#457 - Logan Ury - Hinge's Relationship Scientist Gives Dating Advice

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Apr 7, 2022

Logan Ury, behavioral scientist and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, shares valuable insights on modern dating. She discusses why an intentional approach can seem off-putting yet is crucial for success. Ury explains the importance of emotional connections over superficial sparks and how to craft an engaging dating profile. She also highlights key strategies for navigating relationships, including understanding when to settle down and overcoming heartbreak, while emphasizing mental health's significant role in dating.

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ANECDOTE

Dream Job

Logan Ury found an old email where she tried to network with someone at OKCupid, expressing her desire to work there.
Ten years later, she's now Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, highlighting that career paths aren't always straightforward.

INSIGHT

Mental Health in Dating

Talking about mental health in dating has become increasingly important, shifting from a stigma to a must-have.
Hinge's research shows that people are more likely to go on a second date with someone who mentions being in therapy.

ADVICE

Gen Z and Dating Advice

Gen Z relies too heavily on friends for dating advice, hindering their ability to develop personal feelings and intuition.
Friends should be supportive cheerleaders, not relationship coaches dictating decisions.

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