
After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings
Real talk? Modern parenting is a doozy. There’s never been more pressure to be perfect with social media readily at our fingertips - mixed with total isolation and no help. Where the f*ck is that village everyone talks about? Consider After Bedtime your village. Led by Kristin and Deena - founders of the largest online parenting community, Big Little Feelings - After Bedtime is the place you can go at the end of a long hard day to find your “enough”-ness. We’ll laugh, we’ll cry, we’ll maybe pee our pants a little as we unpack things we’re ALL experiencing but too ashamed to talk about: imperfect marriages, miscarriages, managing toddler mania, apologizing to our kids and everything in between. You’ll leave with actionable, realistic tips to make this whole parenting thing smoother - small changes, big impact. In an age where parents need more *real* connection than ever, let’s talk honestly about the hard - and remind ourselves we are not alone, we are not failing. In fact, we’re f*cking crushing it.
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Feb 14, 2024 • 44min
If Your Parenting Feels Gentle, You’re Doing it Wrong: The Secret to Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids
Learn how labeling feelings empowers kids to be emotionally resilient. Discover techniques to handle big emotions, develop emotional intelligence early on, and raise strong kids. Dive into the importance of setting boundaries while acknowledging feelings, with a special guest sharing insights on suppressing emotions. Explore creating safe spaces for emotional expression and the balance between firm boundaries and nurturing emotional competence in parenting.

Feb 7, 2024 • 42min
Family Planning: The Best Age Gap and Optimal Number of Kids!
On today’s episode we dive into something that SO many of us agonize over once we become parents. We’re talking about optimal age gaps, how many kids is the “right” amount of kids to have, and everyyyything that goes into making those decisions. On this episode we cover:
How many kids is the ideal number of kids to have?
The ideal age gap: What the *actual research* says in terms of child developmental outcomes AND parental happiness
How to deal when fertility struggles impacts your age gap/number of kids plans
Two under two: Setting your kids up to be lifelong best friends or a recipe for TOTAL CHAOS?
BUSTING the myths about only children
Concrete questions to ask yourself to to figure out what is best for YOUR family
The transcript of the episode can be found here!
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Jan 31, 2024 • 33min
Q&A Episode 4: SUPER EASY Toddler Dinners + Hacks for Taking Your Kids Out to Eat!
Back by popular demand, today’s episode answers YOUR burning parenting questions! From parenting to the personal, join us as we get REAL and dig in on the rollercoaster that is raising toddlers. On this episode we cover:
Helpful hacks for taking your kids out in public—and not having it be a total disaster
Is handing your kid an iPad at a restaurant really going to ruin them?
Go-to dinner ideas for when you’re TOTALLY drained
Tips backed in neuroscience to help your kid regain confidence and make them feel safe after something scary happens
Tools to teach your toddler NOW to set them up to handle hard moments throughout their whole life
PLUS: Deena and her husband have started couples therapy—how is it going?!?
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Jan 24, 2024 • 31min
Deena's Endometriosis Update: Navigating Pain and Planning Ahead
Today’s episode is a bestie catchup where Deena gives us the latest updates on her endometriosis journey. Join us as we catch up on how she’s doing after her endometriosis surgery and how she’s coming to terms with her *other* diagnoses. Highlights include:
How her surgery failed from relieving her symptoms
Dispatches from a less-than-positive post-op appointment
What exactly is adenomyosis—and why does it leave some women suffering all the way until menopause?
Will this *triple whammy* diagnosis affect her fertility?
The “bad” news that is actually bringing her a TON of hope
Will the thought of MORE painful periods be enough to make Deena move up her plans to get pregnant again?
The transcript of this episode can be found here!
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Jan 17, 2024 • 1h 3min
Special Guest Emily Oster: How to Cut Through Parent Guilt and Get Down to What Actually Matters
Emily Oster, a Professor of Economics and parenting expert, advises on navigating parenting guilt and making informed decisions based on data. Topics include setting children up for success, screen time limits, effective discipline, and the impact of summer birthdays on kindergarten readiness.

Jan 10, 2024 • 52min
Resolutions are Bullsh*t: Getting Rid of the Guilt in 2024
Despite what our Instagram feeds are telling us, we actually DON’T need to suddenly become a whole new person the day the calendar hits January 1st.Sure, the new year is a great opportunity for reflection, self-awareness, and goal setting. And? It can also be a recipe for MORE guilt, stress, and pressure that we really DO NOT need in our lives! On today’s episode, we talk about why typical New Year’s resolutions are kiiiinda bullsh*t—and how to take steps toward self-improvement in a *sustainable* way instead. On this episode, we’re going to:
Show you how to release the pressure and bust through all the bullsh*t we’re fed about self-improvement
Teach you a quick, EASY 5 minute daily practice that’s rooted in science to make you instantly more intentional and happier!
Tell you EXACTLY what to do in the moment when our toddler says a swear word
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Dec 27, 2023 • 36min
Painful Periods, Dismissive Doctors & a Diagnosis: Deena’s Endometriosis Journey
On today’s episode, Deena tells all about her journey with endometriosis. Endometriosis affects 11% of women, so we have to ask ourselves, WHY is it SO effing hard to get a diagnosis and WHY aren’t more people talking about it?!? We go DEEP and cover it all, from the periods that left Deena doubled over in pain, to the doctors that brushed her off, to her recent surgery and recovery—and why it doesn’t just end there. If this episode helps one single woman to trust her intuition, remember she's not alone, and advocate for herself when it comes to her OWN body, it will be a story worth sharing. PLUS:
A real time update from Deena on her endometriosis surgery and recovery
How the recovery process has been SUPER healing for her marriage
What exactly is endometriosis—and why is it SO freaking painful?
Will this diagnosis affect Deena’s hopes to have another baby?!
The symptoms that she was being told to ignore that ALL women should look out for
A few concerning surprises that she was not totally expecting...
Why she’s feeling a mix of SO relieved and super scared of the unknown
The transcript of this episode can be found here!
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Dec 20, 2023 • 42min
MORE Burning Parenting Questions, ANSWERED: Q&A No. 3
By popular demand, we are back with another episode where we answer all of YOUR burning questions that you’ve sent in to us! On this episode we cover:
The No. 1 key to preventing potty pushback (and all other kinds of pushback, too!)
How to STOP the pushback and negotiating from your tiny toddler
How to teach “stranger danger” and keep our kids safe *without* making them scared of all new people
Our number one hack for preventing tantrums
A spicy round of “Eff, marry, kill” featuring some of our favorite Bravo-lebrities
Alllll the hot tips and tricks for getting out the door for school with preschoolers and toddlers (and why Kristin chooses to ignore them!)
The transcript of this episode can be found here
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Dec 13, 2023 • 32min
Your Burning Parenting Questions, ANSWERED: Q&A Episode 2
Back by popular demand, we’re devoting another episode to answering YOUR burning questions. Join us as we answer your biggest toddler + parenting Q’s! Highlights include:
Will the magic of Santa ruin your relationship with your child like social media says it will?!
How exactly to handle the Santa thing, in a way that works for YOU
How to prevent jealousy and sibling rivalry from the start, right when you bring new baby home from the hospital
EXACTLY what to do when your kid suddenly won’t touch vegetables with a ten-foot pole
The honest truth about why Deena cut her long hair after having a second baby
Kristin’s Britney Spears lightbulb moment that we NEED to be talking about
The transcript of this episode can be found here!
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Dec 6, 2023 • 54min
Andy Cohen on Parenting Housewives AND Toddlers + Which One is Harder 😂
Today we welcome toddler dad, fellow BLF Bestie, and absolute LEGEND, Andy Cohen!!!! (IS THIS REAL LIFE?!) The King of Bravo himself joins Kristin, Deena, and Tyler as we chat all things Housewives, dad life, and how he juggles it all. This episode is sheer fun *and* will leave you feeling so empowered as a parent! PLUS:
Learn how Andy blazed his own path in life and totally transformed reality TV as we know it today (Spoiler alert: It’s inspiring AF)
Find out how Andy balances a busy career and QT time with his kids
Andy gets vulnerable and shares about guilt and tough parenting moments
We reveal the No. 1 thing that all toddlers *and* Housewives really want
Andy gives us the inside scoop on how Watch What Happens Live came to be
We pay homage to Watch What Happens Live and play a spicy round of “Plead the Fifth”
The transcript of the episode can be found here!
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