ManTalks Podcast Healthy Anger, Toxic Rage with John Lee
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Oct 27, 2025 Join John Lee, an experienced therapist and author, as he delves into the nuanced differences between healthy anger and toxic rage. John opens up about how rage can destroy relationships, while healthy anger fosters intimacy. Discover how generational cycles of rage impact children and learn about four distinct styles of rage. The conversation also explores practical techniques for releasing anger and the necessity of boundaries. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by rage, this insightful discussion is a must-listen!
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Anger Versus Rage
- Anger is an emotion that resolves and builds connection, while rage is a behavior that numbs emotions and never resolves.
- John Lee says anger creates intimacy and serenity, whereas rage creates distance and long-lasting conflict.
Rage Spreads, Anger Stays Present
- Rage is contagious and escalates interactions, while anger is not contagious and stays present-focused.
- Lee notes rage pulls in past hurts and prolongs conflict across relationships and time.
The Illusional Power Of Rage
- Raging gives an illusion of control by releasing adrenaline and endorphins, creating secondary rewards.
- That felt power keeps people repeating rage despite its relational harm.
