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Mentioned in 18 episodes

She comes first

the thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman

Book • 2004

She Comes First is an essential guidebook to oral sex, offering a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women.

Written by sex therapist Ian Kerner, the book details dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman.

It includes a detailed anatomy lesson, step-by-step instructions, and practical tips to improve sexual satisfaction.

Kerner argues that oral sex is not just foreplay but a crucial part of the entire arousal process, making it a vital component of sexual relationships.

Mentioned by

Stefania Spampinato

Jolene Brighten

Jessica Capshaw

Alisa DiLorenzo

Mentioned in 18 episodes

Recommended as a resource with diagrams, tips, and tricks for performing male to female oral sex.

#371 – Women's sexual health: desire, arousal, and orgasms, navigating perimenopause, and enhancing satisfaction | Sally Greenwald, M.D., M.P.H.

Recommended by Dr. Rena Malik as a how-to guide focusing on clitoral stimulation.

A Woman's Sexual Desire - How To Last Longer In Bed, Increase Penis Size & Master Seduction | Dr. Rena Malik PT 1

Mentioned by Dr.

Emily Morse

when discussing how to understand one's own arousal and desire.

The Ultimate Guide to Having Better Sex

Mentioned by Steve as the book he left out when the crew came over to his house.

Ep 594 - Gooniverse (feat. Steve Gerben & Billy)

Mentioned by

Jolene Brighten

as a great book for men to read on how to give pleasure.

Let’s Talk About Sex

Recommended by

Dave Asprey

as a helpful book about prioritizing female pleasure in sexual relationships.

Meditation: The Ultimate Biohack for a Longer Life | Dave Asprey | Align Podcast #544

Mentioned by

Jon Vroman

as a book that provides a framework for transforming relationships.

The Legendary Couples Blueprint: 4 Pillars for a Thriving Marriage

Mentioned by Dr. Rena Malik as a New York Times bestselling book.

Sex therapist Reveals the Uncomfortable Reason Your Sex Life Sucks ft. Ian Kerner

Mentioned by

Jolene Brighten

when talking about what Dr. Ian Kerner coined as clitorate, where he actually wrote a book and he encouraged men to start with oral sex.

The Orgasm Gap [Luminescence Podcast]

Mentioned by

Jessica Capshaw

and

Stefania Spampinato

during their discussion on female sexuality.

Call It with Stefania Spampinato

Mentioned by Dr. Rena Malik as a popular book offering demonstrations on how to give oral sex.

Porn Sex vs. Real Sex: Why Watching Real Sex Can Help! ft. Cindy Gallop

Mentioned by

Emily Morse

as a book that had its 20-year anniversary.

1070 Create Intimacy & Upgrade Your Sex Life w/Dr. Emily Morse

Recommended by

Laurie Mintz

as a how-to manual for men.

#1108 Laurie Mintz - Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It

Recommended by

Emily Morse

as a great book about pleasing a woman and going down on her.

Hotline Calls: Unlock Your Best Orgasm Yet

Mentioned by Dr. Rena Malik as the book that introduced her to

Ian Kerner

and his work on female pleasure.

Moment: Sex Therapist's #1 Rule: Create This Environment or Your Sex Life Will Fail ft Dr. Ian Kerner

Mentioned by

Ari Tuckman

when discussing windows of willingness in sexual relationships.

289 | Sex, Intimacy and ADHD with Ari Tuckman

Mentioned by

Emily Morse

as a helpful resource for understanding sex and relationships.

Lasting Longer & Low Libido

Mentioned by

Laurie Mintz

as a guide to oral sex, particularly helpful for men with premature ejaculation issues.

032 Becoming Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz

Mentioned by

Tony DeLorenzo

as a book that profoundly impacted him in becoming a servant lover.

876: What Kind of Lover Am I?

Recommended by

Alisa DiLorenzo

as one of four books every couple should have for understanding sexual intimacy.

801: IT'S TAKING TOO LONG TO ORGASM

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