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Unburdening Sexual Arousal (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

Mar 6, 2023

Exploring unburdening sexual arousal through IFS therapy with Dr. Peter Malinoski, emphasizing freedom from porn. Topics include setting boundaries, vulnerability, acceptance, inner child work, and embracing compassion for healing.

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Peter Malinoski

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Unburdening sexual arousal involves addressing deep-seated shame and traumatic memories linked to sexual struggles.

Healing process through unburdening involves releasing shame, trauma, and embracing self-compassion, joy, and connection with inner parts.

Deep dives

Internal Conflict of Desire and Repulsion

The podcast episode details the internal conflict experienced by the speaker at the age of 13, where he was fascinated with braces and headgear while simultaneously feeling repulsed by the idea of wearing them himself. This fascination played a significant role in his sexual fantasies and struggles, linking his arousal to the humiliation felt by others wearing braces. The speaker reminisces about the trauma and shame associated with this attraction, recognizing the complexities and emotional weight attached to these experiences.

Introduction

4min

Exploring Vulnerability and Setting Boundaries

2min

Acceptance and Authenticity

3min

Exploring Permission, Editing, and Building Trust

3min

Exploring Unprocessed Emotional Pain and the Desire for Acknowledgment

1min

Navigating Childhood Memories and Shame

17min

Inner Child Work and Preparation to Engage with Sexual Part

2min

Trusting Instincts and Setting Boundaries

12min

Exploring the Dynamics of Relationship Apologies

17min

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Exploring Fear and Letting Go

2min

11.

Embracing Compassion and Self-Discovery

17min

In this episode, Dr. Peter Malinoski guides Drew Boa through the process of unburdening sexual arousal using the internal family systems model (IFS). This type of healing experience can bring tremendous freedom from porn and unwanted sexual behavior.

Disclaimer: This is what we call a demo, which is short for a demonstration. Demos are a common way for IFS therapists to practice with each other and to show others what IFS is like. Demos are not therapy or counseling. In sharing this demo, we are not trying to teach people how to do IFS on themselves or others, but rather demonstrating what the IFS model can look like in action. Unburdening protocols are taught in formal IFS Level 1 training from the IFS Institute. IFS Level 1 training is required to do unburdening protocols and to be called an IFS therapist.

Clinical psychologist Dr. Peter Malinoski is president of Souls and Hearts and host of Interior Integration for Catholics, a podcast helping Catholics embrace their identities as beloved sons and daughters of God. Peter specifically addresses the topics of freedom from porn and masturbation in episodes 51-56 of his podcast. Contact Peter here.

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Unburdening Sexual Arousal (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Internal Conflict of Desire and Repulsion

Healing Journey and Switching with Parts

Unburdening and Transformation

Integration and Self-Love

Remember Everything You Learn from Podcasts