How to Feel Safe, Secure & At Peace | Stephen Porges, Ph.D. & Seth Porges
Oct 23, 2023
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Neuroscientist Stephen Porges and Seth Porges explore how our nervous system determines feelings of safety and connection in their podcast. They discuss the Polyvagal Theory, the role of the vagus nerve in social behavior, and strategies to create a sense of safety in an unsafe world. They also highlight the importance of shifting values, the impact of isolation, and the need for trusted social relationships. Ultimately, they emphasize the significance of feeling safe and secure for an easeful and joyful life.
Positive social interaction activates the Vegas nerve and enhances feelings of safety.
Polyvagal Theory emphasizes that our subjective perception of safety influences our overall health.
Chronic unsafety can lead to addiction, thus treatment requires creating safe environments and relationships.
Deep dives
The Importance of Positive Social Interaction for Feeling Safe
Positive social interaction is the most effective way to activate the Vegas nerve and make us feel safe and secure. When we engage in face-to-face conversations with people who make us feel safe, it activates the part of the Vegas nerve associated with feelings of safety. This creates a feedback loop where we become more expressive social beings, which further activates the Vegas and enhances our feelings of safety.
The Role of the Polyvagal Theory in Understanding Safety and Threat
Polyvagal Theory explains that how safe we feel, rather than the objective facts around us, is crucial to our overall health and well-being. It shows that our nervous system determines whether we are in a state of safety or threat, and this subjective perception influences our physiology and mental health. Factors like past experiences, social interactions, and evaluation can disrupt our autonomic nervous system, impairing homeostatic functions and making us feel unsafe.
The Connection Between Safety and Addiction
Chronic feelings of unsafety and dysregulation can lead to self-medication and addiction. The body seeks relief from the state of dysregulation and will do anything to achieve a temporary sense of normalcy. Addiction often co-occurs with trauma, as substances or behaviors that offer temporary regulation become addictive. Treating addiction requires addressing the underlying sense of unsafety and creating environments and relationships that promote feelings of safety.
The Importance of Broadcasting our Physiological State
Our physiological state, including our emotions and feelings of safety, is broadcasted through our voice and face. This enables mammals to communicate their state of homeostasis, allowing for social behavior and signaling whether it is safe to approach or not. For example, a mother's calming voice can soothe a crying baby, demonstrating the neuroception of safety signals. Our physiological state is wired through the vagus nerve, and we detect intonations and acoustic cues that signal safety. Understanding and prioritizing our own sense of safety and creating an autonomic echo chamber of safety is crucial for our well-being.
The Impact of Perception and Projection on Safety
Our physiological and psychological state affects our interactions and how we are perceived by others. When we feel unsafe, we may exhibit flat affect, monotone voice, and defensive behaviors. Conversely, when we feel safe, we become facially expressive, vocally expressive, and socially engaging. This affects the social dynamics and creates an autonomic echo chamber where feelings of safety or threat are projected to others. Understanding and prioritizing our own sense of safety, creating safe environments, and being aware of our physiological state can help break the cycle of unsafety and foster positive interactions.
Why do we sometimes feel unsafe or anxious for no reason? Neuroscientist Stephen Porges, Ph.D. shares how his groundbreaking polyvagal theory reveals the hidden workings of our nervous system. He and his son Seth Porges, explore in their new book Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, how subjective feelings of safety versus danger shape our health, happiness and ability to connect.
Learn how becoming "neuroception architects" adept at transmitting cues of safety through our voice, face and presence can override default survival circuits - helping us consciously create environments that nurture true security.