ManTalks Podcast Breaking Male Performance Anxiety with Alex Grendi
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Nov 25, 2025 In this enlightening discussion, Alex Grendi, a sex and relationship coach specialized in male sexual performance, shares insights on performance anxiety and its emotional roots. He explains how self-worth is intricately linked to sexual confidence and how porn can create unrealistic expectations. Alex provides practical breathing and communication techniques to alleviate anxiety and enhance intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of defining personal desires in sexual experiences and the need for men to openly confront their challenges for improvement.
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Performance Mindset Breaks Connection
- Men who equate sexual performance with masculinity often collapse into a performance mindset that disconnects them from pleasure.
- That mindset shifts focus from mutual experience to hitting imagined goals and damages self-worth.
Dial Back Porn To Recalibrate Arousal
- Reduce or stop porn if it's your primary sexual template because it conditions hyper-stimulation and unrealistic standards.
- Replace porn with slower, embodied practices to rebuild natural arousal and expectations.
Comparison To Porn Began His Anxiety
- Alex recounts comparing himself to porn actors and feeling inadequate before sexual activity began.
- That early comparison seeded 15 years of performance anxiety until he changed his habits.