Death on the Daily

I am joined today by my darling husband Jordan Young (also known as sneaker content creator Sneakernomics) about his Māori culture. We look at beliefs and tradition surrounding death, the afterlife, and the importance of ancestry.  Exploring how cultural practices shape our understanding of life and death, the significance of Tangihanga (Māori funerals), and the role of grief in connecting with the land and community. Jordan shares insights on the importance of whakapapa (genealogy) and how these traditions can guide modern living, emphasising the need for catharsis and community support in times of loss. Key Takeaways: Cultural practices are essential for maintaining identity. Māori culture places high importance on acknowledging the dead. Whakapapa connects individuals to their ancestry and identity. Grief is openly expressed and embraced in Māori culture. Tangihanga provides a way to mourn and celebrate life. Tangi means to cry or weep in Māori.  Community support is vital during times of loss. Cultural richness comes from storytelling and oral traditions. Connection to the land is crucial for understanding our place in the world. Indigenous cultures offer valuable lessons on stewardship and balance. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Plus I always love to hear from you, so please do drop a comment or message to me here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  You can connect with Jordan Young here for his sneaker content (slightly different topic to our chat today!):   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sneakernomicz TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sneakernomics The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters: 00:00: Cultural Connections and the Essence of Existence 04:02: Māori Beliefs on Death and Afterlife 07:51: Whakapapa: The Importance of Ancestry 12:30: Cultural Richness and Modern Life 16:03: Grief and Connection to the Land 19:56: Tangihanga: Māori Funeral Traditions 30:05: Catharsis and Community in Grief

Who are you when you strip away all the masks, roles, and expectations? In this transformative episode, I (Tanya Wilkinson) take a deep dive into the death of our inauthentic self - the part of us that clings to societal norms, old identities, and illusions of who we “should” be. Through honest reflections and insights, we’ll explore how the shedding of our false selves, though painful, leads to the ultimate rebirth: stepping into the truth of who we are.  This is an invitation to go on a lifelong journey of awareness, rooting into what is aligned in each season in life, and letting go of what no longer serves you - so that you can embrace the freedom of authenticity. Key Takeaways:  How can I be here for myself? Authenticity is a commitment to being present with ourselves. Letting go of inauthentic parts is a lifelong journey. Finding joy and purpose is essential for alignment. Compassion is key when reflecting on our inauthentic selves. We can curate our lives like an art gallery. Presence helps us recognize what feels aligned and what doesn't. Change is a constant in our lives, and we must adapt. Journaling can help uncover what brings us joy. Every small step towards authenticity counts. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Plus I always love to hear from you, so please do drop a comment or message to me here:  Instagram: instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  Chapters 00:00: Exploring Our Authenticity and Self-Reflection 02:59: The Journey of Letting Go 05:49: Finding Joy and Presence 09:13: The Death of Inauthenticity 12:08: Curating a Life of Joy 14:53: Navigating Change and Growth 18:13: Embracing Compassion in the Journey 21:02: My Commitment to Self-Discovery

I am joined by the Queen of Sparkle, Carole Pyke, to explore the profound themes of personal death, transformation, and self-discovery.  Carole shares her journey of living with retrograde amnesia and how it has shaped her authenticity and living life without fears that tie so many of us down.  Our discussion emphasises the value of recognising one's own sparkle and the power of perspective in navigating life's complexities. We discuss how embracing mortality can lead to a richer understanding of life, the importance of shedding past identities, and the unique perspective that comes from overcoming significant challenges. We explore themes of personal empowerment, the significance of mindset, and our complex relationship with death and grief. Discussing how embracing one's unique value can transform interactions and self-perception, the importance of making conscious choices in life, and how reframing the concept of death can lead to personal growth and healing.  Powerfully ending with an exercise of letting go and moving forwards that you can do. To bring gratitude for past experiences while embracing new beginnings. Key Takeaways We are all going to die, so let's make the most of life. Transformation requires letting go of past versions of ourselves. Many fears are learned behaviours, not inherent. Sparkle represents the unique essence of who we are. Self-awareness is key to understanding our value. Empowerment comes from knowing who you are. Your weaknesses can provide valuable insights. Life is about finding joy in every experience. We all have a light to share with the world.  Your unique perspective adds value to any situation. Winning is a mindset, not just an accolade. Every day presents a choice: to give up or give it your all. You must believe you are a winner to become one. Death is not just an ending; it can be a beginning. You can choose how to respond to grief and loss. In grief, there are gifts and lessons to be found. Letting go is a powerful act of transformation. Writing a letter to your former self can aid in healing. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Plus I always love to hear from you, so please do drop a comment or message to me here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  You can connect with Carole Pyke and find out more about her incredible journey and Sparkle Equation here:  Instagram: instagram.com/carolepyke Facebook: facebook.com/carole.pyke/ TikTok: tiktok.com/@carolepyke Website: wordsthatdeliver.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/carolepyke/ The Dash poem by Linda Ellis that Carole mentioned: lindaellis.life The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Embracing Mortality: The Universal Truth 01:57: The Journey of Transformation and Identity 05:45: Fear and the Childlike Perspective 09:59: Understanding Sparkle: The Essence of Self 14:12: The Power of Perspective: Seeing Life Differently 19:54: Finding Your Authentic Self 26:13: Empowerment Through Self-Discovery 29:33: Embracing Your Unique Value 36:47: The Power of Choice and Mindset 37:43: Reframing Death and Grief 49:07: Letting Go and Moving Forward

In this episode, I share about my personal journey of navigating life after a hypothyroidism diagnosis. Sharing my candid experiences of making significant lifestyle changes, including career transitions, modifying exercise routines, and adapting dietary habits. Highlighting the importance of listening to our body, setting boundaries, and embracing those let go’s and new beginnings for better wellbeing. Takeaways Communicating my truth is often less scary than I think. Our bodies constantly provide feedback that we often ignore. Listening to our bodies is crucial for our wellbeing. Speaking our truth can lead to personal empowerment. It's important to not sweat the small stuff in life. Letting go of past habits can lead to new beginnings. Self-care is essential for healing and growth. Mindfulness helps us reconnect with our bodies. Emotional health is tied to our physical health. Navigating change requires patience and self-compassion. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Plus I always love to hear from you, so please do drop a comment or message to me here:  Instagram: instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  In the episode, I share a clip of Dr Gabor Maté on The Mel Robbins Podcast. You can check the full episode out here: www.youtube.com/watch?v=PLvCXIvgrGQ The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Embracing the Conversation About Death 05:07: Listening to Our Bodies 11:50: The Importance of Speaking Your Truth 17:49: Letting Go of the Small Stuff 21:35: Navigating Change and New Beginnings

I am joined by Culture Force to discuss the profound impact of health challenges that Jack faced in his journey with, PoTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome).  We explore themes of resilience, the emotional toll of chronic illness, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. Jack shares his experiences of loss, grief, and the transformative perspective gained through his health journey, emphasising the need for awareness and understanding of conditions like PoTS.  We discuss the challenges and triumphs of navigating chronic illness, particularly POTS. Exploring the importance of resilience, community support, and the journey to diagnosis. Jack shares how his health struggles led to a newfound purpose in entrepreneurship through Culture Force and Kicks Force. Our conversation concludes with advice for aspiring entrepreneurs and reflections on personal growth through adversity. Takeaways You just have to keep going. Health can change overnight, impacting identity. PoTS is a complex condition affecting the nervous system. Life perspective shifts significantly after a health diagnosis. Grief can accompany the loss of a previous lifestyle. Self-advocacy is crucial in navigating healthcare. Chronic illness can lead to personal growth and resilience. It's important to monitor symptoms for accurate diagnosis. Finding support from others can alleviate feelings of isolation. There are positives to be found even in difficult experiences. Keep persevering in the face of medical challenges. Community support is crucial for healing and recovery. Resilience is a fundamental human trait that emerges in adversity. Finding purpose can stem from navigating difficult health journeys. Education systems need to be more inclusive and flexible. Entrepreneurship requires a strong support system and mental resilience. Trust your instincts about your health; you know your body best. Articulating your health concerns is vital in medical consultations. Small wins are important in the journey to recovery. It's essential to honour your journey and personal growth. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Plus I always love to hear from you, so please do drop a comment or message to me here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  You can connect with Culture Force here:  Jack’s Recovery TikTok, where he documents his PoTS journey: https://www.tiktok.com/@jacksrecovery If you’re into sneaker and fashion culture, Culture Force’s other channels are: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cultureforce Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/culture.force YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CultureForce Plus if you need support, PoTS UK is a great charity to connect with: https://www.potsuk.org The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Introduction 02:50: Understanding POTS and Its Impact 06:09: Life Before and After Diagnosis 08:57: Navigating Grief and Loss 11:51: Advice for Others on Similar Paths 25:28: The Journey to Diagnosis and Resilience 30:17: The Role of Community in Healing 33:41: Finding Purpose Through Adversity 37:59: Rethinking Education and Success 39:50: Culture Force’s advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs 44:06: Reflections on the Past and Future

In this episode I (Tanya Wilkinson) explore the profound lessons learned from grief and loss, particularly through my personal grief experience of the death of our beautiful daughter.  We explore the importance of embracing discomfort, reflecting on life, and understanding the interconnectedness of love and grief. Sharing insights on post-traumatic growth, the necessity of being present, and the value of prioritising what truly matters in life. Through my reflections, she encourages listeners to engage with their emotions and to live intentionally, recognising the finite nature of life. Watch to the end for my journal prompts to help you to “live like you’re mortal” and prioritise that which matters the most to you in life.  Journal prompts:  Who and what in life is most important to me?  How will I prioritise myself and those who matter the most?  What do I need to let go or deprioritise in order to centre me and my loved ones in my life?  How can I be more present so I can make more memories that matter?  Takeaways Embracing discomfort can lead to personal growth. Grief can teach us valuable lessons about life. Post-traumatic growth allows for deeper appreciation of life. Love and grief are interconnected experiences. Being present in difficult moments is essential for healing. Writing down moments of clarity can help in the grieving process. Prioritising relationships is crucial in a finite life. Taking small steps can lead to significant changes over time. Reflection is a powerful tool for understanding what matters. Living with intention can enhance our overall well-being. Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to hit like and subscribe  @deathonthedaily  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Embracing Discomfort and Reflection 02:45: Lessons from Loss: A Personal Journey 07:20: Post-Traumatic Growth and Clarity 12:55: The Interconnection of Love and Grief 19:30: Living with Intention and Presence

Jodi Wellman joins me today for a “dead conversation” where we explore the profound relationship between contemplating death and living a meaningful life.  We discuss Jodi’s work of 4,000 Mondays as a way to motivate intentional living, emphasising the urgency of making the most of our limited time. Because the reality is… You Only Die Once.  Our discussion also touches on the transformative moments in life that prompt self-reflection and change, known as the 'Roar of Awakening.' For example through a near death experience. Plus how other transitional moments such as losing someone we love, or turning another decade can inspire growth and meaning.  Jodi is HILARIOUS and with lots of humour and candidness, we encourage you to confront your mortality and use it as a catalyst for personal growth and fulfilment. Exploring the themes of grief, mortality, legacy, and the importance of gratitude in enhancing wellbeing and living a fulfilling life.  You’ll leave this episode knowing how you can reconnect with death as a part of life. How this will serve as a powerful trigger for you appreciating life and making meaningful choices. With practical steps to live like you’re mortal - more boldly, joyfully and in alignment to you.  Takeaways 💡 Contemplating death can enhance our appreciation for life and motivate us to live intentionally. The concept of '4,000 Mondays' serves as a reminder of the finite time we have. Understanding life's urgency can lead to meaningful changes and decisions. Humour can help us engage with the uncomfortable topic of death. We often avoid confronting death, which increases our anxiety about it.  Awareness of mortality can lead to a more vibrant and fulfilling life. We should not wait for a death or crisis to make changes in our lives. Little reminders of mortality can help us appreciate life and live more meaningfully. Reading obituaries, visiting graveyards and other death connection practices teach us about legacy and impermanence. Gratitude is enhanced by contemplating death. Identifying what brings joy is essential for living well. Shaking up routines can enhance our experience of life. Living boldly means embracing opportunities without fear. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Plus I always love to hear from you, so please do drop a comment or message to me here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  You can connect with Jodi Wellman here:  Find out all about Four Thousand Mondays and read Jodi’s Monday blogs here: fourthousandmondays.com Grab your copy of Jodi’s book “You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets” here: 4000mondays.com/book/ Follow Jodi on Instagram: instagram.com/fourthousandmondays The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Embracing Mortality: A Life-Affirming Perspective 09:49: The Countdown of Mondays: Living with Intention 19:47: The Roar of Awakening: Transformative Life Moments 25:35: Navigating Grief and Reciprocity 26:32: Reconnecting with Death as a Life Trigger 27:57: Embracing Mortality in Daily Life 30:11: Lessons from Graveyards and Legacy 32:09: Finding Perspective in Impermanence 34:42: The Role of Gratitude in Living Well 39:01: Practicing Appreciation and Presence 41:44: Identifying Joy and Living Boldly

Set yourself up for a restful 2025. My next RESET for REST 6 week journey of online workshops starts 12th February 2025. Head here for all of the details: https://www.greeninthegrey.com/reset In this restful special "betwixtmas" episode of Death on the Daily, join me Tanya Wilkinson, as I unpack the vital importance of rest. Not just sleep, but true restorative practices that are rooted in the 7 types of rest that Dr Saundra Dalton Smith identified - that help us recharge in a culture that glorifies the hustle.  Drawing inspiration from the cycles of nature and my own experiences, I share actionable micro-rest practices, reflections on grieving, and why prioritising rest is essential for creativity, well-being, and connection. Whether you’re listening during the quieter midwinter days of the festive break, or in the chaos of daily life, this episode offers insights and tools to help you reconnect with yourself and find moments of sanctuary. So that you can be your guide to a more restful 2025. Key takeaways Rest is crucial for our health and well-being. Micro practices of rest can be integrated into busy lives. Creating personalized rest rituals enhances our experience of rest. Laziness should be embraced as a necessary investment in ourselves. Gratitude helps reinforce our intentions for rest. Rest supports creativity and allows for new possibilities. We need to declutter our energy to focus on what truly matters. Connecting with nature can enhance our understanding of rest. Rest is a lifelong journey, not a destination. Every small step towards rest counts and adds up. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Instagram: instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  Links and resources: My Reset for Rest 6 week programme: www.greeninthegrey.com/reset Adrienne Maree Brown: adriennemareebrown.net Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith’s TED Talk on the 7 types of Rest: ted.com/talks/saundra_dalton_smith_the_real_reason_why_we_are_tired_and_what_to_do_about_it The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Introduction  01:18: Debunking “Sleep When You’re Dead” - Why prioritising rest is crucial for wellbeing. 03:10: The Importance of Rest in Our Lives 05:56: Micro Practices of Rest 11:45: Creating Personalised Rest Rituals 15:11: Embracing Laziness and Decluttering Energy 19:52: Cultivating Grace, Compassion, and Gratitude

I am so happy to be joined today by fan favourite from The Great British Bake Off. Shining a spotlight on parts of Nelly that fans of the show might not have seen on air, including her work as a palliative care nurse, baby loss, grief, and the importance of showing others kindness.  Nelly shares her personal experiences with loss and how they shaped her career in palliative care. Emphasising the need for compassion and understanding in supporting families during their most painful moments of loss. Including a tender discussion of both of our experiences with baby loss, and honouring our husbands who supported us.  Plus we explore the themes of embracing life's endings, including Nelly’s personal experience on Bake Off. Plus celebrating how amazing we each are, honouring our imperfections, and finding joy in everyday moments.  Nelly is beautiful inside and out, and so grab yourself a cuppa and cake - and settle in for a joyful and meaningful hour.  Takeaways Everyone grieves differently; there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Creating space for emotional expression is essential in the grieving process. Small acts of kindness can have a significant impact on someone's day. It's important to check in on those who may be grieving and lonely. Crying is a cleansing and necessary part of processing grief. Grief is a complex journey that affects everyone differently. Husbands / wives / partners of women who are going through the physical and emotional pain of baby loss experience double grief (for their baby and their partner) and need support. Embracing life's endings can lead to new beginnings. Celebrating imperfections allows for a more authentic life. Life is too short to stress about a cake!  We are all different and unique. Being true to oneself is the ultimate form of self-love. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  You can connect with Nelly and send her messages here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/igwithnellyy The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Introduction 02:15: Nelly's Personal Journey Through Loss into Palliative Care 05:54: The Emotional Landscape of Grieving 08:49: Creating Space for Grief and Healing 14:53: Community Connections and Human Kindness 18:01: The Ripple Effect of Small Acts of Kindness 29:44: Navigating Baby Loss and Supporting Our Partners 38:39: Great British Bake Off Ending - Nelly’s Joy and Celebration, and Noel Fielding and the Crew’s Sadness 49:37: Nelly’s Message on Embracing Our Imperfections

What if nature held the answers to navigating grief? I’m joined today by my coach Maria Deutsch. We explore the profound relationship between nature, grief, and our understanding of death. We discuss how reconnecting with nature can help individuals navigate their grief and embrace the cycles of life and death.  Including nature’s storytelling of the seasons and the transformation from caterpillar to butterfly, they emphasise the importance of slowness, interconnectedness, and the magic of nature in personal growth and healing.  Our discussion emphasises the healing power of nature, the importance of cultivating connection and belonging, and practical practices for integrating nature into daily life. Plus the significance of curiosity and the co-creative relationship we can have with nature, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Don't forget to follow and subscribe to this podcast on: Instagram YouTube Spotify Apple Plus leave a rating and review if you feel inspired to. Where you can connect with Maria Deutsch: Email: Maria@GrowingDialogue.nz  Website: https://www.growingdialogue.nz We mention Dr Hinemoa Elder, you can find out more about her work here: hinemoaelder.com⁠ The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com