

Brené on Places We Go When the Heart Is Open from Atlas of the Heart
Feb 14, 2022
This delightful bonus segment dives into the emotional landscape of love, heartbreak, and personal reconnections. It reveals the complexities of love and betrayal, highlighting the pivotal role of trust in relationships. The discussion also addresses how defensiveness and flooding can hinder effective communication. Additionally, it sheds light on the nuances of emotional hurt, emphasizing the courage required to confront pain and the importance of expressing emotional experiences authentically. A heartfelt exploration to inspire self-discovery and deeper connections!
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Intro
00:00 • 4min
The Complexities of Love and Betrayal
04:02 • 22min
Understanding Defensiveness and the Impact of Flooding in Communication
26:18 • 5min
Understanding the Complexity of Emotional Hurt
30:59 • 5min
Understanding the Nuances of Hurt Feelings
35:53 • 3min

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We’re celebrating the audiobook release of Atlas of the Heart with a bonus Unlocking Us episode! The excerpt in this episode is from chapter 10, titled “Places We Go When the Heart Is Open.” We’re talking about love, lovelessness, and heartbreak. I’m excited to give you a first listen here, and I’m grateful that we’re learning and working to reconnect with ourselves and with each other, together.
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