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Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

88 - Why healthy relationships feel boring

Apr 30, 2023
Sarah Murphy, biology of trauma expert, discusses the biology of attraction, why we attract the same type of people, and why stable relationships can feel boring. They also explore the concept of the 'ick' in relationships, the connection between the nervous system and relationships, and the importance of therapy and supplements for mental health.
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Quick takeaways

  • Childhood experiences and attachment styles influence our attractions and relationships through our nervous system and biochemistry.
  • Dopamine plays a crucial role in creating intense feelings of attraction and attachment, driven by our body's biochemistry.

Deep dives

Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma on Attraction and Relationships

This episode delves into how our childhood experiences and attachment styles impact our attractions and relationships. It explains that our nervous system and biochemistry play a significant role in who we are attracted to and why. The concept of baseline stress hormones is introduced, highlighting how dysregulated nervous systems seek out familiar, even if toxic, patterns. The episode emphasizes the importance of awareness, therapy, somatic practices, and nutritious supplementation to regulate our nervous system and create healthier patterns of attraction and attachment.

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