Liz Fosslien on How to Cope with Big Feelings

Apr 26, 2022

Liz Fosslien, author and workshop leader on emotional intelligence, dives into coping with intense feelings in the workplace. She debunks myths surrounding perfectionism, revealing how it hinders growth. The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing imperfection to foster connections. Liz also discusses emotional management, encouraging resilience in the face of uncertainty and comparing feelings like envy to personal values. Listeners gain practical tools to navigate their emotions, from reframing anxiety to improving communication.

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INSIGHT

Negative Emotions

Everyone experiences "negative" emotions like envy or anger.
These emotions offer valuable data and are not inherently bad.

ADVICE

Managing Uncertainty

Let go of the myth that perfect stability is attainable.
Recognize that anxiety about uncertainty doesn't predict actual risk.

ANECDOTE

Electric Shock Study

In a study, participants with a 50% chance of an electric shock were more stressed than those with a 90% chance.
This highlights our strong aversion to uncertainty.

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Liz Fosslien regularly leads interactive, scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging, help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Ted, The Economist, and NPR. She is also the co-author and illustrator of The Wall Street Journal bestseller, No Hard Feelings along with the book discussed in this episode, Big Feelings: How to Be Ok When Things Are Not Ok.

In this episode, Eric and Liz discuss really specific, practical ways to cope with various Big Feelings.

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Liz Fosslien and I Discuss How to Cope with Big Feelings and…

Her book, Big Feelings: How to Be Ok When Things Are Not Ok
The myths of Big Feelings
Myths about Uncertainty
Tools to help cope with Perfectionism
Emotions are often a response to stimuli we’re taking in and a result of our brain chemistry
How to stop “anxious fixing”
The helpful phrase “I’m a person learning to….”
How extreme language produces extreme emotions
Naming your inner perfectionist
Finding a non-perfectionist role model
The red flag of thinking “I’ll be happy when…”
How envy can reveal what you value, and then thinking about your willingness to live the life that leads to that
How to just make it through when you’re in the worst of it in life

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Liz Fosslien, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Embracing Emotions at Work with Liz Fosslien (2019)

Befriending Difficult Feelings with Adreanna Limbach

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