Being Human

Dr. Greg wraps up the series on narcissism by going beneath behavior and willpower, drawing on JP2 and psychology to show how real healing happens at the subconscious level. Learn how narcissistic patterns can be unburdened and integrated with compassion—not erased or fought—so healing can actually take root. Key Topics: Why a narcissistic part is not a monster, but a protector How deep wounds get buried beneath conscious awareness and still drive behavior Why healing isn't about willpower or "trying harder" How narcissistic patterns can be unburdened and integrated, rather than erased Learn More: Being Human episodes on Narcissism: Ep. #263: Holiness and Narcissism: Undoing the Knots with Awareness, Self-Determination, Empathy and Our Lady Ep. #262: Spiritual Narcissism: Exposing the Sneaky Way We Use Religion as a Pattern of Protection Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Related blog articles: The Problem with the Bishop Scandals Outlining Narcissistic Personality Disorder The Two Types of Narcissism Being Human episodes on Parts Work: Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Ep. #47: How to Turn Your Inner Worst Enemies into Your Inner Best Friends Person and Act by Karol Wojtyla (Pope Saint John Paul II) Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

A deep look at spiritual narcissism and how common religious phrases can silence real healing. They examine how status, holiness displays, and overemphasis on prayer can erode intuition and trust. The conversation highlights conditional love in spiritual spaces, boundary-setting as mercy, and practical steps to spot and exit controlling dynamics. Themes of empathy, autonomy, and Our Lady Undoer of Knots recur throughout.

When faith is used to silence, control, or end conversations, something has gone wrong. In this episode, Dr. Greg exposes spiritual narcissism—the hidden way woundedness disguises itself as holiness and quietly breaks relationships from the inside out. Key Topics: Why spiritual maturity does not automatically include emotional maturity How faith can unconsciously be used to shut down dialogue Why boundaries can be an authentic act of mercy How real healing requires integration, not just more prayer or effort How spiritual language can become a shield against vulnerability rather than a path to communion Why grace perfects nature but does not bypass psychological woundedness Why marriage is not a chain of command but a mutual gift of self How authority language can become a warning sign instead of a virtue Why feeling confused, guilty, or silenced in a "faithful" relationship signals deeper misalignment Learn More: Related blog articles: The Problem with the Bishop Scandals Outlining Narcissistic Personality Disorder The Two Types of Narcissism Being Human episodes on Narcissism: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Ep. #68: "I'm Not Narcissistic, You're Narcissistic!" Ep. #67: An Antidote to Narcissism Ep. #21: A Look at Narcissist Personality Disorder Being Human Ep. #201: Is Leadership of the Family a Man's Job? Being Human episodes on Parts Work: Ep. #49: Internal Family Systems & External Family Tensions Ep. #47: How to Turn Your Inner Worst Enemies into Your Inner Best Friends Pastores Dabo Vobis (St. John Paul II) – On human formation as the foundation of spiritual, intellectual, and pastoral growth Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Explore the hidden dynamics of narcissism as Dr. Greg reveals that willpower alone isn't enough for real change. Delve into the concept of 'the terror of being ordinary,' highlighting the anxiety behind grandiosity and the role of conditional love in shaping narcissistic traits. Greg discusses the importance of understanding blind spots and how relationships serve as mirrors for self-discovery. He emphasizes that healing requires deeper work, not just external support, pointing towards paths of insight and personal growth.

Joseph González, an author and researcher known for his work on Guadalupe and the Flower World Prophecy, shares insightful revelations about the Guadalupe story. He explains how the tilma may overshadow deeper narratives and discusses the ancient poetry that parallels Juan Diego's account. González connects cultural contexts to modern crises and emphasizes the significance of Nahua spirituality. He illustrates how the flower symbols signify truth and hope, culminating in Guadalupe's powerful role in evangelization and divine providence.

The saints aren't waiting to be admired — they're actively trying to help us right now. In this episode, Dr. Greg sits down with Dr. Gerard McNicholas to unpack the psychology of devotion, what a living relationship with the saints can look like, and why the "messiness" that sometimes shows up during consecrations may actually be where God is doing His most personal work. Key Topics: Why Dr. Greg says most of us "block" the saints. How devotion becomes a real relationship instead of just a pious habit. When consecrations stir up drama—and why that can be a good sign. The psychology behind spiritual "trends" and jumping into devotions too fast. How scrupulosity and the "tyranny of the shoulds" hijack your prayer life. Why St. Joseph and Our Lady want to be part of your daily life. A simple four-step way to ride out anxiety and spiritual desolation. How friendship and Ignatian wisdom keep you from panicking in hard seasons. Why letting the saints "do their job" can change how you suffer. Learn More: Being Human Ep. #56: Writing Your Story with God with Dr. Gerard McNicholas "When Coping Mechanisms Aren't Enough" – Dr. Gerard McNicholas' interview on The Catholic Sinner Show Catholic Mindfulness Virtual Retreat – An 8-week journey into peace, trust, and deeper relationship with God The Surrender Novena by Fr. Dolindo Ruotolo – A devotion rooted in surrendering control and trusting Jesus more fully. Hope and Help for Your Nerves — Dr. Claire Weekes' classic guide on anxiety, panic, and nervous suffering Summit of Integration – Be the first to hear about event updates and special offers Consecration to Jesus through Joseph by Dr. Greg Bottaro and Jen Settle – A deep dive into devotion, psychology, and relationship through the Holy Family Consecration to St. Joseph – Fr. Donald Calloway's guide to rediscovering the fatherhood and mission of Joseph Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Dr. Greg hits record on a Christmas group call with the CatholicPsych Leadership Council, and things immediately go off-script—in the best way. It's a chaotic, joyful, surprisingly deep year-in-review with candid moments, real humanity, and honest conversation about vocation, formation, and the Holy Spirit, plus a few teasers for 2026. Key Topics: The unseen personal work behind CatholicPsych's growth this past year Why real formation often feels disorienting before it feels hopeful Why integration of faith and psychology can't be fully explained—only experienced What the Summit revealed that no amount of planning could have predicted What's emerging next for CatholicPsych as it moves beyond a single voice or brand Hints about what 2026 will hold (including JP2, pilgrimage, and deeper community) Learn More: Summit of Integration 2026 – Be the first to hear updates on CatholicPsych's annual gathering focused on integration, formation, and community. Further reading: The Art of Existential Counseling by Fr. Adrian Van Kaam The Flight from Woman by Karl Stern Pilgrimage to Poland (in the footsteps of St. John Paul II) – Interested in joining? Sign up to receive updates. Previous episode on Our Lady of Guadalupe: Ep. #257: This Book Just Changed My Life: Our Lady of Guadalupe and the Flower World Prophecy Previous episode on St. Thomas Aquinas and women: Ep. #250: Correcting Luther…and Aquinas? Calling Out Disintegration in the Church Dating Back to the Reformation Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Joseph Julian González, a composer and author dedicated to indigenous Nahuatl poetry, shares his insights on the transformative story of Our Lady of Guadalupe. He discusses the Flower World prophecy and its deep connection to indigenous spirituality. The conversation reveals the dramatic scale of conversions tied to Guadalupe, while also exploring the challenges missionaries faced in understanding cultural nuances. González highlights key motifs from Nahuatl traditions that align with the miraculous events surrounding Juan Diego, emphasizing the rich, prophetic tapestry of faith.

Fr. Colin Lomnitzer, a Diocesan priest from Bridgeport, discusses the profound impact of St. Joseph on Jesus and fatherhood. He delves into how Joseph’s actions challenge generations of wounded fatherhood and offer healing for those struggling with their own experiences. The conversation highlights baptism as a reparenting opportunity and explores Joseph's role in shaping healthy masculinity and emotional support. Fr. Colin emphasizes the importance of mentorship and St. Joseph's exemplary virtues as models for men today.

Kate LeFaivre shares the night everything changed—going to bed a wife and waking up a widow with eight kids, no warning, and a faith that had to carry her through shock. Dr. Greg and Kate explore what happens when the spiritual life meets real loss, and how grace shows up in places we never expect. Key Topics: The night Kate's husband died suddenly and the shock that reshaped her family forever How she navigated telling eight children their father was gone—and the hidden moments she only learned about years later The grief "checklist" she followed for a year…and why she still felt worse The Holy Week moment when Kate heard God speak directly into her despair The long, unexpected journey of becoming "a whole person" again after the death of a spouse How community support (and true, non-taking friendship) carried her through the darkest days What it was really like to consider dating again as a widowed mother of eight The birth of Mosaic Mentorship and why Kate now helps others rebuild beauty from broken pieces Learn More: Connect with Kate LeFaivre — Learn more about Mosaic Mentorship and Kate's work accompanying those carrying heavy grief CanaVox — A resource for understanding and strengthening marriage through research-based reading groups Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn