On Purpose with Jay Shetty Jay’s Must-Listens: Are You Still Holding Onto Childhood Trauma? (Follow 3 Steps & FINALLY Heal) Ft. Gabor Mate & Oprah Winfrey
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Oct 1, 2025 
Dr. Gabor Maté, a physician known for his work on addiction and trauma, shares how childhood experiences impact adulthood, stressing the cost of suppressing the true self. Oprah Winfrey emphasizes the importance of reframing our narratives, encouraging a shift from 'What's wrong with you?' to 'What happened to you?' Dr. Bruce Perry adds scientific insight into how early life shapes behavior. Together, they explore the significance of understanding hidden traumas and the journey toward healing through awareness and empathy.
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Cost Of Hiding Your True Self
- Suppressing your true self to survive childhood creates chronic pain that can manifest as illness or addiction later in life.
- Choosing the short-term pain of authenticity often leads to liberation and healthier relationships.
Familiar Pain Vs. Growth
- Familiar pain often feels safer, so people repeat painful patterns rather than risk unfamiliar pain from change.
- Individuation means being yourself in genuine connection, not rugged isolation, which supports growth and belonging.
Stop Ranking People's Trauma
- Avoid comparing traumas; each wound requires tending based on its impact, not its rank.
- Meet people's pain with validation rather than minimization to help healing begin.
