Not Alone

In this solo episode of Not Alone, Valeria takes listeners on a journey through her past and present, from celebrating her 35th birthday and Rosh Hashanah with family, to reflecting on the early days of her modeling career in Paris and Japan. She opens up about the lessons learned from those formative years, from living in cramped model apartments to finding her voice and standing up for herself in an often unforgiving industry. Valeria also shares how she’s been reconnecting with joy and confidence lately, discovering new passions like dance, heels classes, and even a few unexpected finds (like smut & Quinn). It’s a nostalgic, funny, and refreshingly honest episode about growth, self-expression, and feeling empowered at every stage of life. Shop my looks from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2723615 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  What I talked about:  0:30 - Start of the episode 1:00 - The decision to throw a birthday party 3:20 - The family birthday dinner 4:00 - Rosh Hashanah & family traditions 5:50 - Early modeling days in Paris 8:13 - The hard lessons learned 11:25 - Living in a model apartment 13:15 - Standing up for herself and others 16:00 - Living in Japan & enjoying life 17:06 - Being part of the golden era of modeling 18:11 - Discovering smut & spreading the word 21:00 - Stumbling upon Quinn & loving it 22:20 - Taking a heels class 24:50 - Dancing in the Russian culture 25:59 - Feeling herself & learning new things Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by Floatley - A bra brand offering feel-good basics that combine cloud-like comfort with reliable support. Try our bestselling Cozy Adjustable Bra at https://www.floatley.com/products/cozy-adjustable and get 20% off your order with code VALERIA20, plus free shipping on US orders over $50. In this revealing episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with an OG digital creator, entrepreneur and mom Brittany Xavier, for an honest conversation about faith, motherhood, and staying grounded in a rapidly changing online world. Brittany opens up about her early start on social media, the business behind her brand, and the journey from being a young single mother to one of the most recognizable figures in the influencer space. She shares how trusting in God’s plan guided her through life’s biggest turning points, from choosing to keep her baby and balancing school, work, and motherhood, to navigating a difficult custody battle and ultimately finding her voice through content creation. Together, Valeria and Brittany explore what it means to live authentically online, the lessons she’s passed down to her daughter about social media and technology, and how her family’s move from California to Tennessee brought both public scrutiny and peace. It’s a conversation about growth, resilience, and choosing faith and family over everything, and a reminder that the most powerful influence comes from being true to who you are. 📱Follow Brittany: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittanyxavier/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brittany.xavier?lang=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/brittanyxavier Website: https://brittanyxavier.com/ Brittany’s Book Recommendations: The Case for Christ: A Journalist's Personal Investigation of the Evidence for Jesus: https://amzn.to/4o4sZ4B I Don't Have Enough Faith to Be an Atheist: https://amzn.to/4ob6B9S Shop my looks from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2702040 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  What we talked about:  0:29 - Valeria’s upcoming trip to Peru 0:47 - Introducing Brittany Xavier 2:12 - Start of interview 2:45 - Brittany’s start on social media 4:39 - The business behind the posts 6:33 - Brittany’s early motherhood days 7:30 - The decision to keep her baby 13:02 - Being a young mother 15:06 - Floatley Ad 16:15 - Balancing school, work and motherhood 18:42 - The decision not to pursue law school 20:42 - Trusting her faith in God and his plan for her 22:25 - Her custody battle 23:14 - Signs from God 24:33 - Her community 25:26 - Her daughter and social media 27:25 - Children and technology 28:22 - Teaching her daughter the business side of TikTok 29:31 - Brittany’s shift in content  32:16 - The shifting of priorities 33:52 - The decision to leave California 36:26 - Backlash on their move to Tennessee 39:49 - Dealing with the online hate 43:36 - Being her most authentic self online 48:13 - Bringing faith to the forefront  49:50 - Brittany’s book recommendations 52:22 - Her biggest regret Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by Natural Cycles: The company changing the contraception game with the world’s first FDA-cleared birth control app. Whether you're looking to prevent pregnancy or plan for it, the Natural Cycles app offers a non-hormonal, non-invasive alternative to traditional birth control. Right now, you can get 15% off an annual subscription plus a freeBluetooth thermometer when you visit https://www.naturalcycles.com and use promo code VALERIA at checkout. Natural Cycles is for 18+ and does not protect against STIs. Always read and follow the instructions for use. In this episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with Dr. Elina Berglund Scherwitzl, a former particle physicist turned femtech innovator, and the co-founder of Natural Cycles, the first FDA-cleared birth control app. Together, they dive into how Dr. Elina’s background in physics led her to develop a groundbreaking algorithm that helps women better understand their bodies, and offers a hormone-free alternative to traditional birth control. The conversation explores everything from the skepticism she faced in disrupting a multi-billion-dollar industry, to how data and wearable technology are transforming women’s health. Valeria and Dr. Elina discuss the phases of the female cycle, the negative effects of hormonal birth control, and the importance of empowering women with better education and tools for their reproductive health. They also touch on the future of personalized medicine, male contraception, and the potential of syncing our lives more intentionally with our bodies. 📱Follow Dr. Elina: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elinascherwitzl/?hl=en About Natural Cycles: Website: https://www.naturalcycles.com/ Dr. Elina’s Book Recommendation: This Is Your Brain on Birth Control Shop my looks from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2638644 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  What we talked about:  0:19 - Halloween at the Lipovetsky’s house 1:20 - Introducing Dr. Elina Berglund Scherwitzle 2:42 - Start of interview 4:00 - Dr. Elina’s background as a physicist  5:13 - Starting Natural Cycles 7:00 - Creating an algorithm as a birth control method 9:00 - Skepticism about disrupting the birth control industry  12:50 - Explaining how Natural Cycles work 13:35 - How the algorithm works 14:39 - Effectiveness is the same as hormonal birth control 17:17 - Negative effects of hormonal birth control 19:00 - Perimenopause  21:00 - Changing sex ed 22:22 - Thoughts on male contraception 24:20 - Breaking down the phases of female cycles 26:15 - Monthly fertile window 27:40 - Women with Irregular cycles using Natural Cycles 29:00 - Getting Natural Cycles data to doctors 30:15 - Wearable technology 31:20 - Working with her husband 32:55 - The future of women’s health 36:53 - Can women sync their cycles? 37:20 - Users questions and comments 40:13 - Dr. Elina’s Book Recommendation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by Vuori: Versatile athletic and performance clothing. Head to https://vuori.com/notalone for 20% off your first purchase, plus free shipping on US orders over $75. This episode is brought to you by Floatley - A bra brand offering feel-good basics that combine cloud-like comfort with reliable support. Try our bestselling Cozy Adjustable Bra at https://www.floatley.com/products/cozy-adjustable and get 20% off your order with code VALERIA20, plus free shipping on US orders over $50. In this heartfelt episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with her husband Gary for an intimate and honest conversation about family life, parenting, and the values that shape their home. Together, they open up about raising their three boys and reflect on how their approach to parenting has evolved over the years. From Gary’s “clairvoyant” instincts about their kids’ genders to navigating the early days of parenthood and finding patience along the way, the couple shares stories that are both funny and deeply touching. They discuss teaching their sons critical thinking in the digital age, the importance of leading by example, and how they stay intentional about what they allow into their home. With moments of laughter, reflection, and even tears, Valeria and Gary discuss what kind of parents they want to be for their boys, and why, in the Lipovetsky household, accountability, integrity, and love are always at the core. Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2558840 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  Books I Mentioned: The Sovereign Child - https://www.amazon.com/Sovereign-Child-Forgotten-Philosophy-Liberate/dp/1544547978 What we talked about:  0:20 - Valeria sets up episode with Gary on raising boys 2:48 - Gary and Valeria start chatting 3:04 - Gary noticing their kids seem smarter 3:58 - Max’s magical birth  4:55 - Finding out the gender of their babies 5:07 - Gary’s clairvoyancy with Jake 6:33 - Max’s gender reveal story 8:46 - Valeria’s mother wanting a girl   9:43 - Experiencing no gender disappointment 10:16 - Honeymoon stage with the boys now 11:52 - Valeria thinking Gary’s takes the lead on parenting 13:08 - Vuori Ad 14:05 - Floatley Ad 17:09 - Finding your parenting style 17:27 - Gary’s motivation when it comes to the kids 20:52 - Not limiting access to the internet, teaching critical thinking 23:46 - “The Sovereign Child” Book 24:45 - Regretting lack of patience with the first child 27:12 - The different relationships with each child 28:25 - Valeria wanting to see more role model dads 30:14 - Lipovetsky core family values  31:16 - Most repeated phrase in the household - “that’s not fair” 35:37 - External validation is very short-lived & won’t make you happy 37:29 - What the boys will say about their dad in 20 years 39:54 - Open House night at the kids’ school 40:48 - Non-negotiables in the household 42:11 - Gary’s favorite “Just the two of us” lyrics 44:27 - Gary preparing kids for the day he won’t be around 47:00 - Crying on the podcast 48:08 - Talking about the business in front of the kids 49:40 - Evolving as parents 50:20 - Gary’s focus on leading by example Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by Furtuna Skin: Italian, olive oil–based skincare that’s pure, potent, and transformative. Try their eye revitalizing cream and more at https://www.furtunaskin.com, and get 20% off your first purchase with code VALERIA20. In this solo episode of Not Alone, Valeria opens up about the emotional work she’s doing behind the scenes as she enters her next stage of growth. From revisiting therapy and learning how to embrace joy after being raised in a “survival household,” to reflecting on vulnerability, creativity, and her openness to new things living in Miami. Valeria shares an honest glimpse into the challenges and breakthroughs shaping her right now. She questions how to be both an emotional and high-functioning person and wonders if it’s possible. She answers listener questions with her signature candor, talks about the pressure of always being “on” online, and even revisits stories from her past, including her “trophy wife” days and a behind-the-scenes Victoria’s Secret moment that made her step away from modeling. It’s a thoughtful, intimate conversation on emotional growth, choosing joy and stepping into a new chapter with more presence and purpose. Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/collections/2501087?tab=collections Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  Books I Mentioned: The Many Lives of Mama Love - https://www.amazon.com/Many-Lives-Mama-Love-Stealing/dp/1982197668 God Wears Lipstick - https://www.amazon.com/God-Wears-Lipstick-Kabbalah-Women/dp/1571895817 The Art of Thinking Clearly - https://www.amazon.com/Art-Thinking-Clearly-Rolf-Dobelli/dp/0062219693 What we talked about:  0:24 - Start 1:10 - Working overtime on my emotional state 3:00 - Needing help for the next evolution of Valeria 4:05 - Revisiting therapy  6:35 - “I cried of course” 7:30 - Being at the right place at the right time 8:36 - Needing more joy in life  11:14 - Furtuna Skin Ad 12;33 - “I don't trust emotions” 14:49 - Being raised in a survival household 16:00 - “I’m ready to embrace joy” 17:15 - Answering listener questions 17:19 - Being vulnerable online 19:20 - Wanting to work on being less cautious online 20:31 - What I’m enjoying most about Miami 23:03 - Men being attracted to caretaker types 24:15 - Reminiscing on trophy wife days 25:48 - Pressure to always be “on” creatively  27:39 - Have any past failures kept you from trying something new? 28:48 - Victoria’s Secret story 31:30 - Ben’s camp calling Gary first 33:31 - Valeria’s Book Recs 33:42 - The Many Lives of Mama Love 35:47 - God Wears Lipstick 36:18 - The Art of Thinking Clearly Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with Amanda Hirsch, the voice behind the hit podcast and Instagram account Not Skinny But Not Fat. Known for her witty, unfiltered takes on pop culture and reality TV, Amanda opens up about her journey from acting and odd jobs in Israel to becoming one of the internet’s go-to voices on celebrity culture. They dive into everything from boy-mom life and her unapologetic obsession with pop culture (yes, the Britney and Justin breakup was a turning point) to the behind-the-scenes of launching Not Skinny But Not Fat. Amanda shares how she went from a meme page to interviewing A-listers, how becoming a mom didn’t change things, and how she balances sharing opinions while navigating the sensitive side of gossip. From her first big celebrity interview to the moments that made her spiral, her reality TV recs, and what it’s really like meeting your icons, Amanda proves that loving the “silly stuff” can build a serious career. It’s a funny, honest, and refreshing conversation about building something on your own terms, and how you can feel truly content when you embrace what you love. Follow Amanda on Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notskinnybutnotfat/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notskinnybutnotfat Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@notskinnybutnotfat  Get Tickets to Amanda’s Live Show: https://www.livenation.com/event/k7vGFbiQbfwrP/one-night-only-with-amanda-hirsch Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2478422 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  What we talked about:  0:26 - Episode Intro 0:30 - Valeria on work trips and being away from home 1:24 - Intro to Amanda Hirsch 2:58 - Start of Interview 3:01 - Being a boy mom 5:02 - Amanda’s current show obsession 7:40 - The start of the pop culture obsession  8:02 - The Britney and Justin breakup 9:52 - Media-trained celeb culture 11:06 - Loving ‘Love Thy Nader’ 12:06 - Amanda Hirsch’s acting career 15:10 - Working odd jobs in Israel 17:41 - Being content with life 20:15 - The hard move back to New York  22:32 - Starting ‘Not Skinny but Not Fat’ 23:26 - Interacting with the OG Meme Accounts 24:20 - Bringing Amanda and her opinion to the account 26:51 - Knowing something would come of it all 27:45 - Not being aesthetic, being approachable 30:02 - Kids don’t stop your career 31:07 - Loving the same dumb things after kids 32:35 - Getting nitty gritty DMs & not posting 33:45 - Connecting on pop culture for water cooler talk 35:35 - Knowing all the pop culture gossip in Israel 36:50 - Sensitivity with sharing information 40:50 - Interview moments that made her spiral after 42:59 - Watching cringey celebrity interviews 44:13 - Amanda’s first big celebrity interview with Erin Foster 46:30 - Still excited to do her job 48:27 - Getting cancelled on 3 times by her idol 50:00 - Meeting her pop culture heroes  51:05 - Meghan Markle 51:51 - Amanda’s first live show 54:35 - Wanting to quit ‘Love Island’  55:50 - Amanda’s reality TV recommendations 56:54 - Valeria’s pop culture obsession Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week’s episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with lifestyle photographer, cookbook author, and content creator Chloé Crane-Leroux for an inspiring conversation about art, food, and finding balance in a world that never stops moving. Chloé opens up about her early years growing up in Montreal, always driven by a “five-year plan,” and a desire to create beauty. She shares her journey from the highs and challenges of the fashion industry to discovering a more soulful creative outlet in food photography and storytelling. Together, she and Valeria dive into burnout, creative ruts, and the pressures of the internet, while also exploring the rituals and meditations, like cooking, that ground her in joy. Chloé reflects on the vulnerability of sharing her life online, the profound loss that shifted her perspective, and why she no longer clings to rigid plans for the future. At its heart, this episode is a reminder that your life is your art and your canvas, and that creativity thrives not just in output, but in presence, connection, and growth. Follow Chloe on Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chloecleroux/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chloecleroux?lang=en Website: https://www.chloecraneleroux.com/ Get Chloe’s Recipes: https://www.chloecraneleroux.com/recipes Shop Chloe’s Essentials: https://www.chloecraneleroux.com/chloes-essentials Chloe’s Book Recommendation: The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2357926 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  What we talked about:  0:34 - Valeria sets up episode 1:03 - Introducing Chloe Crane-Leroux 2:19 - Start of interview 5:27 - Growing up in Montreal surrounded by art 7:35 - “I’ve had a 5-year-plan since I was 5-years-old” 8:01 - Wanting to create beauty and share it 9:10 - The toxicity of the fashion industry 11:29 - Switching to food photography 13:03 - Going in front of the camera 15:10 - Creating cookbooks with her mom 16:20 - Teaching herself to cook 20:06 - Reaching burnout 22:39 - Creative Ruts 23:18 - Getting caught up in the likes and followers 24:41 - AI making Valeria optimistic  26:24 - Creativity being down right now 29:29 - Rituals that help her slow down 31:00 - Her love of Pinterest 32:50 - “For me, cooking is meditation” 35:13 - Touching different aspects of her job, and growing within that 37:40 - The balance of being vulnerable online 39:08 - Her year of loss and how it changed her 41:20 - Thoughts on the “30 under 30” Forbes List 44:33 - Not having a 5-year-plan anymore 46:52 - “Your life is your art” / “Your life is your canvas” 47:39 - Rapid Fire Round Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by CLEARSTEM: My favorite skincare brand that fights acne and aging at the same time, with zero pore-clogging ingredients, ever. Get 15% off at https://clearstem.com/Valeria with code VALERIA. In this special solo episode of Not Alone, Valeria reflects on turning 35 and what this milestone means to her. She opens up about the lessons she’s carrying forward, the habits and pressures she’s choosing to leave behind, and the aspirations guiding her next chapter. From learning to be more present and putting herself first, to accepting that not everyone will like you, Valeria shares the mindset shifts that have shaped her growth. She talks about aging in a culture obsessed with youth, embracing contradictions as part of evolution, and the importance of pausing before reacting. With honesty and vulnerability, she explores her own “hero’s journey,” reflects on her children and mother getting older, and why success is about feeling, not chasing. It’s an intimate, thoughtful conversation on awareness, boundaries, and stepping into your mid-thirties with clarity and confidence.   Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/collections/2367051 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  Books I Mentioned: The Art of Thinking Clearly: https://amzn.to/3Iiy9ds The Power Pause: https://amzn.to/4mYaM88 The Hero's Journey: https://amzn.to/3JYXBoY What we talked about:  0:24 - Start of the conversation  0:30 - Turning 35 2:40 - Sharing the things Valeria knows now 2:46 - Life is all about evolution and contradicting yourself 4:25 - Learning how to be more present 7:15 - The importance of putting yourself first 8:50 - Pausing 10:55 - Most things don’t need a reaction 11:50 - Being “okay” with not being liked by everyone 13:40 - Choosing your own lens on life 15:11 - Clearstem Ad 16:25 - “The Hero’s Journey” Breakdown 20:26 - Things she may never figure out 20:39 - The idea of time 22:14 - Feeling success instead of chasing the next goal 23:15 - How to age in a world obsessed with youth 26:33 - Being kind vs. being nice 29:30 - Taking more time to process emotions 30:49 - Leaving behind having answers for everything 31:54 - Overexplaining my boundaries to get approval 33:04 - Moving away from sharing too much, too fast online 36:02 - Sharing things that took a long time to process 37:10 - Admiring Pamela Anderson 38:00 - Igniting Awareness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by Furtuna Skin: Italian, olive oil–based skincare that’s pure, potent, and transformative. Try their Olive Lip Butter Balm and more at https://www.furtunaskin.com, and get 20% off your first purchase with code VALERIA20. This episode is also brought to you by Floatley - A bra brand offering feel-good basics that combine cloud-like comfort with reliable support. Try our bestselling Cozy Adjustable Bra at https://www.floatley.com/products/cozy-adjustable and get 20% off your order with code VALERIA20, plus free shipping on US orders over $50. In this week’s episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with astrologer, author and speaker Mia Pineda (aka Mia Astral) for an intimate conversation about identity, intuition, and the paths that guide us. Born to a mother who was only 14 and raised by her grandparents in Venezuela, Mia often felt like an outsider, questioning her place in the world. Astrology became the way she found her footing, transforming uncertainty into purpose. Mia shares the wisdom she learned from her grandmother, talks about leaving Venezuela to move to Miami, and the surprising path from criminology and forensic law to becoming a leading voice in Kabbalistic Astrology. Together, they explore how to tell the difference between fear and intuition, the evolution of astrology in our modern world (yes, even Taylor Swift comes up), and how to lean into discomfort as a catalyst for growth. It’s a thoughtful, soulful episode about reframing your mindset, resilience, and finding your own purpose through the stars.  Follow Mia on Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mia_astral/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mia_astral?lang=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mia_astral Website: https://miastral.com/ Become a Member on Mia’s Website: https://miastral.com/my-account/ Shop her Books: https://miastral.com/shop/   Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2146915 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  What we talked about:  0:28 - Valeria on turning 35 and her birthday traditions 2:39 - Valeria on the end of summer for her family 4:40 - Introducing Mia Pineda 6:24 - Start of interview 6:37 - Mia’s unusual upbringing in Venezuela 9:19 - Being raised by her grandmother 11:59 - Figuring out her place in the world 12:50 - Grandmother’s mentality of abundance  13:47 - Getting a bad reading from a popular astrologer 15:05 - Fortuna Skin Ad 16:14 - Floatley Ad 19:29 - Understanding the mathematics of astrology 22:18 - Studying criminology and forensic law 23:31 - Discovering Kabbalah  23:51 - Leaving Venezuela and moving Miami 27:11 - Working on her mindset 29:07 - Kabbalistic Astrology 34:01 - Differentiating between intuition and fear 36:43 - The evolution of astrology 37:40 - “I’m pretty sure Taylor Swift uses an astrologer” 38:32 - Explaining eclipse seasons 45:40 - “How can you get into uncomfortable but manageable situations?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by CLEARSTEM - my favorite skincare brand that fights acne and aging at the same time, with zero pore-clogging ingredients, ever. Get 15% off at https://clearstem.com/valeria with code VALERIA. This episode is also brought to you by Vuori: Versatile athletic and performance clothing. Head to https://vuori.com/notalone for 20% off your first purchase, plus free shipping on US orders over $75. In this week’s episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with clinical psychologist and friendship expert Christie Ferrari to unpack the complicated world of adult friendships. They explore why friends can feel so different after childhood, and why we sometimes fight to keep certain people in our lives while letting go of others. Christie introduces the concept of growth flags vs. red flags and helps us identify what healthy, evolving friendships look like versus the ones that may be holding us back. Together, Valeria and Christie dive into questions we all face: What kind of friend am I? Am I a fringe friend? How do I deal with “mean girls” even as an adult? From cultural differences in how friendships form, to tips for approaching conflict, to understanding when it’s time to quietly distance yourself, this conversation offers both validation and practical tools for navigating relationships. If you’ve ever questioned your place in a friend group or wondered how to deepen your connections, this episode is a must-listen. Follow Christie on Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christie_ferrari/?hl=en  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christieferrari?lang=en  Website: https://www.christieferrari.com/ Subscribe to Assertive You: https://www.christieferrari.com/assertive-you Book a session with Christie: https://www.christieferrari.com/services   Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/2205029 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  What we talked about:  0:38 - Valeria sets up the episode about friendships 3:52 - Start of the conversation 4:01 - Introducing Christie Ferrari 6:33 - Why adult friendships seem so different 8:28 - Why we work for friendships & why we let them go 9:48 - Growth flags vs red flags 12:38 - Understanding what kind of friend you are 15:12 - Clearstem Ad 16:35 - Vuori Ad 17:57 - Christie’s draw to studying friendships 18:49 - The importance of being assertive 20:28 - What is a fringe friend? 23:18 - Helping a fringe friend  25:35 - Tips to find good friends 27:42 - Christie’s story on being a fringe friend 28:17 - Dealing with Mean Girls 29:29 - Why Mean Girls exist in adulthood 31:03 - Cultural friendship differences 32:05 - How Mean Girls lose power 34:10 - Approaching a friend with an issue 36:36 - When to let a friendship go 37:25 - Quiet distancing 40:14 - Mourning friendships 41:07 - Having more than one “best friend” 43:56 - Trying a friendship reset 44:48 - What healthy friendships look like 45:34 - Men’s reactions to female friendships 47:46 - Why friendships are easier in your 20s 48:35 - Underrated green flags 49:01 - Rapid Fire Questions 51:19 - Christie’s Reading Rec    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices