Engaging in constant comparisons, particularly fueled by social media, can lead to feeling worse about ourselves.
Making upward comparisons can provide inspiration for self-improvement, while downward comparisons do not lead to meaningful personal growth.
Deep dives
The Influence of Comparison on Happiness
Comparison is increasingly prevalent and addictive in modern society. Many people engage in constant comparisons, particularly fueled by social media. The more we compare ourselves, the worse we feel about ourselves. Contrary to popular advice to spend less time on social media, this is often difficult to implement. To address this issue, it is important to understand why comparison feels addictive, why we engage in it, and how to compare less.
The Two Types of Comparisons - Upward and Downward
According to social comparison theory, we make two types of comparisons: upward and downward. Upward comparisons involve looking at those who are better than us in some way. These comparisons can be helpful in providing inspiration for self-improvement. Downward comparisons, on the other hand, involve comparing ourselves to individuals we perceive as inferior. While they may temporarily boost our self-esteem, they do not lead to meaningful personal growth.
Understanding the Mechanisms of Comparison
Our brain is wired to compare ourselves with others who we perceive to be in our 'league.' However, with the rise of social media, we now have access to the personal lives of individuals we would not usually compare ourselves to. This creates unfair comparisons, as we base our judgments on carefully crafted online personas. To combat comparison, it is essential to question the fairness of our comparisons and address the negative emotions fueling them, as they are often products of ego-driven defense mechanisms.