ADHD, Boundaries, Overwhelm, and Getting into Action with Julie Kliers
Oct 9, 2024
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Julie Kliers, an ADHD life coach from New York, shares her journey of self-discovery after being undiagnosed until age 46. She discusses the transformative power of diagnosis and challenges faced in navigating overwhelm and setting boundaries. Julie emphasizes the dangers of black-and-white thinking and how it leads to negative self-talk. By fostering intentionality in routines and embracing self-compassion, she provides practical strategies to help others get into action and unlock their unique strengths.
Receiving an ADHD diagnosis empowers individuals to redefine personal boundaries and pursue strategies tailored to their unique needs.
Recognizing and implementing boundaries can significantly reduce feelings of overwhelm while ensuring personal priorities are respected and maintained.
Deep dives
The Impact of ADHD Diagnosis
Receiving an ADHD diagnosis can significantly alter an individual's understanding of themselves and their capabilities. The diagnosis helps to define personal boundaries, allowing individuals to focus on effective strategies tailored to their needs instead of trying to fit neurotypical norms. This newfound clarity can alleviate feelings of overwhelm by eliminating ineffective methods and providing a clearer path toward achieving personal goals. Ultimately, understanding one's ADHD can lead to a profound transformation in relationships and everyday functioning, empowering individuals to pursue supportive practices.
Overcoming Overwhelm through Self-Awareness
Overwhelm is a common struggle for individuals with ADHD, often exacerbated by poor executive functioning skills such as organization and prioritization. People tend to place undue pressure on themselves, feeling as though they should achieve tasks in a certain timeframe or manner. Cultivating self-awareness helps to identify negative thought patterns that contribute to feelings of inadequacy and stress. Strategies such as breaking tasks into smaller steps and focusing on personal successes can help mitigate overwhelm and shift the mindset towards self-compassion.
Setting Boundaries for Enhanced Well-Being
Establishing boundaries is essential for individuals with ADHD to manage their energy and reduce feelings of overwhelm. Many people with ADHD struggle to recognize when their limits are being tested, often rationalizing external pressures instead of prioritizing their well-being. Understanding that saying 'yes' to outside commitments means saying 'no' to personal priorities can help reframe decision-making processes. Practicing boundary-setting in safe and kind ways allows individuals to maintain their energy and focus, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and manageable life.
In today's episode, we're joined by Julie Kliers. Going undiagnosed until age 46 and not wanting to see her sons repeat her own struggles, Julie embarked on a crusade to learn all she could about ADHD, and became the person she needed. Now, she helps adults and students with ADHD embrace their unique and unlock their full potential!
Julie talks to us about the power of diagnosis, overwhelm, and boundaries. We discuss the ADHD trap of thinking we should be doing things in a neurotypical way and then beating ourselves up when we can’t, how executive function challenges lead to overwhelm, the struggle of black-and-white thinking, and ways to get into action.