Hidden Brain No Hard Feelings
Feb 3, 2025
Fred Luskin, a psychologist at Stanford University and director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, dives into the heavy burden of grudges. He discusses how holding onto resentments harms our mental and physical well-being more than the individuals we harbor grudges against. Luskin shares insights on the emotional weight of betrayal and rejection, and highlights the transformative power of forgiveness. He emphasizes personal growth through processing feelings, reframing perspectives, and embracing healthier relationships for a liberated emotional state.
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Debbie's Infidelity Trauma
- Debbie's husband repeatedly cheated, causing immense pain and dominating her thoughts.
- She struggled to move on, her failed marriage becoming a core part of her identity.
Jill's Maternal Resentment
- Jill harbored resentment towards her deceased mother for perceived lack of love and affection.
- This unresolved grievance fueled feelings of inadequacy and invisibility.
Luskin's Ghosted Experience
- Fred Luskin's close friend, Sam, abruptly ended their friendship, leaving Luskin feeling betrayed and depressed.
- Luskin's wife noticed his negative behavior change, remarking, "I still love you. I just don't like you as much."
