Attraction, self-sabotage and perceived unworthiness

I dive deep with Alex Grendi into the realities of performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the pressure men carry in the bedroom. We unpack how self-worth, porn, and emotional tension affect arousal and sexual confidence. Alex breaks down the psychology behind performance issues and shares practical solutions men can start using immediately. This conversation is honest, raw, and a must listen for any man who wants a healthier relationship with sex.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction

00:35 How self-worth affects sex

01:17 Emotional roots of performance issues

02:03 Porn and male conditioning

03:19 Nervous system and arousal

04:34 Porn induced dysfunction

05:37 Unrealistic expectations

07:22 Shame and performance pressure

07:45 Women influenced by porn

08:20 Monetization joke break

10:01 What men really want

12:49 Why men feel pressure

13:12 Saying no to sex

15:18 Handling anxiety during sex

16:53 Belief and awareness

17:36 Pressure when sex is infrequent

18:29 Communication with partners

19:59 Reducing pressure

22:14 In the moment anxiety tools

24:03 Breath control in sex

25:30 Parasympathetic vs sympathetic states

27:38 Arousal pacing and control

29:50 Hyper stimulation from porn

31:44 Self worth and performance links

33:15 Where low self worth comes from

34:45 Perfectionism and pressure

35:16 Support and standards

37:37 Using sex for validation

38:56 Understanding different dysfunctions

41:33 What causes ED in healthy men

43:54 Forcing erections vs allowing

44:30 Emotional litmus test

45:35 Nervous system signals

46:50 Emotional suppression

47:46 Performance with highly attractive partners

48:45 Self-sabotage

49:39 Building sexual confidence

49:58 Rituals and daily practice

53:57 Letting go of control

56:05 Reconnecting to the body

57:48 Sex as meditation

58:29 Romance novels conversation

01:00:20 Where to find Alex

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