

After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings
Dear Media and Big Little Feelings
Real talk? Modern parenting is a doozy. There’s never been more pressure to be perfect with social media readily at our fingertips - mixed with total isolation and no help. Where the f*ck is that village everyone talks about? Consider After Bedtime your village. Led by Kristin and Deena - founders of the largest online parenting community, Big Little Feelings - After Bedtime is the place you can go at the end of a long hard day to find your “enough”-ness. We’ll laugh, we’ll cry, we’ll maybe pee our pants a little as we unpack things we’re ALL experiencing but too ashamed to talk about: imperfect marriages, miscarriages, managing toddler mania, apologizing to our kids and everything in between. You’ll leave with actionable, realistic tips to make this whole parenting thing smoother - small changes, big impact. In an age where parents need more *real* connection than ever, let’s talk honestly about the hard - and remind ourselves we are not alone, we are not failing. In fact, we’re f*cking crushing it.
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Sep 10, 2025 • 59min
When Life Falls Apart: Lake Bell on Parenting, Divorce, and Choosing Peace
In a candid discussion, actor Lake Bell shares her journey through the unexpected challenges of motherhood, especially while navigating her daughter's medical issues. She discusses the emotional toll of co-parenting post-divorce, emphasizing the importance of choosing peace over resentment. Lake reflects on how motherhood unveils one's true self and celebrates the beauty of neurodiversity in her family. Her unfiltered insights reveal resilience and the transformative power of starting over, crafting a new narrative when life gets complicated.

Sep 3, 2025 • 54min
The 3 Shifts That Transformed Our Marriage in the Chaos of Parenting
Parenting doesn’t just test your patience, it tests your marriage. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Kristin and Tyler pull back the curtain on what it really looks like to raise kids, navigate a neurodivergent household, and still fight to stay connected as partners. They share the three shifts that have truly transformed their relationship, from continually , to choosing laughter in the hardest moments.And they don’t stop there. They get honest about the two biggest things they are actively working on every single day - because in the messy, chaotic middle, it takes *work* to keep a marriage from crumbling. If you’ve ever thought, “Are we the only ones struggling?” - you’re not. This episode is proof that repair matters more than perfect, and that even in the chaos, love can grow deeper when you do the work together.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to HIYAHEALTH.COM/BLF for 50% off of your first order of Hiya Health children's multivitamin!Go to BONCHARGE.COM and use coupon code BLF to save 15%!LMNT is offering a free 8-count Sample Pack of their most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/BEDTIME to get yours!Visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings or use gift code FEELINGS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 to join using our link get a $100 credit toward their membership. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Aug 27, 2025 • 46min
91% of Women Hate Their Bodies - And Here's How We Change That
In a candid discussion, they reveal that 91% of women struggle with body image, especially during motherhood. Humor and honesty are key as they tackle the emotional rollercoaster of pregnancy and postpartum experiences. They highlight the damaging effects of societal beauty standards and social media on body perception. Practical advice on fostering body gratitude and neutrality is passionately shared, along with strategies to raise children who embrace their bodies. The message is clear: your body is a home, not a problem.

Aug 20, 2025 • 1h 1min
Autism in Parenting: Embracing Who We Are, Not Fixing What We're Not
Delve into the heartfelt journeys of late-diagnosed autistic parents as they share personal experiences and challenges. Discover the complexities of neurodiversity and the importance of self-acceptance. They candidly discuss decision-making pressures and sensory sensitivities while navigating parenting. Explore imaginative coping mechanisms from childhood and the dynamics of social interactions. With an emphasis on empathy and clear communication, they share strategies for managing emotions, reminding listeners that being different is something to embrace.

Aug 13, 2025 • 51min
'F*ck Around and Find Out' Parenting Is Trending… Should You Try It?
This week, The Wall Street Journal declared the death of gentle parenting and the rise of “F*ck Around and Find Out” discipline. One mom proudly threw her teenager, fully clothed, into a pond for spraying her with a water gun. Another claimed, “My kid is tougher than yours.” The internet is eating it up. Gentle parenting is getting dragged. FAFO parenting is trending. And if you’re a parent in 2025? You’re probably wondering:
What actually works?In this episode, we cut through the noise with the science. You’ll learn:• What the WSJ article got right - and what it missed• The truth about authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative parenting• Why fear-based parenting shuts down your child’s brain• How to raise resilient, emotionally healthy kids without swinging to extremesNo hot takes. No TikTok drama. Just decades of research turned into real-life parenting you can actually do that builds better behavior and long term resilience.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Get 40% off your first order of Sundays by going to sundaysfordogs.com/BLF or use code BLF at checkout.Visit Quince.com/BLF for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Visit fromourplace.com/BLF and use code BLF for 10% off sitewide!LMNT is offering a free 8-count Sample Pack of their most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/BEDTIME to get yours!Get an additional 15% off a Fatty15 90-Day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/BLF and using code BLF at checkout.Get 25% off of your first month at ritual.com/FEELINGS. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Aug 6, 2025 • 48min
Motherhood Today Is Not Okay—And What We Need Instead
Cameron Rogers, a mental health advocate and founder of Conversations with Cam, dives deep into the unfiltered realities of motherhood. She discusses how admitting your struggles can lead to liberation and connection. From forming genuine friendships among moms to embracing the chaos and duality of loving your kids and needing a break, the conversation is both relatable and empowering. Cameron emphasizes the importance of authenticity in parenting and encourages mothers to voice their challenges, reminding them that they are not alone.

Jul 30, 2025 • 32min
Burnout: Why You Feel Exhausted (Even When You're Doing Everything Right)
If you're a parent doing everything for everyone - and still feel like you’re barely holding it together… If you’re exhausted no matter how much sleep you get… If you're doing all the “right” things, but are still snapping, numbing out, or shutting down… You’re not just tired. You’re burnt out.In this episode, we break down the real reason you feel stuck, and what to do about it. You’ll learn:The difference between stress and burnout (and why it’s critical to know it as a parent)How to tell if you're stuck in a stress loop that's wrecking your energy, mood, and connection with your kidsThe 6 science-backed tools that will actually help you feel betterWhat happens to your body and brain when burnout goes untreatedThe small, daily shifts that will help you recover - without changing your entire lifeThis is not self-care fluff. This is neuroscience. This is your permission to stop pushing through - and start coming back to life.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.This episode of After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/FEELINGS. Our listeners get 10% off their first month!Visit TubbyTodd.com and use code TubbyToddBigLittleFeelings15 at checkout for 15% off your first purchase! Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 23, 2025 • 48min
Deena’s Birth Plan: Birthing Without the Bullsh*t - Autonomy, Advocacy, and Asking for What You Need
If you’ve ever given birth, are about to give birth, or love someone who’s about to, this episode is a MUST. Deena opens up about how she’s preparing for baby #3, and this time? It’s not about a hospital bag or the perfect birth plan. It’s about mental health. Nervous system regulation. Self-advocacy. And building a postpartum setup that actually supports her.In this raw and radically honest conversation, Kristin and Deena go deep on:What Deena learned from two very different birth experiencesHow she’s breaking the fear–tension–pain cycle with science-backed toolsWhy the key to a “good birth” isn’t epidural vs. unmedicated - it’s how you’re treatedWhat it looks like to prep your partner and kids to support you after birthHow to unapologetically ask for what you need - even when it’s uncomfortableYou’ll walk away feeling grounded, empowered, and ready to take up space in your birth and postpartum experience - because you deserve to be held, seen, and supported. This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being powerful.Fisher Price x Big Little Feelings - Brain-boosting play kits designed by expertsThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to HIYAHEALTH.COM/BLF for 50% off of your first order of Hiya Health children's multivitamin!Go to K12.com/BLF today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll today!Head to meritbeauty.com and get their Signature Makeup Bag FREE with your first order!Visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings or use gift code FEELINGS100 at sign-up for your own health. The first 1000 to join using our link get a $100 credit toward their membership.LMNT is offering a free 8-count Sample Pack of their most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/BEDTIME to get yours!Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 16, 2025 • 50min
Why Doesn’t My Kid Listen? (And What to Do Instead of Yelling)
You’re not imagining it: Your kid isn’t listening. But it’s not because they’re defiant. It’s not because you’re a bad parent. And it’s definitely not because you haven’t yelled loud enough. In this episode, we reveal what’s actually going on when your child “doesn’t listen” - and the 5 research-backed strategies that will change everything.You’ll learn:Why kids struggle to process directions (hint: it’s their brain, not bad behavior)How giving your child just 8 seconds can increase cooperation by up to 40%The common parenting habits that backfire—and what to do insteadThe science of co-regulation, timing, and how to speak so kids actually hear youWhat to say, how to say it, and how to stop yelling (without losing your authority)This episode is part wake-up call, part emotional gut check, and part masterclass in getting your kid to listen without fear, shame, or bribes. If you’re stuck in the repeat-yell-regret cycle? Press play. There’s a better way - and we’re here to show it to you.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Get 25% off of your first month at ritual.com/FEELINGS.Get an additional 15% off a Fatty15 90-Day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/BLF and using code BLF at checkout.Function is offering the first 1000 people to use our link a $100 credit towards their membership. To learn more and get started, visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings. Get 40% off your first order of Sundays by going to sundaysfordogs.com/BLF or use code BLF at checkout.Visit fromourplace.com/BLF and use code BLF for 10% off.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 9, 2025 • 41min
How to Be the Parent You Never Had (And Why It’s the Hardest—and Most Important—Work You’ll Ever Do)
If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why am I so triggered by my child’s emotions?” “Why does this feel harder for me than it does for everyone else?” Or “How do I raise emotionally healthy kids… when no one taught me how?” This episode is for you. Kristin and Deena go beneath the surface of parenting and into the work most of us were never taught to do: regulating, repairing, and reparenting yourself while raising your child.You’ll learn:The real reason parenting feels so hard (it’s not you - it’s your nervous system)The science behind regulation and how to actually build it in real timeWhat generational healing looks and feels like - in messy, everyday momentsWhy grief is a part of parenting when you’re doing it differently than you were parentedThe 4 tools to start breaking cycles, even when you’re overwhelmedThis is the episode that helps you understand yourself. And when you understand yourself, you stop blaming yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be the parent you needed.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to HIYAHEALTH.COM/BLF for 50% off of your first order of Hiya Health children's multivitamin!Head to drinkag1.com/BLF to subscribe for less than $3 a day! Get a free welcome kit with a shaker bottle and 5 AG1 travel packs with your firs order. Go to K12.com/BLF today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll today!Function is offering 160 plus lab tests for $365 to anyone who signs up between July 7th and July 11th. To learn more and get started, visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.