

#1709
Mentioned in 15 episodes
She comes first
the thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman
Book • 2004
She Comes First is an essential guidebook to oral sex, offering a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women.
Written by sex therapist Ian Kerner, the book details dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman.
It includes a detailed anatomy lesson, step-by-step instructions, and practical tips to improve sexual satisfaction.
Kerner argues that oral sex is not just foreplay but a crucial part of the entire arousal process, making it a vital component of sexual relationships.
Written by sex therapist Ian Kerner, the book details dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman.
It includes a detailed anatomy lesson, step-by-step instructions, and practical tips to improve sexual satisfaction.
Kerner argues that oral sex is not just foreplay but a crucial part of the entire arousal process, making it a vital component of sexual relationships.
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Mentioned in 15 episodes
Mentioned by 

in relation to a discussion about sex therapy.


Tami Simon

100 snips
Emily Nagoski, PhD: Pleasure Is the Measure: How to Have Sex You Enjoy
Recommended by Dr. Rena Malik as a how-to guide focusing on clitoral stimulation.

50 snips
A Woman's Sexual Desire - How To Last Longer In Bed, Increase Penis Size & Master Seduction | Dr. Rena Malik PT 1
Mentioned by Dr. 

when discussing how to understand one's own arousal and desire.


Emily Morse

34 snips
The Ultimate Guide to Having Better Sex
Mentioned by ![undefined]()

as a great book for men to read on how to give pleasure.

Jolene Brighten

25 snips
Let’s Talk About Sex
Recommended by 

as a helpful book about prioritizing female pleasure in sexual relationships.


Dave Asprey

15 snips
Meditation: The Ultimate Biohack for a Longer Life | Dave Asprey | Align Podcast #544
Mentioned by ![undefined]()

as a book that provides a framework for transforming relationships.

Jon Vroman

13 snips
The Legendary Couples Blueprint: 4 Pillars for a Thriving Marriage
Mentioned by Dr. Rena Malik as a New York Times bestselling book.

12 snips
Sex therapist Reveals the Uncomfortable Reason Your Sex Life Sucks ft. Ian Kerner
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and 

during their discussion on female sexuality.

Jessica Capshaw


Stefania Spampinato

Call It with Stefania Spampinato
Mentioned by Dr. Rena Malik as a popular book offering demonstrations on how to give oral sex.

Porn Sex vs. Real Sex: Why Watching Real Sex Can Help! ft. Cindy Gallop
Mentioned by 

as a book that had its 20-year anniversary.


Emily Morse

1070 Create Intimacy & Upgrade Your Sex Life w/Dr. Emily Morse
Recommended by ![undefined]()

as a how-to manual for men.

Laurie Mintz

#1108 Laurie Mintz - Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It
Mentioned by 

when discussing windows of willingness in sexual relationships.


Ari Tuckman

289 | Sex, Intimacy and ADHD with Ari Tuckman
Mentioned by 

as a helpful resource for understanding sex and relationships.


Emily Morse

Lasting Longer & Low Libido
Recommended by 

as a great book about pleasing a woman and going down on her.


Emily Morse

Hotline Calls: Unlock Your Best Orgasm Yet
Mentioned by ![undefined]()

as a guide to oral sex, particularly helpful for men with premature ejaculation issues.

Laurie Mintz

032 Becoming Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz
Mentioned by ![undefined]()

when discussing books that have impacted her views on sex and relationships.

Rayna Greenberg

BJ Tips, Anal, and Uncircumcised Guys feat. Shaun Galanos
Mentioned by 

as a popular book on female pleasure, specifically achieved through oral sex.


Amanda Lauder

Episode 304 - Female-Centric Sex
Mentioned by ![undefined]()

as her personal favorite book written by the episode's guest, ![undefined]()

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Candice Horbacz

Ian Kerner

Why 98% of Men Climax But Only 60% of Women Do | Ian Kerner