How to Be Awesome at Your Job

Ryan Jenkins tackles the overlooked problem of loneliness in the workplace and shares expert tips for fostering connection and belonging for both yourself and your team. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) Why you can still feel lonely around other people 2) Just how loneliness is harming our health and productivity 3) The simplest thing you can do now to feel less lonely Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep751 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT RYAN — Ryan Jenkins CSP® is an internationally-recognized keynote speaker and three-time published author. He speaks all over the world to companies such as State Farm, Salesforce, Wells Fargo, FedEx, Liberty Mutual, and John Deere. For a decade, he has been helping organizations create engaged, inclusive, and high-performing teams by lessening worker loneliness and closing generational gaps. Ryan’s top-ranked insights have been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, and The Wall Street Journal. He is also co-founder of LessLonely.com, the world’s first resource fully dedicated to reducing worker isolation and strengthening team connections. Ryan lives in Atlanta, GA, with his wife, three children, and yellow Labrador. • Book: Connectable: How Leaders Can Move Teams From Isolated to All In • Tool: Team Connection Assessment • Tiktok: @ryanandsteven • Podcast: The Case for Connection — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Tool: Evernote • Tool: Asana • Tool: Boomerang • Study: Harvard Study of Adult Development • Study: Project Aristotle • Video: Space Oddity with Chris Hadfield • Figure: Christina Koch • Book: Thank You for Being Late: An Optimist's Guide to Thriving in the Age of Accelerations by Thomas Friedman • Book: The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work by Shawn Achor • Past episode: 311: Communication Secrets from FBI Kidnapping Negotiator Chris Voss — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Lexus. Check out the lovely innovations in the all-new 2022 Lexus NX at https://lexus.com/nx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bill Eckstrom discusses how top coaches inspire and challenge their teams to grow. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The six things effective coaches do differently 2) The wrong and right way to challenge your team to grow 3) Three morning habits to make every day a great day Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep750 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT BILL — Bill Eckstrom is the CEO and founder of Ecsell Institute. Bill’s robust professional career path has encompassed sales, sales leadership, executive leadership with both private and publicly traded companies, as a founder of start-ups, and even as an athletic coach. In 2008, he established Ecsell Institute to fill a void he witnessed and personally experienced in the coaching and leadership profession within businesses. Since then, EcSell’s research and improvement programming has been utilized in the athletic and academic worlds, spawning his new start-ups Ecsell Sports and Ecsell Education in 2019.  • Book: The Coaching Effect: What Great Leaders Do to Increase Sales, Enhance Performance, and Sustain Growth • TEDx Talks: “Why comfort will ruin your life” • Website: BillEckstrom.com • Company: EcSell Institute — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Documentary: The Playbook • Book: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl • Past episode: 357: The Six Morning Habits of High Performers with Hal Elrod — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Athletic Greens. Support your health with my favorite greens supplement. Free 1-year supply of Vitamin D and 5 travel packs when you purchase from athleticgreens.com/awesome.• University of California Irvine. Chart your course to career success at ce.uci.edu/learnnowSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Behavioral psychologist Thomas Curran reveals the science behind perfectionism and why it’s perfectly OK to be imperfect. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) Why perfectionism is not correlated with performance 2) The self-limiting beliefs underlying perfectionism 3) The tools to combat perfectionism Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep749 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT THOMAS — Thomas Curran is a British Psychological Society chartered social psychologist. His primary area of expertise is the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts on mental health. He is the author of over 30 published papers and book chapters on related topics and has received numerous awards for his scholarship and research. Informed by his research and expertise in data analysis, he has previously lectured to undergraduates in the UK and Australia. He now teaches research methods and statistics units in the Department of Psychological and Behavioural Science. • Twitter: @thom_curran • Website: ThomasCurran.co.uk — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Our Inner Conflicts: A CONSTRUCTIVE THEORY OF NEUROSIS (International Library of Psychology) by Karen Horney • Book: The Neurotic Personality of Our Time by Karen Horney — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Lexus. Check out the lovely innovations in the all-new 2022 Lexus NX at https://lexus.com/nx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Karen Martin shares her top tips for clearly communicating what you mean and getting others to do the same. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) How to speak your mind without coming off as harsh 2) The one question to ask when someone’s being unclear 3) Fuzzy words you should stop using immediately Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep748 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT KAREN — Karen Martin, president of the global consulting firm TKMG, Inc., is a leading authority on business performance and Lean management. Known for her keen diagnostic skills and rapid-results approach, Karen and her team have worked with clients such as AT&T, Chevron, Epson, GlaxoSmithKline, International Monetary Fund, Lenovo, Mayo Clinic, Prudential Insurance, Qualcomm, and the United States Department of Homeland Security to develop more efficient work systems, grow market share, solve business problems, and accelerate performance. • Book: Clarity First: How Smart Leaders and Organizations Achieve Outstanding Performance • Book: The Outstanding Organization: Generate Business Results by Eliminating Chaos and Building the Foundation for Everyday Excellence • Website: TKMG.com • Academy Website: TKMGAcademy.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Article: “Multitasking undermines our efficiency, study suggests” • Book: Out of the Crisis by Edwards Deming • Book: The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway • Past episode: 382: The Immense Power of Clarity with Karen Martin — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Lexus. Check out the lovely innovations in the all-new 2022 Lexus NX at https://lexus.com/nxSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Patrick Kilner reveals why traditional networking methods no longer work—and shares his simple process for expanding influence. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) Why everyone needs to find six key relationships 2) The simple secret to winning anyone over 3) One question you should never ask—and another you should always ask Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep747 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT PATRICK — Pat Kilner has created and led three companies: two in the real estate space and one in the training world. He’s currently the CEO of the Kilner Companies which includes The Kilner & Kirk Group, The Indispensable Agent, and Tower Hill Enterprises. Pat is also the co-founder of the DC Accelerator, a young professional development non-profit. Pat serves on the boards of primary education initiatives and donates time to develop strategic plans for inner-city non-profits at the service of youth in the DC metro area. His companies support the special needs community in the DC areas as well as in Jamaica. He studied business and philosophy at The Catholic University of America and taught and studied economics at the Universidad de Navarra in Pamplona, Spain, where he achieved a Master’s degree. Pat lives in the Maryland suburbs of Washington DC with his wife, Elena, and their children.  • Book: Find Your Six: Stop Lead Generating & Start Building Influence • Website: FindYourSix.com • Website: PatrickKilner.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Tool: Google Ngram • Tool: OptimalWork.com • Book: Who's Got Your Back: The Breakthrough Program to Build Deep, Trusting Relationships That Create Success--and Won't Let You Fail by Keith Ferrazzi • Book: Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life by Luke Burgis • Book: The Wright Brothers by David McCullough — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Lexus. Check out the lovely innovations in the all-new 2022 Lexus NX at https://lexus.com/nx • FSAstore.com. Use your flex spending account funds with the greatest of ease!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Zoe Chance shares practical advice on building relationships and influencing others. Learn about motivating factors beyond money, exuding warmth, and asking impactful questions. Explore topics like advocating for oneself, frustrations in financial decisions, and the importance of warmth in influencing others. Discover insights on fostering deep connections and influence through simplicity and engaging experiences.

Tessa West, an Associate Professor of Psychology at NYU and author of "Jerks at Work," shares her expertise on navigating toxic workplaces. She explores the seven common types of workplace jerks and offers strategies to handle difficult bosses and coworkers. Listeners learn how to recognize intentional jerks and identify their own workplace behaviors. Tessa emphasizes the importance of communication and self-awareness to improve workplace dynamics, along with the need for proactive approaches to manage conflicts before they escalate.

Nate Zinsser reveals practices that athletes and military cadets use to overcome pressure and build the confidence to perform anytime and anywhere.  — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) Why confidence is a skill–not a quality 2) How to make affirmations work for you 3) What to do when you feel unmotivated Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep744 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT NATE — Dr. Nate Zinsser is the Director of the Performance Psychology Program at the United States Military Academy at West Point, the most comprehensive mental training program in the country, where, since 1992, he has helped prepare cadets for leadership in the U.S. Army. He also has been the sport-psychology mentor for numerous elite athletes, including two-time Super Bowl MVP Eli Manning and the NHL’s Philadelphia Flyers, as well as many Olympians and NCAA champions. He has been a consultant for the FBI Academy, U.S. Army Recruiting Command, and the Fire Department of New York. He earned his Ph.D. in sport psychology from the University of Virginia and his senior black belt rank from Shotokan Karate of America. • Book: The Confident Mind: A Battle-Tested Guide to Unshakable Performance • Website: DrNateZinsser.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: Talking Yourself Out of Exhaustion • Study: “The Psychology of Change: Self-Affirmation and Social Psychological Intervention” by Geoffrey Cohen and David Sherman (PDF download) • Book: Endure: Mind, Body, and the Curiously Elastic Limits of Human Performance by Alex Hutchinson • Past episode: 357: The Six Morning Habits of High Performers with Hal Elrod — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • LinkedIn Jobs. Find quality hires fast with a free job posting at LinkedIn.com/beawesome. • Athletic Greens. Support your health with my favorite greens supplement. Free 1-year supply of Vitamin D and 5 travel packs when you purchase from athleticgreens.com/awesome. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Keith Ferrazzi reveals fresh best practices for working and leading in the post-COVID world of work.  — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The four critical shifts teams need to make 2) Two tiny tweaks that vastly improve team morale 3) Time-saving alternatives to time-wasting meetings Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep743 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT KEITH — Keith Ferrazzi is a bestselling author, speaker, investor, philanthropist, and executive team coach who helps teams transform enterprises. As Founder and Chairman of Ferrazzi Greenlight, its applied research institute, he coaches executive teams in top organizations to achieve extraordinary outcomes. He formerly served as CMO of Deloitte and Starwood Hotels. He is the author of the new book, COMPETING IN THE NEW WORLD OF WORK: How Radical Adaptability Separates the Best from the Rest. • Book: Competing in the New World of Work: How Radical Adaptability Separates the Best from the Rest • Book: Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time • Website: RadicallyAdapt.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Article: “Why We Need Best Friends at Work” by Annamarie Mann • Book: The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald • Tool: MURAL — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Lexus. Check out the lovely innovations in the all-new 2022 Lexus NX at https://lexus.com/nx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Wendy Wood reveals recent science behind habit formation and how you can use it to reshape your own behavior. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The trick to building habits 2) Why context is so crucial for habits 3) The one question to control your bad habit Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep742 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT WENDY — Wendy Wood is a behavioral scientist who is Provost Professor of Psychology and Business at the University of Southern California. She is the author of the book, Good Habits, Bad Habits. For the past 30 years, she has been researching the nature of habits and why they are so difficult to change. • Book: Good Habits, Bad Habits: The Science of Making Positive Changes That Stick • Instagram: @profwendywood • Twitter: @ProfWendyWood — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: The Principles of Psychology by William James • Book: Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything by BJ Fogg • Past episode: 317: How to Form Habits the Smart Way with BJ Fogg, PhD • Past episode: 665: How to Make Lasting Change – According to Science – with Katy Milkman See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.