The Anxious Achiever Is People Pleasing Hurting Your Career?
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Jul 3, 2024 
Therapist and author Kathleen Smith discusses how people-pleasing behaviors at work are influenced by relationships, family systems, and individual tendencies. She explores breaking out of people-pleasing patterns and transitioning to healthier professional relationships. The podcast delves into understanding systems, navigating relationship dynamics, seeking praise, embracing uncertainty, and exploring constructive questioning for personal growth.
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People-Pleasing as Systemic Issue
- People-pleasing is not just an individual trait but part of systemic relationship patterns.
- Understanding family systems theory helps explain and break out of these people-pleasing traps.
Change Starts With Self-Management
- Change by managing your own anxiety can alter toxic workplace systems.
- For example, avoid gossip and address issues directly to reduce system anxiety.
Relationship Orientation Drains Self
- Relationship orientation means focusing intensely on others to manage yourself.
- This drains energy for self-discovery and can fuel people-pleasing behavior.