Three Percent

In this conversation, we explore the intersection of therapy, masculinity, and personal growth with Sam Eldredge. Sam shares insights from his background, discussing how his upbringing influenced his approach to emotional intelligence and healing. The discussion delves into the concept of Noble Workshops, a unique experiential therapy program designed to help individuals engage with their personal stories and foster deeper connections with themselves and others. Throughout the conversation, the importance of storytelling, vulnerability, and beauty in the healing process is emphasized, inviting listeners to reflect on their own journeys. We delve into the themes of nostalgia, healing, and the importance of curiosity in understanding our emotions. We also explore how past experiences shape our present feelings and the significance of connecting with our inner child. The discussion emphasizes the need for kindness, courage, and curiosity in the healing process, as well as the role of vulnerability in forming genuine connections. We also want listeners to check out Noble Workshops as a resource for those seeking deeper emotional work and community support.TakeawaysThe importance of pursuing holistic masculinity in today's world.Noble Workshops provide a space for deep emotional healing.Curiosity is essential in understanding our own stories.Vulnerability allows for genuine connections with others.Engaging with our inner child can lead to profound insights.Progress in personal growth is often incremental, not all or nothing.Storytelling can help us connect with our own experiences.Compassion towards ourselves is crucial in the healing process.The environment and community play a significant role in personal growth.Being present and attentive to beauty can be healing.Check out Noble Workshops: https://www.nobleworkshops.com/Listen to the Noble Workshops Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/nobleworkshops/Follow Sam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobleworkshops/Inner Child Exercise: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/648367dc04b64b65f3626d6d/t/65611601bab60e7abe6480d1/1700861450113/NW+%7C+Inner+Child.pdfChapters00:00 Introduction and Background08:00 Exploring the Work of Sam Eldredge15:57 Understanding Noble Workshops23:47 Engaging with Personal Stories29:19 Exploring Nostalgia and Sadness32:02 The Power of Curiosity in Healing36:21 Understanding Resistance and Acceptance39:26 The Role of Kindness, Courage, and Curiosity43:40 Connecting with Our Inner Child49:59 The Importance of Vulnerability55:14 Noble Workshops: A Path to HealingKeywordsholistic masculinity, inner child, vulnerability, personal growth, therapy, noble workshops, emotional healing, storytelling, mental health, self-discovery

In this conversation, we speak with Chuck DeGroat and explore themes of self-awareness, trauma, and the compassionate nature of God. We discuss the importance of understanding one's own experiences and how they shape perceptions of God and self. The dialogue emphasizes the need for deeper self-regulation rather than just self-awareness, highlighting the complexities of navigating personal trauma and the journey towards healing.TakeawaysThe Genesis story can be reframed to highlight God's curiosity and compassion.Questions like 'Where are you?' can foster deeper self-reflection.Understanding early experiences is crucial in shaping our view of God.Dysregulation can manifest in both harmful and seemingly positive behaviors.Self-awareness is only the first step; self-regulation is essential for healing.Therapy can help individuals navigate their unique trauma stories.Compassionate questions can lead to profound insights about oneself.The journey to healing requires slowing down and being intentional.Not all therapeutic practices work for everyone; personalization is key.The shift from hyperarousal to self-regulation can be disruptive but necessary.Go buy “Healing What’s Within”: https://www.chuckdegroat.net/Follow Chuck on X: https://x.com/chuckdegroatFollow Chuck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chuckdegroatChapters00:00 Understanding God's Curiosity and Compassion04:22 The Role of Trauma in Perception of God07:10 Practical Steps Towards Healing10:05 The Importance of Curiosity in Therapy19:35 Navigating Outrage and Personal Power20:56 Understanding Unique Wounds and Trauma23:11 The Role of Rage and Protection in Healing25:56 Dysregulation and the Illusion of Resilience30:09 From Self-Awareness to Self-Regulation41:54 The Cost of Transformation and DisruptionKeywordstherapy, self-awareness, self-regulation, trauma, mental health, God, Genesis, dysregulation, compassion, healing

In this episode of the 3% Podcast, hosts Jamie Haigh and Blake Roberts engage in a profound conversation with therapist Sam Jolman about masculine sexuality, trauma recovery, and the importance of open discussions around sexual health. Sam shares his personal journey and insights from his book, 'The Sex Talk You Never Got,' emphasizing the need for healthy conversations about sexuality, especially for men. The discussion covers breaking generational patterns, nurturing healthy masculinity, and the significance of awe versus lust in understanding desire. Sam encourages men to embrace their sexual innocence and engage in their stories with curiosity and compassion.TakeawaysThe journey to understanding one's sexuality often stems from personal pain and passion.Healthy masculinity can coexist with sexual desire.Parents should strive to break generational patterns of shame surrounding sexuality.Instilling an appreciation for beauty in children can foster healthy sexuality.Sexuality is not just a drive; it is a desire that can be explored.Curiosity about sexuality should be met with compassion and respect.Awe can lead to deeper connections than lust.Men often struggle with shame around their sexuality, which can hinder their relationships.There is always hope for recovering one's sexual innocence.Learn more about Sam: ⁠https://www.samjolman.com/⁠Read more of Sam’s writing on Substack: ⁠samjolman.substack.com/⁠Follow Sam on Instagram: ⁠www.instagram.com/samjolmanChapters00:00 Introduction to Sam Jolman and His Work04:14 The Importance of Male Sexuality Conversations06:21 Sam's Journey to Writing About Masculine Sexuality10:13 Navigating Conversations with Sons About Sexuality14:40 Instilling Appreciation for Beauty and Healthy Masculinity19:01 Understanding Attachment and Affection in Male Development23:55 The Role of Curiosity in Sexual Education27:37 Navigating Parental Conversations on Sexuality30:40 The Importance of Openness in Sex Education32:37 Understanding Desire vs. Drive in Sexuality34:59 Healing from Past Trauma and Embracing Curiosity37:50 The Role of Respect and Boundaries in Sexual Conversations40:55 Distinguishing Between Awe, Lust, and Desire51:10 Encouragement for Men on Their Sexual JourneyKeywordsmasculine sexuality, sexual trauma recovery, men's issues, therapy, healthy sexuality, generational sin, sexual education, emotional health, parenting, self-discovery

In this episode, the hosts engage in a deep conversation with Jasmine Mullen, exploring themes of vulnerability, emotional engagement, and the journey of self-discovery through writing and music. Jasmine shares her experiences as a mixed-race individual and how it influences her storytelling, particularly in her children's books. The discussion also explores the concept of holistic masculinity, emphasizing the importance of emotional awareness and connection in relationships. The episode concludes with reflections on the power of storytelling and the significance of understanding oneself and others.TakeawaysThe importance of vulnerability in relationships.Jasmine Mullen's journey as a writer and musician.The significance of emotional engagement in understanding oneself.Exploring the themes of belonging and identity in storytelling.The challenges and beauty of being mixed race.The role of children's literature in conveying complex emotions.Holistic masculinity involves emotional awareness and connection.Personal experiences shape the narratives we create.The power of storytelling to foster understanding and empathy.The value of diverse voices in discussions about masculinity.Follow Jasmine: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jasminemullen⁠Check out Odd Man Out: ⁠https://a.co/d/4Lp8bYc⁠Check out Newbie on the Block: ⁠https://a.co/d/6KXI7Tv⁠Listen to the New Respects: ⁠https://www.thenewrespects.com/⁠Find more tools and resources from Three Percent: ⁠www.threepercentco.comChapters00:00 The Importance of Diverse Voices03:03 Jasmine's Musical Journey05:51 The Ben Washington Book Series07:57 Themes of Identity and Belonging10:30 Personal Reflections on Mixed Identity18:52 Reflections on Race and Identity28:45 Navigating School Experiences and Racial Identity34:13 Defining Holistic Masculinity41:46 Closing Thoughts and Future ConversationsKeywordsvulnerability, emotional engagement, writing, mixed race, holistic masculinity, personal experiences, storytelling, music, relationships, self-discovery

In this conversation, the hosts explore the themes of holistic masculinity, vulnerability, and the impact of trauma on relationships with Dr. Dan Allender. They discuss the importance of kindness, honesty, and the role of family of origin in shaping one's identity. The conversation emphasizes the need for deep friendships and support in navigating the complexities of marriage and personal growth. Dr. Allender shares insights from his new book, 'Deep Rooted Marriage,' highlighting the significance of emotional intimacy and the journey towards healing and understanding in relationships.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity involves exploring what gets in the way of who men want to be.Vulnerability is essential for reclaiming a truer version of masculinity.Friendship plays a crucial role in supporting personal growth and healing.Trauma can significantly impact relationships and communication.Conflict in marriage often stems from deeper issues related to past experiences.Kindness and honesty are vital in navigating difficult conversations.Understanding one's family of origin is key to recognizing patterns in relationships.The journey of marriage is a redemptive process that requires ongoing effort.Emotional intimacy is cultivated through shared experiences and honest communication.The book 'Deep Rooted Marriage' aims to provide tools for couples to navigate their relationship more effectively.Go buy Dan's new book: https://www.thomasnelson.com/p/deep-rooted-marriage/Check out more of Dan's work: https://theallendercenter.org/Find more tools and resources from Three Percent: www.threepercentco.comChapters00:00 Exploring the 3% Concept05:01 The Role of Vulnerability in Masculinity09:42 Navigating Relationships and Conflict14:23 The Importance of Deep Connections18:48 Delight and Honor in Relationships25:18 The War Zone of Love and Shame28:07 Engaging with Trauma in Relationships32:16 The Impact of Past Trauma on Present Relationships36:06 The Invitation to Reality in Marriage36:43 Why This Book Matters Now43:22 The Importance of Self-Reflection48:03 The Role of Kindness in Healing53:07 Honoring Your Story and Family of Origin58:21 Imagining a Future of Love and RedemptionKeywordsholistic masculinity, trauma, relationships, vulnerability, communication, kindness, honesty, family of origin, emotional intimacy, marriage

Scott Erickson, an artist and author known for his vulnerability, delves into the significance of deep male friendships. He discusses the struggles men face with emotional honesty and the societal barriers to meaningful connections. Exploring themes of creativity, he highlights how embracing limitations can lead to deeper artistic expression. Scott shares personal stories that underscore the therapeutic power of friendship and the essential role of community support, particularly for mental health, urging listeners to foster intentional and honest conversations.

SummaryIn this episode of the 3% Podcast, hosts Jamie and Blake share their personal stories, backgrounds, and experiences to foster a sense of community and connection with their audience. They discuss their early lives, professional journeys, family dynamics, and significant life events that have shaped their perspectives. The conversation emphasizes the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and building relationships in the context of therapy and personal growth.TakeawaysThe podcast aims to create a community and relationship with listeners.Understanding the hosts' backgrounds is essential for context in future discussions.Both hosts have diverse professional experiences before becoming therapists.Family dynamics play a significant role in shaping personal stories.Honesty and vulnerability are crucial in therapy and relationships.Key life moments can influence one's path and perspective.The importance of seeking help and therapy is highlighted in their stories.Both hosts have experienced challenges in their personal lives that inform their work.The podcast encourages listeners to engage and ask questions about their stories.Chapters00:00 Prayer and Reflection on the Journey10:38 Professional Journeys and Passions16:21 Key Life Moments and Influences24:06 Personal Stories of Struggle and Growth38:09 The Importance of Honesty and ConnectionCheck us out on Instagram and Substack!https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/https://substack.com/@threepercent

The 3% Podcast aims to create a community for men to explore vulnerability, mental health, and personal growth. The hosts, Jamie and Blake, share their experiences in therapy and recovery, emphasizing the importance of honesty and connection. They discuss the epidemic of loneliness among men and the need for deeper relationships with oneself and others. The podcast serves as a platform for sharing stories, tools, and insights to help listeners navigate their own journeys of self-discovery and healing.TakeawaysThe 3% concept represents the emotions we keep to ourselves.Loneliness is a significant issue for many men today.Vulnerability is essential for deeper connections.The podcast is a space for sharing personal stories.Recovery is not just for those with addictions.Creating a community helps combat feelings of isolation.Honesty and self-awareness are key to personal growth.The hosts aim to provide practical tools for listeners.Breaking generational patterns is a focus of the podcast.Listeners are encouraged to keep coming back for support.Chapters00:00 The Concept of 3% and Its Importance04:06 The Purpose of the Podcast and Community08:58 Vulnerability and Courage in Relationships14:09 Closing Thoughts and Future Directions

Welcome to Three Percent! This is your space if you’re on a journey of pursuing holistic masculinity, growing your emotional awareness, and cultivating deeper relationships and an authentic faith. We’re here to provide evidence-based guidance and proven strategies drawn from our experiences as therapists, friends, and mentors. We aren’t here to give you gimmicks or superficial “hacks.” We’re not telling you who to be, we're helping you uncover what gets in the way of being the man you want to be and offering you the authentic tools needed for tangible growth. We're glad you're here. Keep coming back. You're worth it.