves as a secure base for engaging with exiles, protectors, and divine connection.

About Dr. Peter Malinoski: Dr. Peter Malinoski is a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts, a platform dedicated to integrating the best of psychology and Catholicism. He also hosts the Interior Integration for Catholics podcast and leads the Resilient Catholics Community, helping others navigate faith and mental health with depth and compassion.

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