The One You Feed How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole
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Feb 4, 2025 
Terri Cole, a psychotherapist and author of "Too Much," dives into the challenges of breaking the people-pleasing cycle. She discusses the fine line between kindness and codependency, emphasizing the emotional toll of a 'peace at any cost' mentality. Terri offers practical strategies to set healthy boundaries and highlights the importance of self-awareness in fostering genuine relationships. Listeners learn to differentiate personal responsibility from people-pleasing, empowering them to nurture authentic connections.
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Tending to the Shadow
- We all have a shadow side, represented by the "bad wolf."
- We must tend to this shadow side without feeding it, acknowledging our flaws and triggers.
Resentment Inventory
- Conduct a resentment inventory to identify hidden resentments.
- Acknowledge your role in situations causing resentment, understanding it's a signal for needed attention.
Activation and Transference
- Recognize emotional activation and potential transference in interactions.
- Reflect on past experiences and relationships to understand amplified responses, using three guiding questions.