Bare Marriage

Dr. Andrew Bauman, a licensed therapist and expert on men's sexuality, joins the discussion to unpack the complexities of how church environments can stifle sexual expression. He shares insights from his book, 'Safe Church,' revealing the damaging effects of purity culture and systemic sexism in faith communities. Listeners hear compelling personal stories that highlight the need for accountability and open conversations about intimacy and mutual respect. The episode challenges the blame placed on women and advocates for healthier relationships, sexual autonomy, and healing.

Recent studies reveal intriguing insights into why men cheat, linking infidelity to sexism and power dynamics rather than sexual frequency. The discussion challenges traditional gender roles within evangelicalism and highlights the complexities of benevolent sexism. It emphasizes the importance of egalitarian relationships for emotional connection and lower rates of infidelity. By rethinking men's perspectives on intimacy and marriage, the conversation encourages vulnerability and mutual support, presenting a path to healthier partnerships.

Send us a textIt's an Ask Me Anything episode! Keith and I open talking about the viral video where a woman claims that she felt called by God to iron her husband's clothes before he left for the weekend to be with his mistress. And then Rebecca and I answer your questions about drawing boundaries, dating, protecting kids from abuse in church, and more!OUR SPONSOR:Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:Our book She Deserves BetterOur new book The Marriage You WantLast week's podcast on rumination and our one-sheet download for The Love DareJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

The discussion critically examines the popular book The Love Dare, arguing it perpetuates harmful marriage myths. It highlights how reliance on unrealistic advice can blind couples to deeper issues, particularly in abusive situations. The hosts advocate for open communication and accountability instead of superficial solutions. They explore the complexity of selfishness and the dangers of misinterpreting intentions in relationships. Emphasizing the need for genuine intimacy and self-reflection, they encourage couples to seek healthier guidance in their marriage.

Aimee Byrd, an author and speaker known for her insights on theology and culture, joins the conversation to explore the need for vulnerability and authenticity in building true community. They discuss personal struggles within conservative faith contexts and the importance of emotional connections over rigid doctrines. Aimee highlights women's roles in spiritual education, calling for genuine relationships that promote growth and healing. The dialogue reflects on navigating faith after harmful experiences and finding connections beyond traditional church boundaries.

The discussion dives deep into why evangelical women are turning away from marrying men within their faith. It highlights the disconnect between expectations and realities in conservative spaces, emphasizing women's newfound independence and desire for equality in relationships. The speakers critique traditional marriage teachings, revealing how societal and economic factors shape women’s perspectives, pushing them to prioritize personal happiness over conventional roles. There’s also a focus on the changing gender dynamics and the evolving ideals of partnership.

The podcast dives into the misconception that men are logical while women are emotional, revealing a more nuanced truth about emotional maturity. The hosts discuss the critical role of emotional intimacy and balance in relationships, challenging outdated stereotypes. They emphasize the importance of vulnerability and communication, advocating for shared emotional responsibilities. Historical insights on women's roles in the church and the need for egalitarian partnerships are also explored, promoting mutual respect and deeper connections in marriages.

The hosts delve into the controversial comparison between romance novels and porn, questioning societal biases against women’s reading choices. They discuss the implications of both genres on sexuality, addressing issues of objectification and the importance of consent. The conversation touches on the distinct ways media presents female pleasure, advocating for realistic portrayals of women's desires. Humor and personal anecdotes pepper the discussion, highlighting the need for open conversations about relationships, intimacy, and the complexities of female sexual understanding.

Beth Allison Barr, a professor at Baylor University and author of "Becoming the Pastor's Wife," explores the often-overlooked historical contributions of women in ministry. She critiques the limits imposed by traditional church roles and champions a shift towards egalitarian views. Discussing the evolution of women's leadership, she highlights figures like Milberga from early Christianity. The conversation also touches on the complexities of current church dynamics and advocates for acknowledging women’s voices and experiences in faith communities.

A groundbreaking new book aims to reshape evangelical marriage through evidence-based insights. The discussion critiques stagnant marriage literature and challenges traditional gender roles, promoting equality and shared responsibilities. Emphasis is placed on effective communication, tackling tough conversations, and modern realities like internet pornography. The hosts advocate for updated, research-backed advice that resonates with contemporary couples and celebrate grassroots efforts to spread their innovative message.