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How can technology help you connect, heal, and outgrow porn? In this episode, Chandler Rogers tells his story of finding freedom through connection with others (even online) and shares what he has learned from overseeing hundreds of online groups. You'll find out what you're missing out on if you track your sobriety without tracking your recovery—and what healthy, shame-free accountability looks like.Chandler Rogers is the CEO and co-founder of Relay, a group-based program to break free from the unhealthy system of addiction and find lasting freedom.Join Relay at joinrelay.app (App)Listen to Beyond Sexual Brokenness (Podcast)Download The Official Guide To Overcoming Pornography (PDF)Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

What exactly is arousal? Is it more than just sexual? In this episode, you'll learn the four types of arousal (uppers, downers, all-arounders, and deprivation) and how we use addiction to avoid intimacy ("into messy"). Along the way, you'll also find out why recovery is not a "don't touch your penis" program and how the skill of "tension holding" can transform your relationships. Great conversation!Chris Chandler (LMHC, LPCC, EMDR, CSAT-S) is a licensed therapist, coach, and Clinical Advisor at Relay Health. He is also the founder of Christian Recovery Groups LLC, a national program helping men and women heal from compulsive and addictive behaviors through faith, community, and neuroscience-informed recovery practices. Over the past 20 years, Chris has led thousands through individual and group recovery experiences. His mission is simple: to restore people to wholeness by integrating clinical insight with authentic, Spirit-filled community because true recovery happens in relationship.Schedule a 30-minute consultation with Chris here.Andrew Engstrom is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with Seattle Christian Counseling, where he helps individuals and couples heal by understanding themselves better first. Andrew is certified in MDFT (a holistic approach to counseling treatment) and uses PREPARE/ENRICH in pre-marital and marital counseling. He offers support and insight for overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of forming lasting, fulfilling relationships with others and God.Learn more and connect with Andrew here.See a preview of Chris and Andrew's intensives here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

How do you see yourself? Do you ever feel like a villain, like everything is your fault? Do you ever feel like a victim, overwhelmed and powerless to change your life? Do you ever feel like a hero, as if you have to succeed because the whole world is depending on you? Today, we’re talking about how to see yourself accurately and understand yourself better through three lenses: your villain story, your victim story, and your hero story. These categories are inspired by “The Karpman Drama Triangle” by Dr. Stephen B. Karpman. The original drama triangle describes common patterns in dysfunctional relationships. I’ve adapted it for the context of story work for men outgrowing porn.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

In this episode, Doug and Drew explain their powerful, unique approach to psychodrama: DIRECT. You'll learn how this powerful modality can help you experience deeper healing and freedom from porn.D.I.R.E.C.T. = Dynamic, Intuitive, Redemptive, Embodied, Communal Transformation.Come experience D.I.R.E.C.T. at a Husband Material Healing Weekend!  See all upcoming healing weekends and retreats at husbandmaterial.com/retreatJanuary Healing Weekend in Florida: 4 spots left. Apply here.March Healing Weekend in Utah : FULL.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dr. Doug Carpenter, a clinical psychologist and advocate for men's sexual education, sheds light on essential topics for adult men. He discusses the need for sex education in adulthood, addressing myths about low testosterone, prostate health, and sperm production. Doug contrasts the realities of sexual relationships with the portrayal of sex in porn, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding between partners. He also highlights the significance of mentorship and learning to foster healthier sexual experiences.

Discover ten empowering grounding techniques to manage triggers without resorting to porn. Learn vital breathing exercises, including diaphragmatic and Wim Hof methods, to calm your nervous system. Explore mindfulness through the 5-4-3-2-1 technique that hones your focus on the present. Engage with your emotions using befriending questions and creative expression to turn feelings into art. Movement and identity statements further support your journey, emphasizing the importance of community for effective co-regulation.

How does sex trafficking affect boys and men (not just girls and women) and what does healing look like? Hear Mike Chapman's incredible story. This episode is a taken from Mike's recent presentation, "Family-Controlled Sex Trafficking of Young Boys: One Survivor's Healing Journey" at the International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference.Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and family-controlled sex trafficking, and a survivor of sexual assault by clergy as a young adult. In his spiritual journey to recovery, Mike has had to battle anger, PTSD, anxiety, codependency, and addictive behaviors, including porn addiction. Mike is also a Full-Time Sign Language Interpreter and a Part-Time Santa Claus Portrayal Artist. He’s been happily married to his wife Beth for over 35 years, and they have 2 adult children – Lizzy and Mac. He and Beth live in Hubert, NC. Mike is currently a part-time Recovery Life Coach for both Polar Life Consulting and Husband Material. To find out more or to contact Mike, email him at PolarLifeConsulting@gmail.comCheck out Mike's own podcast:Healing for Male Survivors with Mike ChapmanJoin Mike and Drew at the next Husband Material Retreat at husbandmaterial.com/retreatSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dr. Anna Lembke, a leading expert in addiction and psychiatry, shares her personal journey of overcoming a romance-novel addiction. She discusses how digital media hijacks our brain's reward systems and leads to anhedonia, causing a lack of pleasure in life. Anna emphasizes the importance of dopamine fasting and self-binding strategies to reset our brain's dopamine levels. She also explores the concept of pro-social shame, revealing how honest sharing fosters recovery, and outlines the delicate balance between pleasure and pain in addiction.

Curious about sexual ethics? Discover three key principles: integrity, intimacy, and impact. Learn how to align your beliefs with your actions, prioritize your spouse's needs, and assess the emotional consequences of your choices. Drew emphasizes the importance of humility and seeking wise counsel while navigating sensitive topics. This conversation offers practical tools for making informed decisions about sexual behavior.

Jonathan Hernandez, a certified Husband Material coach and Connection Codes expert, dives deep into the world of sexualized emotions. He explores how loneliness during childhood led him to seek comfort in pornography, and explains the brain's dopamine response that ties emotions to sexual behaviors. By naming emotions aloud, he illustrates how to break this cycle and foster authentic connections. Hernandez also emphasizes the importance of emotional awareness and reframing sexual joy as a gift from God, redirecting it towards healthy relationships.