The “Lifequake” Survival Guide | Bruce Feiler

Sep 14, 2020

Bruce Feiler, bestselling author of *Life Is in the Transitions*, shares insights into navigating major life changes, or 'lifequakes,' like divorce and job loss. He emphasizes these upheavals are natural and offers seven practical tools for coping. Feiler discusses his personal experiences with transitions, the idea of resilience that irks him, and how life isn't a straight path but filled with nonlinear twists. He encourages embracing these moments as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

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Bruce's Lifequake

Bruce Feiler's lifequake involved cancer, the recession, and his father's suicide attempts.
This led him to explore how people deal with wrenching life changes, which he calls "lifequakes."

INSIGHT

Nonlinear Life

The linear life, with one home, job, and relationship, is over.
It's replaced by a nonlinear life with more transitions, requiring new skills.

INSIGHT

Lifequakes vs. Disruptors

Lifequakes are high-impact changes with lasting effects, different from smaller disruptors.
Everyone experiences the same lifequake differently, leading to unique transitions.

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We have another themed week for you, with two episodes about how to navigate major life changes-- clearly a resonant theme, given the various dumpster fires that are raging in our world right now. Coming up on Wednesday, we’re going to get a deep dharma take on this subject, but today, we’ve got a guest who takes a more journalistic/scientific approach. His name is Bruce Feiler. He has a new, bestselling book called Life Is In the Transitions. In it, he offers seven tools for navigating what he calls “lifequakes,” which can range from divorce to job loss to addiction. Bruce has written a series of bestselling books, including Walking the Bible, and Council of Dads, which became a TV show on NBC. He didn’t mean for this new book on transitions to come out during a pandemic, but the timing is perversely perfect. In this conversation, we talk about: the events in his own life that got him interested in this subject; why “lifequakes” are a feature, not a bug; and why the word “resilience” makes Bruce grumpy. Where to find Bruce Feiler online: Website: https://www.brucefeiler.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/brucefeiler Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BruceFeilerAuthor/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brucefeiler/ Book Mentioned: Life Is in the Transitions by Bruce Feiler: https://www.brucefeiler.com/books-articles/life-is-in-the-transitions/ Other Resources Mentioned: Jean Piaget's Theory and Stages of Cognitive Development: https://www.simplypsychology.org/piaget.html Freud's Psychosexual Stages of Development: https://www.simplypsychology.org/psychosexual.html Erik Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development: https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html Daniel Levinson on Midlife Crisis: https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/5e75/2a77fb59cc48e9eea4b1ef4c53056b0f140e.pdf Elliot Jock on Midlife Crisis: https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-2003-mar-23-me-jacques23-story.html The Rites of Passage by Arnold van Gennep: https://books.google.com/books/about/The_Rites_of_Passage.html?id=kJpkBH7mB7oC William James: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/james/ Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/bruce-feiler-282