

After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings
Dear Media and Big Little Feelings
Real talk? Modern parenting is a doozy. There’s never been more pressure to be perfect with social media readily at our fingertips - mixed with total isolation and no help. Where the f*ck is that village everyone talks about? Consider After Bedtime your village. Led by Kristin and Deena - founders of the largest online parenting community, Big Little Feelings - After Bedtime is the place you can go at the end of a long hard day to find your “enough”-ness. We’ll laugh, we’ll cry, we’ll maybe pee our pants a little as we unpack things we’re ALL experiencing but too ashamed to talk about: imperfect marriages, miscarriages, managing toddler mania, apologizing to our kids and everything in between. You’ll leave with actionable, realistic tips to make this whole parenting thing smoother - small changes, big impact. In an age where parents need more *real* connection than ever, let’s talk honestly about the hard - and remind ourselves we are not alone, we are not failing. In fact, we’re f*cking crushing it.
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Jul 23, 2025 • 48min
Deena’s Birth Plan: Birthing Without the Bullsh*t - Autonomy, Advocacy, and Asking for What You Need
If you’ve ever given birth, are about to give birth, or love someone who’s about to, this episode is a MUST. Deena opens up about how she’s preparing for baby #3, and this time? It’s not about a hospital bag or the perfect birth plan. It’s about mental health. Nervous system regulation. Self-advocacy. And building a postpartum setup that actually supports her.In this raw and radically honest conversation, Kristin and Deena go deep on:What Deena learned from two very different birth experiencesHow she’s breaking the fear–tension–pain cycle with science-backed toolsWhy the key to a “good birth” isn’t epidural vs. unmedicated - it’s how you’re treatedWhat it looks like to prep your partner and kids to support you after birthHow to unapologetically ask for what you need - even when it’s uncomfortableYou’ll walk away feeling grounded, empowered, and ready to take up space in your birth and postpartum experience - because you deserve to be held, seen, and supported. This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being powerful.Fisher Price x Big Little Feelings - Brain-boosting play kits designed by expertsThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to HIYAHEALTH.COM/BLF for 50% off of your first order of Hiya Health children's multivitamin!Go to K12.com/BLF today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll today!Head to meritbeauty.com and get their Signature Makeup Bag FREE with your first order!Visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings or use gift code FEELINGS100 at sign-up for your own health. The first 1000 to join using our link get a $100 credit toward their membership.LMNT is offering a free 8-count Sample Pack of their most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/BEDTIME to get yours!Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 16, 2025 • 50min
Why Doesn’t My Kid Listen? (And What to Do Instead of Yelling)
You’re not imagining it: Your kid isn’t listening. But it’s not because they’re defiant. It’s not because you’re a bad parent. And it’s definitely not because you haven’t yelled loud enough. In this episode, we reveal what’s actually going on when your child “doesn’t listen” - and the 5 research-backed strategies that will change everything.You’ll learn:Why kids struggle to process directions (hint: it’s their brain, not bad behavior)How giving your child just 8 seconds can increase cooperation by up to 40%The common parenting habits that backfire—and what to do insteadThe science of co-regulation, timing, and how to speak so kids actually hear youWhat to say, how to say it, and how to stop yelling (without losing your authority)This episode is part wake-up call, part emotional gut check, and part masterclass in getting your kid to listen without fear, shame, or bribes. If you’re stuck in the repeat-yell-regret cycle? Press play. There’s a better way - and we’re here to show it to you.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Get 25% off of your first month at ritual.com/FEELINGS.Get an additional 15% off a Fatty15 90-Day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/BLF and using code BLF at checkout.Function is offering the first 1000 people to use our link a $100 credit towards their membership. To learn more and get started, visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings. Get 40% off your first order of Sundays by going to sundaysfordogs.com/BLF or use code BLF at checkout.Visit fromourplace.com/BLF and use code BLF for 10% off.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 9, 2025 • 41min
How to Be the Parent You Never Had (And Why It’s the Hardest—and Most Important—Work You’ll Ever Do)
If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why am I so triggered by my child’s emotions?” “Why does this feel harder for me than it does for everyone else?” Or “How do I raise emotionally healthy kids… when no one taught me how?” This episode is for you. Kristin and Deena go beneath the surface of parenting and into the work most of us were never taught to do: regulating, repairing, and reparenting yourself while raising your child.You’ll learn:The real reason parenting feels so hard (it’s not you - it’s your nervous system)The science behind regulation and how to actually build it in real timeWhat generational healing looks and feels like - in messy, everyday momentsWhy grief is a part of parenting when you’re doing it differently than you were parentedThe 4 tools to start breaking cycles, even when you’re overwhelmedThis is the episode that helps you understand yourself. And when you understand yourself, you stop blaming yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be the parent you needed.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to HIYAHEALTH.COM/BLF for 50% off of your first order of Hiya Health children's multivitamin!Head to drinkag1.com/BLF to subscribe for less than $3 a day! Get a free welcome kit with a shaker bottle and 5 AG1 travel packs with your firs order. Go to K12.com/BLF today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll today!Function is offering 160 plus lab tests for $365 to anyone who signs up between July 7th and July 11th. To learn more and get started, visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 2, 2025 • 40min
The ONE Thing That Actually Matters in Parenting (And What You Can Finally Stop Worrying About) with Dr. Aliza Pressman
Stop what you’re doing—this episode will change the way you parent forever. Kristin and Deena sit down with the incredible Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist and host of Raising Good Humans, to reveal the ONE parenting thing that really matters (hint: it’s not the perfect lunchbox, perfect summer camp, or perfect anything).What you’ll walk away with: The top thing that makes or breaks your child’s emotional health. What you can finally stop stressing over. Why your “C+” days are actually good enough. How to parent big feelers, highly sensitive kids, and yourself—with science-backed tools and zero guilt.This conversation is honest, hilarious, and full of the kind of real talk that makes you breathe easier as a parent.If you’ve ever thought, “Am I messing this up?”—you need this episode.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 25, 2025 • 46min
Let’s Argue: Screen Time, Co-Sleeping, the Stay-at-Home Shame Spiral, and Other Parenting Hot Topics
What’s more controversial than politics? Parenting. In this unhinged, unfiltered, and unexpectedly heartfelt episode, Kristin, Deena, and Tyler go head-to-head on the most hotly debated parenting topics: screen time, co-sleeping, lying to your kids, SAHM vs working mom, and more. It’s hilarious. It’s real. It’s backed by science and sarcasm. And by the end, you’ll feel seen, soothed, and maybe a little sweaty.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Visit Quince.com/BLF for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 18, 2025 • 50min
3 Food Rules We're Breaking on Purpose to Raise Healthy Eaters
We grew up with food being labeled “good” or “bad.” With sweets treated like gold and guilt baked into every bite. With pressure to finish our plates and shame if we didn’t. We’re breaking that cycle. In this episode, we’re sharing 3 powerful ways we’re helping our kids build a healthy, shame-free relationship with food and their bodies:Why we don’t hype up sweets (no food gets put on a pedestal)Why we never force bites or make them earn dessertWhy we don’t call any food “bad,” not even packaged snacksThis isn’t about raising perfect eaters. It’s about raising kids who trust their bodies, enjoy food, and feel good around the table—for life.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Get 25% off of your first month at ritual.com/FEELINGS.Visit fromourplace.com/BLF and use code BLF for 10% off. Get 40% off your first order of Sundays by going to sundaysfordogs.com/BLF or use code BLF at checkout. Get an additional 15% off a Fatty15 90-Day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/BLF and using code BLF at checkout. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Jun 11, 2025 • 42min
We Almost Got Divorced: What's Saved Deena's Marriage After Kids
Dive into the candid discussion between Deena and her husband as they reveal the raw realities of marriage after kids. They confront silent resentments, the emotional toll of parenting, and the transformative power of therapy. Learn how they navigated communication and rebuilt trust, even during rock-bottom moments. This heartfelt exchange offers relatable insights on shared responsibilities, the struggles of modern parenthood, and the importance of self-care. It's a beacon of hope for anyone feeling lost in the complexities of love and parenting.

Jun 4, 2025 • 35min
The Truth About Toddler Tantrums
You’ve been told tantrums are bad behavior. That your kid is “too much.” That if they’re melting down in the grocery store, you’re doing something wrong. Let’s burn that narrative to the ground.In this raw, science-backed, and radically honest episode, Kristin and Deena unpack the real reason tantrums happen (spoiler: it’s not defiance), why old-school discipline tactics are failing our kids—and ourselves—and what to do instead.We’re breaking generational cycles, regulating in the cereal aisle, and raising kids who don’t have to unlearn their feelings.This isn’t just parenting. It’s a revolution.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 28, 2025 • 52min
Unmasked: Deena’s Autism Diagnosis at 35
For 35 years, she was labeled sensitive, dramatic, weird, too much. But she wasn’t any of those things—she was autistic. And no one saw it.In this raw and powerful episode, we pull back the curtain on how autism is profoundly underdiagnosed in women—and why. We explore how masking, misdiagnosis, and outdated diagnostic tools have led to generations of girls being missed, misunderstood, and misnamed. You’ll hear Deena’s story—what everyone got wrong, what finally clicked, and what it’s like to be diagnosed late in life.This episode isn’t just for people who know they’re autistic. It’s for anyone who’s ever felt like an alien in the world. For the girls who were called difficult. For the women who never felt like they fit. For the parents wondering about their child. For the friend who’s finally starting to see the patterns.This one will shift how you see autism—and how you see yourself. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 21, 2025 • 1min
After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings - Coming Soon!
Modern parenting is a doozy. There’s never been more pressure to be perfect with social media readily at our fingertips - mixed with total isolation and no help. Where the f*ck is that village everyone talks about? Consider After Bedtime your village. Led by Kristin and Deena - founders of the largest online parenting community, Big Little Feelings - After Bedtime is the place you can go at the end of a long hard day to find your “enough”-ness. We’ll laugh, we’ll cry, we’ll maybe pee our pants a little as we unpack things we’re ALL experiencing but too ashamed to talk about: imperfect marriages, miscarriages, managing toddler mania, apologizing to our kids and everything in between. You’ll leave with actionable, realistic tips to make this whole parenting thing smoother - small changes, big impact. In an age where parents need more *real* connection than ever, let’s talk honestly about the hard - and remind ourselves we are not alone, we are not failing. In fact, we’re f*cking crushing.Back for Season 2 next Wednesday, 5/28!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.