Three Percent How to Get on the Same Team With Your Spouse with Sheila Wray Gregoire
In this episode, the hosts engage in a deep conversation with Sheila Wray Gregoire about the complexities of masculinity, vulnerability, and the challenges within marriage. They explore the impact of traditional teachings on relationships, the importance of emotional connection, and the mental load often carried by women. Sheila shares insights from her research on sexual satisfaction and the need for open communication in marriages. The discussion emphasizes the significance of creating safety in relationships and how positive changes can ripple through various aspects of a couple's life together.
Takeaways
- Healthy masculinity involves taking initiative to care for others.
- Vulnerability is essential for deeper connections in relationships.
- Research shows that traditional marriage teachings can harm both men and women.
- Emotional connection is crucial for marital satisfaction.
- Men often carry shame that affects their relationships.
- The mental load in marriages often falls disproportionately on women.
- Improving one aspect of a relationship can positively impact others.
- Communication about sex is often hindered by societal teachings.
- Creating safety in relationships allows for open conversations.
- Couples should work as partners to share responsibilities.
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Chapters
00:00 Defining Healthy Masculinity
06:09 Sheila's Journey into Marriage and Sex Education
09:32 Research Findings on Marriage and Sexual Satisfaction
12:18 Challenging Evangelical Teachings
15:14 The Impact of Cultural Narratives on Relationships
18:22 Addressing Shame and Responsibility in Men
21:09 Navigating Sexuality and Intimacy
24:24 The Role of Communication in Healthy Relationships
27:24 Concluding Thoughts and Future Directions
33:40 Understanding Marriage as a Partnership
34:47 The Importance of Emotional Connection
37:23 Mental Load and Housework Dynamics
41:05 The Unseen Burden of Kin Keeping
47:34 The Unfairness Threshold in Marriages
49:25 Creating Smooth Roads in Relationships
54:02 Navigating Shame and Vulnerability
59:34 The Ripple Effect of Connection
Keywords
masculinity, vulnerability, marriage, emotional connection, sexual satisfaction, gender roles, communication, shame, mental load, relationships, spirituality, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, grief, emotional health, mental health resources, holistic masculinity, vulnerability, fatherhood, childhood experiences, self-compassion, shame, self-contempt, recovery, emotional safety, holistic healing