Breaking Male Performance Anxiety with Alex Grendi
ManTalks Podcast
Parasympathetic vs sympathetic states in sex
Connor and Alex explain nervous system states and why starting relaxed prevents early escalation to climax.
I dive deep with Alex Grendi into the realities of performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the pressure men carry in the bedroom. We unpack how self-worth, porn, and emotional tension affect arousal and sexual confidence. Alex breaks down the psychology behind performance issues and shares practical solutions men can start using immediately. This conversation is honest, raw, and a must listen for any man who wants a healthier relationship with sex.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Introduction
00:35 How self-worth affects sex
01:17 Emotional roots of performance issues
02:03 Porn and male conditioning
03:19 Nervous system and arousal
04:34 Porn induced dysfunction
05:37 Unrealistic expectations
07:22 Shame and performance pressure
07:45 Women influenced by porn
08:20 Monetization joke break
10:01 What men really want
12:49 Why men feel pressure
13:12 Saying no to sex
15:18 Handling anxiety during sex
16:53 Belief and awareness
17:36 Pressure when sex is infrequent
18:29 Communication with partners
19:59 Reducing pressure
22:14 In the moment anxiety tools
24:03 Breath control in sex
25:30 Parasympathetic vs sympathetic states
27:38 Arousal pacing and control
29:50 Hyper stimulation from porn
31:44 Self worth and performance links
33:15 Where low self worth comes from
34:45 Perfectionism and pressure
35:16 Support and standards
37:37 Using sex for validation
38:56 Understanding different dysfunctions
41:33 What causes ED in healthy men
43:54 Forcing erections vs allowing
44:30 Emotional litmus test
45:35 Nervous system signals
46:50 Emotional suppression
47:46 Performance with highly attractive partners
48:45 Self-sabotage
49:39 Building sexual confidence
49:58 Rituals and daily practice
53:57 Letting go of control
56:05 Reconnecting to the body
57:48 Sex as meditation
58:29 Romance novels conversation
01:00:20 Where to find Alex
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