Unburdening Sexual Arousal (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)
Mar 6, 2023
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Exploring unburdening sexual arousal through IFS therapy with Dr. Peter Malinoski, emphasizing freedom from porn. Topics include setting boundaries, vulnerability, acceptance, inner child work, and embracing compassion for healing.
Unburdening sexual arousal involves addressing deep-seated shame and traumatic memories linked to sexual struggles.
Healing process through unburdening involves releasing shame, trauma, and embracing self-compassion, joy, and connection with inner parts.
Deep dives
Internal Conflict of Desire and Repulsion
The podcast episode details the internal conflict experienced by the speaker at the age of 13, where he was fascinated with braces and headgear while simultaneously feeling repulsed by the idea of wearing them himself. This fascination played a significant role in his sexual fantasies and struggles, linking his arousal to the humiliation felt by others wearing braces. The speaker reminisces about the trauma and shame associated with this attraction, recognizing the complexities and emotional weight attached to these experiences.
Healing Journey and Switching with Parts
The healing journey unfolds as the speaker engages with his internal parts, including an eight-year-old, a five-year-old, and a 13-year-old version of himself. Through an experiential exercise, the speaker addresses deep-seated shame and traumatic memories linked to his sexual struggles. By allowing his parts to express their needs and concerns, the speaker navigates towards self-compassion, kindness, and the release of burdensome shame, fostering a sense of acceptance and belonging within himself.
Unburdening and Transformation
The podcast episode explores the process of unburdening, symbolized by releasing a box containing shame and trauma associated with sexual arousal. The speaker visualizes a transformative experience where shame is replaced with compassion, joy, and laughter, offering a sense of liberation and healing. By acknowledging and letting go of past burdens, the speaker finds space for self-compassion, connection with inner parts, and a renewed sense of self-acceptance and authenticity.
Integration and Self-Love
In the culmination of the healing process, the speaker integrates his experiences and internal parts, fostering a sense of self-love, acceptance, and forgiveness towards himself. Through connection with his parts, compassion, and self-kindness, the speaker navigates towards a deeper understanding of his past struggles and an acknowledgment of the beauty and goodness within himself. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, healing, and self-affirmation in the journey towards self-integration and wholeness.
In this episode, Dr. Peter Malinoski guides Drew Boa through the process of unburdening sexual arousal using the internal family systems model (IFS). This type of healing experience can bring tremendous freedom from porn and unwanted sexual behavior.
Disclaimer: This is what we call a demo, which is short for a demonstration. Demos are a common way for IFS therapists to practice with each other and to show others what IFS is like. Demos are not therapy or counseling. In sharing this demo, we are not trying to teach people how to do IFS on themselves or others, but rather demonstrating what the IFS model can look like in action. Unburdening protocols are taught in formal IFS Level 1 training from the IFS Institute. IFS Level 1 training is required to do unburdening protocols and to be called an IFS therapist.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Peter Malinoski is president of Souls and Hearts and host of Interior Integration for Catholics, a podcast helping Catholics embrace their identities as beloved sons and daughters of God. Peter specifically addresses the topics of freedom from porn and masturbation in episodes 51-56 of his podcast. Contact Peter here.
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