The Genius Life 255: How to Become More Confident and Charismatic in Any Situation | Vanessa Van Edwards
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Oct 5, 2022 
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Awkwardness Is Fear You Can Label
- Social awkwardness is fear dressed up and appears as shutdown or performative behavior.
- Labeling and understanding the external cues that trigger fear restores control and reduces awkwardness.
Label Negative Cues To Regain Control
- When you spot a negative social cue, mentally label it (e.g., "fear") to deactivate its emotional power.
- Use labeling to shift from threat response to feeling in control before reacting socially.
Misreading Cues Sparked Her Research
- Vanessa misread neutral cues as negative at parties and assumed people were mad at her.
- That experience pushed her to catalog cues and build a glossary to decode social signals.