Mantra with Jemma Sbeg I Am Not Here to Manage Other People’s Emotions
Sep 1, 2025
Discover the empowering mantra of not managing others' emotions and the importance of setting healthy emotional boundaries. Explore the dynamics of emotional overcompensation rooted in childhood and societal expectations. Learn how to balance empathy with self-care for authentic relationships. Unpack the challenges of emotional labor and honesty, while embracing the power of letting go and respecting others' feelings. Gain practical insights and tools for fostering personal growth and emotional independence.
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Emotional Management Is Not Empathy
- Managing others' emotions is different from empathy and involves taking responsibility for regulating someone else's internal state.
- This habit dysregulates you by creating hypervigilance and guilt for things you didn't cause.
Early Conditioning Powers People-Pleasing
- Childhood conditioning teaches many people to manage others' feelings to maintain safety and avoid conflict.
- This coping mechanism often evolves into people-pleasing tied to external validation and fear of rejection.
Emotional Labor Tied To Gender Roles
- Gender socialization often assigns emotional labor disproportionately to women, teaching them to smooth feelings for others.
- This cultural expectation creates invisible emotional work that harms wellbeing and relationship balance.
