Three Percent

In this soulful and deeply human conversation, author, speaker, and coach Justin McRoberts joins us to explore the sacred tension between calling and rest, ambition and surrender. With humor, honesty, and theological insight, Justin shares the spiritual and emotional journey behind his book In the Low. We discuss fatherhood, friendship, control, and what it means to hold both grief and joy with open hands. If you’ve ever wrestled with doing enough or being enough, this episode is an invitation back to groundedness, belovedness, and the long road of faithful presence.Check out more of Justin McRoberts: 🌐 Website – www.justinmcroberts.com 📸 Instagram – @justinmcroberts 📚 Book – In The LowLearn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.comTakeawaysYour “calling” doesn’t have to be heavy—it can be playful and sacred.Ambition without rest leads to burnout and bitterness.Slowing down often feels like failure in a productivity-obsessed world.God’s invitation is not just to work for Him, but to be with Him.Real rest means learning to release control.Friendships that hold both celebration and grief are vital to resilience.There is no sacred calling without sacred rest.Chapters00:00 Welcome & Meet Justin McRoberts03:30 What Is In The Low All About?06:00 Ambition, Surrender, and the Space Between10:20 Calling as a Form of Relationship13:40 Relearning the Pace of Love and Grace16:00 Burnout, Shame, and Being "Too Much"19:30 Parenting, Grief, and the Myth of Control24:00 What He Learned From Deep Friendships28:00 Masculinity and the Pressure to Perform31:00 God’s Invitation to Rest and Trust35:00 Questions That Help You Stay Human39:00 Where to Find Justin OnlineKeywordsJustin McRoberts, Three Percent, Sacred Strides, calling, rest, surrender, ambition, masculinity, Christian leadership, burnout, spiritual formation, work-life balance, grief, friendship, control, parenting, vulnerability, emotional health, faith and productivity, theological reflection, presence, fatherhood, resilience, healing, belovedness, performance pressure, letting go

Rachel Clinton Chen, a therapist and trauma practitioner, dives deep into the realities of trauma and healing. She discusses how trauma isn’t just about the events we endure but also the weight we carry alone. Rachel unpacks the high cost of integrity in spiritually abusive environments and emphasizes that grief can be the starting point for hope. She urges listeners to acknowledge their truth and understand the body as both a vessel of pain and a site for redemption. Her insights blend honesty and compassion, making the conversation a powerful call to embrace vulnerability.

In a heartfelt conversation, the hosts dive into the transformative power of personal change. They share their own battles with addiction and emotional numbness, emphasizing that true healing comes from within. The importance of self-compassion, empathy, and understanding motivations for change take center stage. They challenge the notion that we are defined by our struggles and highlight the value of community support. This candid exploration serves as a reminder that the journey toward healing is ongoing, yet wholly worthwhile.

In this episode, we welcome therapist, writer, and podcast host Blake Blankenbecler into a powerful conversation about emotional language, body awareness, and the harm of emotional outsourcing. Blake unpacks why many men struggle to name their inner world and what it takes to reclaim curiosity, tenderness, and truth. Together, we talk about the nervous system, faith deconstruction, co-regulation, and why presence is the most healing thing we offer one another. This episode will meet you where you are and gently invite you further in.Takeaways“If I can’t be with it, I can’t heal it.” Naming precedes healing.Outsourcing your emotions to others is common—but it can become harmful.Co-regulation is foundational to emotional safety in relationships.Curiosity helps us approach our pain instead of controlling it.The nervous system needs safety to tell the truth.You can’t think your way into healing—your body has to believe it too.Presence is the most healing gift we can offer in a hurting world.Emotionally safe men are formed, not found.Check out more of Blake Blankenbecler: 🌐 Website – ⁠blakeblankenbecler.com ⁠📸 Instagram –⁠ @blakeblankenbecler⁠ The Friendship Deck: ⁠thefriendshipdeck.com⁠Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐⁠ www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Meet Blake Blankenbecler – Therapist(03:00) Language for the Inner Life(06:00) What is Emotional Outsourcing?(10:00) The Power of Co-Regulation(14:00) Why Men Struggle to Name Emotions(18:00) Body-Based Healing and the Nervous System(22:00) From Christian Duty to Emotional Honesty(26:00) How Curiosity Changes the Healing Process(30:00) Practicing Emotional Responsibility(33:00) The Lie of Being Too Much(36:00) Faith, Attachment, and Embodied Safety(41:00) Relationships as the Place of Repair(45:00) Where to Find Blake OnlineKeywordsBlake Blankenbecler, Three Percent, emotional health, holistic masculinity, co-regulation, emotional outsourcing, nervous system healing, trauma recovery, therapy, men’s emotions, inner work, Christian deconstruction, embodiment, faith and healing, presence, emotional literacy, emotional responsibility, relationships, healing through connection, curiosity, somatic healing, mental health, attachment, tenderness, emotional safety

In this episode, hosts Blake and Jamie dive into the emotional lives of men—what we feel, what we’ve been taught to suppress, and what it might look like to live more honestly. They explore how fear, shame, and sadness often hide beneath anger, and why many men are disconnected from their bodies, relationships, and even themselves. From childhood messages to faith, parenting, and emotional repair, this conversation is vulnerable, practical, and full of grace. Whether you’re just beginning to name your emotions or walking others through healing, this episode offers language, insight, and permission to feel.TakeawaysAnger is often the visible emotion masking fear, shame, or sadness.Most men are taught to intellectualize or avoid emotions entirely.Emotional fluency begins with naming what’s actually happening inside.We often fear our emotions will make us weak—but vulnerability leads to strength.The body holds emotional wisdom many of us were never taught to trust.Emotional repair is possible in relationships when we lead with honesty.Faith, theology, and masculinity all shape how we relate to our emotions.Safety and curiosity are the prerequisites for emotional healing.ResourcesChip Dodd Emotions Chart: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/62e2d6c397d6ff1fd356ed8f/t/632cbee0b6a9703239cd018f/1725475063690/8+Feelings.pdf Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐⁠ www.threepercentco.com⁠ 📸 Instagram –⁠ @threepercentcoChapters(00:00) Welcome to the Emotions Episode(03:00) Why Talk About Emotions?(06:00) Men and the Fear of Feeling(09:00) What We Learned Growing Up About Emotions(12:00) Anger, Sadness, Shame—What’s Really Underneath?(16:00) Why Men Disconnect From the Body(20:00) Faith and Emotional Formation(25:00) Emotional Literacy in Parenting(28:00) When You Feel Unsafe in Relationship(32:00) The Power of Curiosity and Naming Emotions(36:00) Repair, Vulnerability, and Starting Again(40:00) Final Thoughts on Living Fully AliveKeywordsThree Percent, masculinity, emotions, emotional health, anger, fear, shame, sadness, vulnerability, holistic masculinity, emotional literacy, fatherhood, parenting, emotional intelligence, Christian men, faith and emotions, childhood wounds, trauma, inner work, embodiment, safety, repair, naming emotions, identity, integrity, spiritual formation, relationship dynamics

In this honest and redemptive episode, we talk with Young Woong Yi—pastor, church planter, and spiritual formation leader—about anger, masculinity, and becoming a safe man. Young shares how growing up in an immigrant household shaped his relationship with emotions, and how repressed sadness and generational patterns of power led to a breaking point in his marriage. He opens up about the life-saving intervention of his church, the deep healing that followed, and what it means to cultivate emotional safety in leadership, relationships, and spiritual formation. This episode is a masterclass in transformation, humility, and the long road to becoming whole.Takeaways“An emotionally volatile man is not a safe man.”Repressed anger often masks deeper emotions like sadness, fear, or shame.Emotional safety is a core component of holistic masculinity.The church can be a place of healing when leaders respond with grace.We often say to our spouse what we never got to say to our parents.Healing begins with language, awareness, and the courage to ask for help.Anger’s gift is advocacy—but only when processed with honesty and care.Spiritual formation must address emotional and mental health, not just theology.Check out more of Young Yi: 📸 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/brotheryoung/Substack: https://substack.com/@brotheryoung 🌐 Church Plant – https://www.instagram.com/kindredchurchmi/Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐 https://threepercentco.com/Chapters(00:00) Meet Young Yi – Pastor, Photographer, Church Planter(02:00) Blake’s Story: Anger Repression and Performance(04:30) A Relationship with Anger?(07:00) Emotional Abuse, Immigrant Parenting, and Powering Up(10:00) Learning How to Win Through Anger(13:00) From Veterinary School to Ministry(16:00) Marriage as a Mirror: Anger Exposed(18:00) “You’re Bullying Me”: The Catalyst for Change(20:00) Church Leadership Responds with Grace(23:00) Six Months of Paid Leave and Intense Therapy(26:00) What Changed Young’s View of Masculinity(29:00) Anger Isn’t Always Justified Action(32:00) The Anger Iceberg & Sadness Beneath the Surface(35:00) Generational Messaging: “Men Don’t Cry”(38:00) Learning to Say: “That Made Me Really Sad”(41:00) Advocating for the Child Within(45:00) How Anger Impacts Spiritual Formation(49:00) Church Culture, Jesus, and Emotional Health(52:00) Final Encouragement to Men: Ask for Help(54:00) Where to Find Young & Kindred ChurchKeywordsYoung Yi, Three Percent, holistic masculinity, anger, emotional safety, immigrant family, Korean American, spiritual formation, church hurt, inner child, marriage counseling, masculinity and emotions, mental health in ministry, vulnerability, leadership, discipleship, shame, sadness, advocacy, safe men, healing, therapy, pastoral care, emotional intelligence, Kindred Church, genogram, Pete Scazzero, Voice of the Heart, Rich Villodas, Chip Dodd, Christian men, identity formation, marriage restoration

In this episode, we sit down with writer, editor, and host of The Writer’s Circle podcast, Will Parker Anderson. Will opens up about the intersection of storytelling and vulnerability, holistic masculinity modeled by Jesus, and why real writing—and real life—requires full presence. From discussing confession and shame to the importance of being known in community, this conversation offers wisdom for anyone seeking healing, depth, and the courage to be honest. Will’s pastoral insight and personal honesty will challenge and comfort you.TakeawaysThe best writing is the overflow of honest living.Holistic masculinity is modeled by Jesus—servanthood over dominance.We can’t be fully known by God if we hide from people.Vulnerability isn’t an event—it’s a habit of letting light in.Confession is painful but leads to soul-level relief and formation.Mentorship and trusted community are vital for healing.Truth-telling opens the door to connection and transformation.Check out more of Will Parker Anderson: 🌐 Website –⁠ writerscircle.co⁠ 🎙️ Podcast – ⁠The Writer’s Circle⁠Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐⁠ www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Meet Will Parker Anderson (02:00) Writing as Overflow of Living (04:30) Holistic Masculinity as Servanthood (09:00) Vulnerability in Storytelling and Relationships (14:00) Why Men Struggle to Tell the Truth (18:00) You Can’t Be Known By God Without Being Known By Others (22:00) Healing from Hurt Happens in Relationship (26:00) The Poison and the Cure Grow Side-by-Side (30:00) Will’s Story of Confession and Grace (36:00) The Risk of Vulnerability (41:00) What Gets Affirmed Gets Repeated (45:00) Neurobiology of Being Seen and Known (50:00) Mentorship and Gentle Discipleship (54:00) Where to Find Will and Writer’s CircleKeywordsWill Parker Anderson, Three Percent, writing and vulnerability, storytelling, holistic masculinity, servanthood, confession, shame, grace, recovery, writer’s circle, Penguin Random House, Substack, emotional intelligence, community, mentorship, being known, faith and healing, honesty, Jesus, fatherhood, integrity, spiritual formation, trauma recovery, mental health, deconstruction, masculinity and faith, relational healing, writing process

In this powerful episode, we sit down with former NFL player and West Point graduate Caleb Campbell to explore his journey from performance-driven success to soul-level healing. Caleb shares how the pressure to be “America’s Athlete” led to emotional collapse—and ultimately, a profound spiritual transformation. Now a speaker and coach, Caleb helps others navigate “threshold moments” where letting go becomes the doorway to becoming more whole. We talk about masculinity, grief, addiction, expansion, and why every death can be a doorway to deeper life. This is not just a conversation—it’s a call to wholeness.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity is less about control and more about presence and emotional safety.Every expansion in life requires a letting go of what no longer serves us.We can’t criticize ourselves into healing—only compassion transforms us.Our greatest transformations often come through grief and ambiguity.External success without internal capacity leads to burnout and collapse.Spiritual growth means returning to what’s always been true: you are already held.Check out more of Caleb Campbell: 🌐 Website –⁠ www.calebcampbell.me⁠ 📸 Instagram –⁠ @caleb_campbell⁠Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐⁠ www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Meeting Caleb Campbell – Athlete, Speaker, Threshold Guide(05:00) What is Holistic Masculinity?(09:00) Disconnection, Performance, and the Wounded Masculine(12:00) NFL Dreams & The Crisis of Identity(18:00) From NFL to Janitor: The Journey of Letting Go(21:00) Discovering Creativity and Storytelling(23:00) A $10,000 Gift & the Call to Keep Telling His Story(27:00) The Role of Grief in Spiritual Expansion(30:00) Ambiguous Grief & Redefining Loss(33:00) Trusting the Darkness as an Invitation(36:00) Choosing the Death That Makes You Bigger(40:00) Living with Original Knowing – You Are Already Held(45:00) Welcoming Home the Loyal Soldiers Within(48:00) Exvangelical Identity & Deconstructing with Compassion(53:00) Caleb’s Upcoming Book & Coaching Work(58:00) Final Reflections on Expansion, Soul Work, and Christ ConsciousnessKeywordsCaleb Campbell, Three Percent, holistic masculinity, grief, expansion, NFL, identity, soul work, spiritual formation, healing, threshold, emotional safety, original knowing, addiction recovery, exvangelical, compassion, personal growth, transformation, deconstruction, presence, wounded masculine, coaching, wholeness, self-awareness, leadership and well-being, emotional healing, men’s work, letting go, faith journey, Richard Rohr, Francis Weller, mysticism, spiritual awakening

In this episode, we talk with Ben Cremer—pastor, writer, and author of Into the Gray—about masculinity, humility, binary thinking, and the deep spiritual cost of choosing power over people. Ben opens up about his painful exit from denominational ministry, how his upbringing in Idaho shaped his faith, and why Jesus' model of strength challenges the dominant cultural narratives of manhood. We explore themes of empathy, nonviolence, spiritual formation, and the courage it takes to be curious and kind in polarized spaces. This conversation is a garden of nuance, honesty, and healing.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity looks like Jesus—not dominance, but humility and presence.Proximity breeds empathy; curiosity breeds compassion.We often choose power over love when fear leads our thinking.The Christian path is about cultivation, not conquest.Humility opens the door to transformation and healing.The incarnation shows us God’s way is relationship, not rigid belief.Repair is more important than rupture; we’re called to be Jesus’ hands, not the Savior.Check out more of Ben Cremer: Instagram –⁠ @brcremer⁠ Newsletter –⁠ Into the Gray⁠⁠Ben's Website⁠⁠Substack⁠⁠X⁠Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐⁠ www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Introduction to Ben Cremer(02:10) Life, Family, and Ministry Roots in Idaho(07:00) Shifts in Denominational Alignment(12:00) Being Pushed Out of the Church You Love(15:00) What is Holistic Masculinity?(20:00) David, Strength, and God’s Rebuke through Nathan(23:00) Gardening vs. Gladiators – Chuck DeGroat's Reflection(26:00) Resurrection and the Garden Metaphor(29:00) Why Don’t We Get It? Power, Fear, and Control(34:00) The Power of Incarnation(37:00) Binary Thinking and the Cost of Certainty(43:00) Online Pastoral Ministry and Personal Boundaries(47:00) Humility in the Face of Misunderstanding(49:00) Final Reflections & Where to Find BenKeywordsBen Cremer, Three Percent, holistic masculinity, Into the Gray, Idaho, spiritual formation, Christian culture, emotional intelligence, binary thinking, fear and power, online ministry, pastoral pain, incarnation, gospel, humility, empathy, compassion, vulnerability, deconstruction, mental health, church hurt, curiosity, Jesus, masculinity, David and Nathan, spiritual growth, gardening metaphor, Chuck DeGroat, discipleship

In this episode, we engage in a deep conversation with Marc Typo about the complexities of fatherhood, masculinity, and emotional expression. We explore the challenges of raising children in a world that often stigmatizes vulnerability, particularly for men. Marc shares his experiences as a father and writer, emphasizing the importance of creating safe spaces for emotional expression and the need for holistic masculinity that embraces both strength and vulnerability. The discussion highlights the impact of upbringing on emotional regulation and the desire to break generational cycles of toxic masculinity.TakeawaysWriting about fatherhood helps Marc maintain focus on gratitude.We are born soft and emotional.It's important to model safety for our children.The lighthouse analogy reflects our role as parents.We need to allow men to be fragile and soft.Creating safe spaces for emotional expression is crucial.Check out more of Marc Typo:Website - ⁠https://www.raisingmyles.com/⁠Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/marc.typo⁠Learn more about Three Percent: ⁠www.threepercentco.comChapters00:00 Exploring Holistic Masculinity07:39 The Journey of Fatherhood12:48 Navigating Emotions and Vulnerability18:50 Selflessness in Parenting20:34 Navigating Fatherhood and Self-Reflection22:43 Confronting Internal Narratives23:59 Emotional Expression in Parenting26:44 Creating Safe Spaces for Children29:57 The Lighthouse Analogy in Parenting32:38 Understanding Softness and Strength36:33 The Journey Back to Emotional Authenticity41:10 Maintaining Safety Amidst TurbulenceKeywordsfatherhood, masculinity, vulnerability, emotional expression, parenting, holistic masculinity, self-awareness, emotional safety, black fatherhood, personal growth, marriage, emotional connection, shame, spirituality, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, childhood experiences, self-compassion, self-contempt, recovery, holistic healing