Acclaimed trauma specialist Aundi Kolber discusses trauma processing, resilience, and becoming strong like water. She explores balancing authenticity vs. belonging, redefining strength through the Enneagram, and recognizing safety cues to prevent trauma responses. The podcast delves into the art of attuning, responding, and tending for self-care, highlighting the impact of presence and reflection on personal growth.
Navigating trauma involves finding safety individually and in relationships for emotional regulation.
Co-regulation with community and therapy fosters resilience and supports processing difficult emotions.
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Andi Colber Discusses Her Book 'Strong Like Water'
Andi Colber, a professional counselor specializing in trauma work, discusses her new book 'Strong Like Water'. The book focuses on navigating trauma and healing processes, offering steps to understand and process trauma stages. Colber emphasizes the importance of finding safety, both individually and in relationships, highlighting the impact of safety on one's ability to regulate emotions and experiences.
Navigating Authenticity and Belonging in Trauma Healing
Andi Colber delves into the complexities of trading uniqueness or separateness for a sense of belonging in trauma healing. Drawing from Dr. Gabor Maté's work, she explains the innate human needs for authenticity and belonging. Colber encourages individuals to navigate this balance by approaching pain with compassion, attending to past wounds, and finding spaces where their true selves are seen and affirmed.
The Importance of Co-regulation and Community Support in Healing
Colber highlights the significance of co-regulation in processing trauma and stress responses, emphasizing the role of community, therapy, and supportive relationships. She discusses how co-regulation fosters safety and resilience, enabling individuals to navigate difficult experiences and emotions. Colber encourages listeners to engage in attuning, responding, and tending practices to build internal resources and strengthen relational bonds.
Practical Tools for Self-Regulation and Nurturing Resilience
Andi Colber offers a simple yet powerful practice called ART (Attune, Respond, Tend) for self-regulation and emotional well-being. This practice involves grounding oneself, attuning to inner experiences, responding with self-care strategies, and tending to one's emotional needs. By engaging in the ART practice, individuals can enhance their ability to navigate challenges, nurture resilience, and foster a deeper sense of safety and self-compassion.
Whether you're hypervigilant or you tend to become withdrawn in the aftermath of trauma, there are certain costs to being strong - we were made well and we can live in survival mode for a long time. However, walking to freedom and safety on the other side is not only the goal, but it's accessible and present. Today we are grateful to have acclaimed trauma specialist and author Aundi Kolber, LMHC of Try Softer sharing her brand new book, Strong Like Water as we learn the way to more fluidly and safely process trauma. She offers us tips for individuals and couples as we learn the way to resiliency and ultimately to becoming strong like water together.
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