Liz Fosslien, author and workshop leader on emotional intelligence, dives into coping with intense feelings in the workplace. She debunks myths surrounding perfectionism, revealing how it hinders growth. The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing imperfection to foster connections. Liz also discusses emotional management, encouraging resilience in the face of uncertainty and comparing feelings like envy to personal values. Listeners gain practical tools to navigate their emotions, from reframing anxiety to improving communication.
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Negative Emotions
Everyone experiences "negative" emotions like envy or anger.
These emotions offer valuable data and are not inherently bad.
volunteer_activism ADVICE
Managing Uncertainty
Let go of the myth that perfect stability is attainable.
Recognize that anxiety about uncertainty doesn't predict actual risk.
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Electric Shock Study
In a study, participants with a 50% chance of an electric shock were more stressed than those with a 90% chance.
This highlights our strong aversion to uncertainty.
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Big Feelings offers an insightful and approachable guide to managing complex emotions. The book explores feelings such as uncertainty, comparison, anger, burnout, and perfectionism, providing practical strategies to turn overwhelming emotions into manageable ones. It combines surprising science with personal stories and original illustrations to help readers understand and navigate their emotions more effectively.
Chatter
The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It
Ethan Kross
In *Chatter*, Ethan Kross delves into the silent conversations we have with ourselves, examining how these internal dialogues shape our lives, work, and relationships. Kross, drawing from his own lab research and real-world case studies, explains how negative self-talk (referred to as 'chatter') can have detrimental effects on our health, mood, and social connections. However, he also provides tools and strategies to manage and harness this inner voice positively. These tools include techniques such as zooming out to gain perspective, using the second person to increase psychological distance, and leveraging the power of nature and placebos. The book is a comprehensive guide on how to transform negative self-talk into a constructive and supportive inner voice.
Liz Fosslien regularly leads interactive, scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging, help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Ted, The Economist, and NPR. She is also the co-author and illustrator of The Wall Street Journal bestseller, No Hard Feelings along with the book discussed in this episode, Big Feelings: How to Be Ok When Things Are Not Ok.
In this episode, Eric and Liz discuss really specific, practical ways to cope with various Big Feelings.
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