Three Percent

In this episode, the hosts engage in a deep conversation with Sheila Wray Gregoire about the complexities of masculinity, vulnerability, and the challenges within marriage. They explore the impact of traditional teachings on relationships, the importance of emotional connection, and the mental load often carried by women. Sheila shares insights from her research on sexual satisfaction and the need for open communication in marriages. The discussion emphasizes the significance of creating safety in relationships and how positive changes can ripple through various aspects of a couple's life together.TakeawaysHealthy masculinity involves taking initiative to care for others.Vulnerability is essential for deeper connections in relationships.Research shows that traditional marriage teachings can harm both men and women.Emotional connection is crucial for marital satisfaction.Men often carry shame that affects their relationships.The mental load in marriages often falls disproportionately on women.Improving one aspect of a relationship can positively impact others.Communication about sex is often hindered by societal teachings.Creating safety in relationships allows for open conversations.Couples should work as partners to share responsibilities.Check out more of Sheila Wray Gregoire:Website - ⁠https://sheilawraygregoire.com/⁠Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sheilagregoire/⁠Bare Marriage Podcast - ⁠https://www.buzzsprout.com/242918⁠Learn more about Three Percent: ⁠www.threepercentco.comChapters00:00 Defining Healthy Masculinity06:09 Sheila's Journey into Marriage and Sex Education09:32 Research Findings on Marriage and Sexual Satisfaction12:18 Challenging Evangelical Teachings15:14 The Impact of Cultural Narratives on Relationships18:22 Addressing Shame and Responsibility in Men21:09 Navigating Sexuality and Intimacy24:24 The Role of Communication in Healthy Relationships27:24 Concluding Thoughts and Future Directions33:40 Understanding Marriage as a Partnership34:47 The Importance of Emotional Connection37:23 Mental Load and Housework Dynamics41:05 The Unseen Burden of Kin Keeping47:34 The Unfairness Threshold in Marriages49:25 Creating Smooth Roads in Relationships54:02 Navigating Shame and Vulnerability59:34 The Ripple Effect of ConnectionKeywordsmasculinity, vulnerability, marriage, emotional connection, sexual satisfaction, gender roles, communication, shame, mental load, relationships, spirituality, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, grief, emotional health, mental health resources, holistic masculinity, vulnerability, fatherhood, childhood experiences, self-compassion, shame, self-contempt, recovery, emotional safety, holistic healing

In this episode, Brian Lee discusses the often-overlooked topic of spiritual abuse and its profound impact on individuals' lives. He shares his journey from being a pastor to creating the nonprofit Broken to Beloved, which aims to support survivors of spiritual abuse. The conversation delves into the definition of holistic masculinity, the importance of safety and trust in relationships, and the healing process that involves recognizing one's story and integrating all parts of oneself. Brian emphasizes the need for community support and grace in the journey of recovery, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of faith and belonging.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity means integrating all parts of oneself.Spiritual abuse uses God's words to dehumanize individuals.Healing requires recognizing and naming trauma.Safety in relationships is foundational for trust.The journey of healing is often long and complex.Community support is vital for recovery from spiritual abuse.Understanding one's story is crucial for healing.Grace and compassion towards oneself are essential.The hierarchy of belovedness includes safety, connection, trust, vulnerability, and intimacy.Healing from spiritual abuse can lead to a deeper understanding of faith.Check out more of Broken to Beloved:Website - ⁠https://www.brokentobeloved.org/⁠Donate - ⁠https://www.brokentobeloved.org/support⁠Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brokentobeloved⁠Substack - ⁠https://brokentobeloved.substack.com/⁠Broken to Beloved Podcast - ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2RcmVVeoNVuaZ7VT37YKrc?si=38911bd34a8a48e0Chapters00:00 Brian's Background and Journey04:35 Understanding Spiritual Abuse07:26 The Impact of Spiritual Abuse10:19 Cultural and Racial Influences13:35 The Importance of Storytelling16:21 The Hierarchy of Belovedness26:56 Building Trust Through Vulnerability31:16 Understanding Safety and Self-Regulation37:14 The Connection Between Body Awareness and Safety43:30 Navigating Faith and Safety in Church Spaces46:56 Finding Safety in Curiosity and Healing52:30 The Journey from Brokenness to BelovedKeywordsmasculinity, spirituality, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, friendship, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, grief, emotional health, community support, mental health resources, holistic masculinity, vulnerability, embodiment, fatherhood, childhood experiences, inner child, self-compassion, shame, self-contempt, workshops, mental health, spiritual abuse, trauma, community support, faith, recovery, emotional safety, holistic healing

In this episode, we engage in a deep conversation with Dr. Andrew Bauman about holistic masculinity, vulnerability, and the importance of self-compassion. We explore the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, the significance of engaging with one's inner child, and the role of embodiment in therapy. The discussion also touches on the challenges of fatherhood, navigating shame, and the necessity of truth in relationships. The episode concludes with insights into workshops and resources available for men seeking healing and integration.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity involves embracing vulnerability and healing.Self-compassion is essential in overcoming shame and self-contempt.Childhood experiences significantly shape adult behavior and relationships.Embodiment practices can enhance therapeutic experiences.Navigating fatherhood requires awareness of one's own wounds.Truth-telling is a powerful tool for liberation and healing.Workshops can provide valuable resources for men seeking support.The journey of healing is ongoing and requires commitment.Creating safe spaces for men to express emotions is vital.Check out more of Dr. Andrew Bauman:Website - ⁠https://andrewjbauman.com/⁠Intensive Workshops - ⁠https://christiancc.org/⁠Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drandrewjbauman/Chapters08:36 Dr. Andrew Bauman's Journey11:46 The Impact of Family Dynamics14:25 Engaging with Grief and Loss17:44 The Importance of Male Embodiment20:30 Somatic Exercises for Healing23:31 Integrating the Inner Child26:22 The Role of Truth in Healing29:33 Workshops and Resources for Men32:36 Closing Thoughts and Future Conversations45:22 Exploring Vulnerability and HealingKeywordsmasculinity, spirituality, social justice, teaching, creativity, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, friendship, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, grief, emotional health, community support, mental health resources, holistic masculinity, vulnerability, embodiment, fatherhood, childhood experiences, inner child, self-compassion, shame, self-contempt, workshops, mental health

In this episode, Zachariah Thompson, founder of Scatter Joy, shares his journey of creating a mental health nonprofit aimed at making mental health resources accessible and affordable. The conversation delves into personal struggles with mental health, the impact of grief, and the importance of empathy in fostering emotional health. The hosts discuss the mission of Scatter Joy, the significance of community support, and how individuals can get involved to help others while also taking care of their own mental health.TakeawaysScatter Joy aims to make mental health resources accessible.Mental health is a continuous journey, not a one-time fix.Grief plays a significant role in mental health struggles.Empathy is essential for personal and communal healing.The repair of relationships is more important than the rupture.Creating a supportive community is vital for mental health.Men often struggle with expressing emotions and vulnerability.Storytelling can enhance empathy and understanding.Joy can be a form of resistance against mental health stigma.Engaging with meaningful stories can improve empathy.Check out Scatter Joy:Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thescatterjoyproject/⁠Website - ⁠https://thescatterjoyproject.com/Chapters00:00 Zach's Personal Journey with Mental Health04:23 The Impact of Grief on Mental Health07:04 Understanding Mental Health as a Lifelong Journey09:49 The Role of Fear and Emotional Awareness12:41 Reparenting Through Fatherhood15:18 The Importance of Repairing Relationships18:06 The Meaning Behind Scatter Joy26:25 The Journey of Scatter Joy31:45 Personal Growth Through Diverse Experiences36:51 Breaking Barriers in Mental Health42:37 The Power of Scattering Joy49:17 Empathy as a Tool for Mental Health53:43 Supporting and Being Supported by Scatter JoyKeywordsmasculinity, spirituality, social justice, teaching, creativity, entrepreneurship, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, friendship, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, Scatter Joy, grief, emotional health, community support, mental health resources, storytelling, joy

In this engaging conversation, Propaganda, a multifaceted artist, discusses his journey through music, coffee culture, and the complexities of masculinity and spirituality. He reflects on his influences in hip-hop, the challenges of entrepreneurship, and the importance of teaching and community. The dialogue explores how personal experiences shape artistic expression and the significance of accessing prior knowledge in learning and growth. In this conversation, we delve into the complexities of masculinity, the challenges of navigating the Christian music industry, and the importance of engaging with one's pain to foster personal growth. We explore the impact of societal expectations on male identity, the significance of storytelling in understanding oneself, and the need for emotional expression. The discussion highlights the journey of self-discovery and the role of music as a medium for exploring these themes.TakeawaysPropaganda discusses the evolution of hip-hop and its social consciousness.Teaching is a core aspect of his identity and artistry.He believes in accessing prior knowledge to enhance learning.The conversation touches on the complexities of masculinity in today's world.Propaganda's new music explores themes of masculinity and spirituality.Understanding what masculinity is not can clarify what it is.Engaging with pain is essential for personal growth.Emotional expression is often limited by societal norms.Stories shape our understanding of masculinity.Language can be a powerful tool for healing.Check out Propaganda:Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/prophiphop/?hl=en⁠YouTube - ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS_bhmcf4VbuoU6eX-0fzAg⁠Spotify - ⁠https://open.spotify.com/artist/7wGizTRCLYwsLnTuCBbJ6t?si=-ANPwqzxTd6Smb867Hkjew⁠Hood Politics - ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hood-politics-with-prop/id1493858530⁠Website - ⁠https://www.prophiphop.com/Chapters01:48 Meet Propaganda: The Artist and His Journey05:40 Passion for Coffee and Community07:49 The Hustle of Entrepreneurship12:32 The Evolution of Hip-Hop and Personal Influence17:47 Teaching as a Core Gift21:36 Accessing Prior Knowledge in Learning26:03 Exploring Masculinity Through Music27:03 The Creative Process Behind New Music31:51 The Bench: A Year of Reflection32:49 Exploring Masculinity Through Music33:51 Navigating the Christian Music Landscape35:03 Friendship and Integrity in the Music Industry37:01 Political Engagement and Identity39:22 Defining Masculinity: What It Is and Isn't40:46 Engaging with Pain to Understand Manhood43:07 The Crayon Box of Emotions47:08 The Impact of Stories on Masculinity51:03 Holistic Masculinity: Anger and Self-Reflection55:07 The Power of Language in HealingKeywordsPropaganda, hip-hop, masculinity, spirituality, coffee culture, social justice, teaching, creativity, entrepreneurship, music, masculinity, music, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, political engagement, friendship, integrity, healing

In this conversation, we talk to filmmaker Eric Floberg and explore the challenges of balancing parenthood and work, the importance of authenticity in creative endeavors, and the role of vulnerability in storytelling. Eric shares his journey as a filmmaker and runner, emphasizing the need for intentionality in both personal and professional life. We discuss how running serves as a metaphor for life, highlighting the mental benefits and discipline it brings. The conversation also touches on the impact of community in running and the evolution of Eric's creative career, ultimately questioning the purpose and intent behind creative work. In this conversation, we explore the intricate balance between personal relationships and the discipline required in both running and life. We discuss the importance of prioritizing relationships, the compounding effects of consistent effort, and the necessity of embracing the process rather than focusing solely on outcomes. The dialogue also touches on the significance of community, collaboration, and emotional intelligence in navigating life's challenges, particularly in the context of masculinity and personal growth.TakeawaysParenthood often requires a delicate balance with work.Creativity thrives on authenticity and vulnerability.Vulnerability can lead to deeper connections in creative work.Finding purpose in creative endeavors is essential for fulfillment.Fatherhood can significantly influence personal growth and perspective.Running serves as a powerful metaphor for life's challenges.The process of creating is often more important than the outcome.Building a supportive community enhances creative work.Navigating relationships in a creative environment can be complex.Emotional awareness is crucial in collaborative settings.Check out Eric’s YouTube Channel: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EricFloberg⁠Join Eric’s Running Channel and Community: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@flobergruns⁠Follow Eric on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/eric.floberg/?hl=enChapters00:00 The Role of Authenticity in Creative Work04:00 Exploring the Creative Journey06:58 The Importance of Vulnerability in Storytelling10:06 Running as a Metaphor for Life13:02 The Impact of Community in Running16:01 Questioning Purpose and Intent in Creativity18:56 The Evolution of Eric's Creative Career22:06 Rediscovering Joy in Running25:07 Discipline and Its Broader Implications27:58 Prioritizing Relationships Over Tasks31:02 The Long Game: Consistency in Relationships33:51 Finding Joy in the Process35:00 The Importance of Consistency35:45 Embracing the Process of Growth36:55 The Euphoria of Achievement37:56 Resilience in Relationships38:57 The Complexity of Collaboration40:01 Building Community and Connection41:01 The 3% Principle in RelationshipsKeywordsparenthood, work-life balance, authenticity, creativity, vulnerability, storytelling, running, community, purpose, discipline, relationships, masculinity, grit, consistency, personal growth, community, collaboration, emotional intelligence, domestic life, running

In this episode of the 3% Podcast, hosts Jamie Haigh and Blake Roberts engage in a deep conversation with David Thomas, co-executive director of Daystar Counseling and co-author of 11 books, including ‘Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son can Build on for Life,’ and the best-selling ‘Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys.’ The discussion revolves around the importance of vulnerability and honesty in parenting, the challenges parents face in today's world, and the significance of modeling emotional regulation for children. David shares insights from his new children's book, which aims to teach resilience and emotional understanding through the story of a therapy dog. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to reflect on their own stories and the impact of their parenting on future generations.TakeawaysVulnerability and honesty are crucial in parenting.Parents should trust their instincts amidst overwhelming information.Modeling emotional regulation is essential for children.Apologizing to children can strengthen relationships.Children's books can convey complex emotional themes simply.Therapy dogs can play a significant role in emotional healing.Building resilience in children starts with acknowledging fear.Parenting is about cleaning up our side of the street.Understanding one's own story is vital for effective parenting.Check out Daystar Counseling: ⁠https://www.daystarcounseling.com/⁠Pre-order David and Sissy’s new books: ⁠https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/shop⁠Listen to Raising Boys and Girls: ⁠https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/⁠Follow David on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/raisingboysandgirls/Chapters00:00 Introduction to David Thomas and Daystar Counseling05:30 The Importance of Vulnerability and Honesty in Parenting08:33 Navigating Emotional Development and Parenting Challenges11:19 The Role of Apologies and Self-Regulation in Parenting14:35 Introducing the New Children's Book and Its Themes17:28 The Story Behind the Therapy Dog and Its Impact20:31 Building Resilience and Courage in Children23:33 The Mission of the Children's Book and Its Emotional Tools29:53 Courage in Overcoming Fear31:36 Empathy and Resilience in Parenting34:49 The Impact of Family Stories36:54 Transforming Pain into Growth39:50 The Importance of Acknowledging Harm44:28 Generational Impact of Parenting47:23 Cleaning Up Our Side of the Street53:44 The Legacy of Good ParentingKeywordsparenting, emotional development, vulnerability, honesty, resilience, children's books, therapy dogs, David Thomas, Daystar Counseling, raising boys, parenting, resilience, courage, empathy, family stories, growth, vulnerability, generational impact, self-awareness, emotional health

In this conversation, we explore the intersection of therapy, masculinity, and personal growth with Sam Eldredge. Sam shares insights from his background, discussing how his upbringing influenced his approach to emotional intelligence and healing. The discussion delves into the concept of Noble Workshops, a unique experiential therapy program designed to help individuals engage with their personal stories and foster deeper connections with themselves and others. Throughout the conversation, the importance of storytelling, vulnerability, and beauty in the healing process is emphasized, inviting listeners to reflect on their own journeys. We delve into the themes of nostalgia, healing, and the importance of curiosity in understanding our emotions. We also explore how past experiences shape our present feelings and the significance of connecting with our inner child. The discussion emphasizes the need for kindness, courage, and curiosity in the healing process, as well as the role of vulnerability in forming genuine connections. We also want listeners to check out Noble Workshops as a resource for those seeking deeper emotional work and community support.TakeawaysThe importance of pursuing holistic masculinity in today's world.Noble Workshops provide a space for deep emotional healing.Curiosity is essential in understanding our own stories.Vulnerability allows for genuine connections with others.Engaging with our inner child can lead to profound insights.Progress in personal growth is often incremental, not all or nothing.Storytelling can help us connect with our own experiences.Compassion towards ourselves is crucial in the healing process.The environment and community play a significant role in personal growth.Being present and attentive to beauty can be healing.Check out Noble Workshops: https://www.nobleworkshops.com/Listen to the Noble Workshops Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/nobleworkshops/Follow Sam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobleworkshops/Inner Child Exercise: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/648367dc04b64b65f3626d6d/t/65611601bab60e7abe6480d1/1700861450113/NW+%7C+Inner+Child.pdfChapters00:00 Introduction and Background08:00 Exploring the Work of Sam Eldredge15:57 Understanding Noble Workshops23:47 Engaging with Personal Stories29:19 Exploring Nostalgia and Sadness32:02 The Power of Curiosity in Healing36:21 Understanding Resistance and Acceptance39:26 The Role of Kindness, Courage, and Curiosity43:40 Connecting with Our Inner Child49:59 The Importance of Vulnerability55:14 Noble Workshops: A Path to HealingKeywordsholistic masculinity, inner child, vulnerability, personal growth, therapy, noble workshops, emotional healing, storytelling, mental health, self-discovery

In this conversation, we speak with Chuck DeGroat and explore themes of self-awareness, trauma, and the compassionate nature of God. We discuss the importance of understanding one's own experiences and how they shape perceptions of God and self. The dialogue emphasizes the need for deeper self-regulation rather than just self-awareness, highlighting the complexities of navigating personal trauma and the journey towards healing.TakeawaysThe Genesis story can be reframed to highlight God's curiosity and compassion.Questions like 'Where are you?' can foster deeper self-reflection.Understanding early experiences is crucial in shaping our view of God.Dysregulation can manifest in both harmful and seemingly positive behaviors.Self-awareness is only the first step; self-regulation is essential for healing.Therapy can help individuals navigate their unique trauma stories.Compassionate questions can lead to profound insights about oneself.The journey to healing requires slowing down and being intentional.Not all therapeutic practices work for everyone; personalization is key.The shift from hyperarousal to self-regulation can be disruptive but necessary.Go buy “Healing What’s Within”: https://www.chuckdegroat.net/Follow Chuck on X: https://x.com/chuckdegroatFollow Chuck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chuckdegroatChapters00:00 Understanding God's Curiosity and Compassion04:22 The Role of Trauma in Perception of God07:10 Practical Steps Towards Healing10:05 The Importance of Curiosity in Therapy19:35 Navigating Outrage and Personal Power20:56 Understanding Unique Wounds and Trauma23:11 The Role of Rage and Protection in Healing25:56 Dysregulation and the Illusion of Resilience30:09 From Self-Awareness to Self-Regulation41:54 The Cost of Transformation and DisruptionKeywordstherapy, self-awareness, self-regulation, trauma, mental health, God, Genesis, dysregulation, compassion, healing

In this episode of the 3% Podcast, hosts Jamie Haigh and Blake Roberts engage in a profound conversation with therapist Sam Jolman about masculine sexuality, trauma recovery, and the importance of open discussions around sexual health. Sam shares his personal journey and insights from his book, 'The Sex Talk You Never Got,' emphasizing the need for healthy conversations about sexuality, especially for men. The discussion covers breaking generational patterns, nurturing healthy masculinity, and the significance of awe versus lust in understanding desire. Sam encourages men to embrace their sexual innocence and engage in their stories with curiosity and compassion.TakeawaysThe journey to understanding one's sexuality often stems from personal pain and passion.Healthy masculinity can coexist with sexual desire.Parents should strive to break generational patterns of shame surrounding sexuality.Instilling an appreciation for beauty in children can foster healthy sexuality.Sexuality is not just a drive; it is a desire that can be explored.Curiosity about sexuality should be met with compassion and respect.Awe can lead to deeper connections than lust.Men often struggle with shame around their sexuality, which can hinder their relationships.There is always hope for recovering one's sexual innocence.Learn more about Sam: ⁠https://www.samjolman.com/⁠Read more of Sam’s writing on Substack: ⁠samjolman.substack.com/⁠Follow Sam on Instagram: ⁠www.instagram.com/samjolmanChapters00:00 Introduction to Sam Jolman and His Work04:14 The Importance of Male Sexuality Conversations06:21 Sam's Journey to Writing About Masculine Sexuality10:13 Navigating Conversations with Sons About Sexuality14:40 Instilling Appreciation for Beauty and Healthy Masculinity19:01 Understanding Attachment and Affection in Male Development23:55 The Role of Curiosity in Sexual Education27:37 Navigating Parental Conversations on Sexuality30:40 The Importance of Openness in Sex Education32:37 Understanding Desire vs. Drive in Sexuality34:59 Healing from Past Trauma and Embracing Curiosity37:50 The Role of Respect and Boundaries in Sexual Conversations40:55 Distinguishing Between Awe, Lust, and Desire51:10 Encouragement for Men on Their Sexual JourneyKeywordsmasculine sexuality, sexual trauma recovery, men's issues, therapy, healthy sexuality, generational sin, sexual education, emotional health, parenting, self-discovery