Gabrielle Bernstein ON: Childhood Trauma & Why You Must Be the One to Heal Yourself From the Inside Out
Jun 27, 2022
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Gabrielle Bernstein, a #1 New York Times bestselling author and frequent Oprah collaborator, delves into the impact of childhood trauma on our happiness. She emphasizes the protective self that hinders personal growth and healing. The conversation highlights the transformative power of vulnerability, the importance of nurturing our inner selves, and how unresolved trauma affects our joy. Listeners are encouraged to embrace self-love and explore various healing methods, ultimately urging them to take charge of their emotional well-being.
Recognizing and addressing trauma is essential for personal growth and inner peace.
Practicing presence without judgment or distraction leads to deeper happiness and fulfillment in life.
Nurturing oneself and creating a secure attachment with the internal parent is crucial for healing and transformation.
Deep dives
The Importance of Facing Trauma
The podcast episode explores the significance of acknowledging and addressing trauma in our lives. Trauma, whether big or small, affects us all and can manifest in various behaviors such as addiction, control, and dissociation. The episode emphasizes the need to recognize and heal from these experiences rather than avoiding or suppressing them. By gradually peeling back the layers of trauma and working with the different parts of ourselves, we can create a safe space to heal and move towards profound freedom and inner peace.
The Power of Being Present
The conversation delves into the concept of presence and its importance in finding happiness. Being fully present in the moment, without judgment or distraction, allows for a deeper experience of life. The guest, Gabby Bernstein, shares her journey of learning to be present and how it has transformed her life. The episode also highlights the role of mindfulness practices and self-reflection in cultivating a greater sense of presence and learning to fully take in each moment.
Becoming Your Own Internal Parent
The podcast episode discusses the significance of becoming your own internal parent and nurturing yourself through the healing process. It explores the Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy approach, which involves understanding and softening the protective parts of ourselves while allowing the undamaged resource of self to take the lead. By creating a secure attachment with oneself and acknowledging and soothing the needs of our protector parts, we can gradually access and heal the exiled parts within us. The episode emphasizes the journey of self-love and acceptance as a means to profound personal growth and transformation.
The Importance of Healing Trauma
Healing trauma is essential to avoid carrying it into various aspects of life. It becomes increasingly challenging as trauma becomes intertwined with other people's trauma, making it difficult to differentiate between one's own and collective trauma. Addressing trauma at an early stage promotes better mental and emotional health. Communicating with others about personal struggles and seeking support is crucial, even for smaller issues. Sharing screenshots and pictures from books like 'Happy Days' can help individuals start the healing process and reduce shame around their experiences.
The Connection Between Physical Symptoms and Unresolved Trauma
The body often displays physical symptoms that are connected to unresolved trauma. Conditions such as gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, panic attacks, and depression can be manifestations of underlying emotional or psychological problems. Traditional approaches may not resolve these issues, as they require a deeper exploration of trauma. Understanding the mind-body connection and utilizing therapeutic techniques like EMDR and somatic experiencing can help individuals relax their nervous systems, promote healing, and establish secure attachments. Building a toolbox of self-regulating techniques while celebrating every step of the healing journey is essential.
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Jay Shetty sits down with Gabrielle Bernstein to talk about how past trauma affects our daily life. Within us is our protector self, that part of us that takes over when we face fear, danger, sadness, longing, and feel hurt. And our protective self can sometimes stop us from taking chances, from taking risks. It can possibly hinder our growth and healing. Let’s tap into this inner version of us and make peace with our wounded self.
Gabrielle Bernstein is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor, and has written six additional bestsellers including her latest book, Super Attractor. Gabrielle was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader,” and The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabby to be part of the “SuperSoul 100,” a dynamic group of 100 trailblazers whose vision and life’s work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world. The New York Times identified her as “a new role model.”
