Death on the Daily

I am so happy to be joined today by fan favourite from The Great British Bake Off. Shining a spotlight on parts of Nelly that fans of the show might not have seen on air, including her work as a palliative care nurse, baby loss, grief, and the importance of showing others kindness.  Nelly shares her personal experiences with loss and how they shaped her career in palliative care. Emphasising the need for compassion and understanding in supporting families during their most painful moments of loss. Including a tender discussion of both of our experiences with baby loss, and honouring our husbands who supported us.  Plus we explore the themes of embracing life's endings, including Nelly’s personal experience on Bake Off. Plus celebrating how amazing we each are, honouring our imperfections, and finding joy in everyday moments.  Nelly is beautiful inside and out, and so grab yourself a cuppa and cake - and settle in for a joyful and meaningful hour.  Takeaways Everyone grieves differently; there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Creating space for emotional expression is essential in the grieving process. Small acts of kindness can have a significant impact on someone's day. It's important to check in on those who may be grieving and lonely. Crying is a cleansing and necessary part of processing grief. Grief is a complex journey that affects everyone differently. Husbands / wives / partners of women who are going through the physical and emotional pain of baby loss experience double grief (for their baby and their partner) and need support. Embracing life's endings can lead to new beginnings. Celebrating imperfections allows for a more authentic life. Life is too short to stress about a cake!  We are all different and unique. Being true to oneself is the ultimate form of self-love. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily  YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily  You can connect with Nelly and send her messages here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/igwithnellyy The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Introduction 02:15: Nelly's Personal Journey Through Loss into Palliative Care 05:54: The Emotional Landscape of Grieving 08:49: Creating Space for Grief and Healing 14:53: Community Connections and Human Kindness 18:01: The Ripple Effect of Small Acts of Kindness 29:44: Navigating Baby Loss and Supporting Our Partners 38:39: Great British Bake Off Ending - Nelly’s Joy and Celebration, and Noel Fielding and the Crew’s Sadness 49:37: Nelly’s Message on Embracing Our Imperfections

What if nature held the answers to navigating grief? I’m joined today by my coach Maria Deutsch. We explore the profound relationship between nature, grief, and our understanding of death. We discuss how reconnecting with nature can help individuals navigate their grief and embrace the cycles of life and death.  Including nature’s storytelling of the seasons and the transformation from caterpillar to butterfly, they emphasise the importance of slowness, interconnectedness, and the magic of nature in personal growth and healing.  Our discussion emphasises the healing power of nature, the importance of cultivating connection and belonging, and practical practices for integrating nature into daily life. Plus the significance of curiosity and the co-creative relationship we can have with nature, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world. Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  Don't forget to follow and subscribe to this podcast on: Instagram YouTube Spotify Apple Plus leave a rating and review if you feel inspired to. Where you can connect with Maria Deutsch: Email: Maria@GrowingDialogue.nz  Website: https://www.growingdialogue.nz We mention Dr Hinemoa Elder, you can find out more about her work here: hinemoaelder.com⁠ The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

In this episode of 'Death on the Daily', I share my personal journey through grief during the holiday season, emphasising that it's okay to feel sadness amidst the festive cheer. I discuss the complexities of grief, especially during significant dates, and offer practical tips for coping with loss during this time.  Encouraging you to honour your feelings, set boundaries, and create new traditions, while also remembering and celebrating their departed loved ones if you wish to.  If you’re grieving this Christmas, I am sending you so much love.  Plus for anyone else, please do share this episode with someone who is grieving and it might support.  Key takeaways:  It's okay to not be okay during the holidays. Grief doesn’t take a holiday.  Grief can feel raw and complex, especially during significant dates. Giving yourself permission to feel your grief is essential. Setting boundaries is crucial for self-care during the festive season. Prioritise connection over perfection in holiday celebrations. Rewriting traditions can be freeing after a loss. Bringing departed loved ones into holiday celebrations can provide comfort. It's important to check in on those who are grieving. Grief doesn't take a holiday; it's a continuous journey. Meeting yourself where you are is vital for emotional well-being. Follow me (Tanya Wilkinson) and Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast Instagram: @death_onthedaily YouTube: Death on the Daily Apple: Death on the Daily Spotify: Death on the Daily

I am joined today by Lou Nylander, founder of Wildflowers of London. We discuss the complexities of grief, particularly during the festive season. Exploring our personal stories of loss, with Lou having lost both of her parents, and my baby loss 5 months into pregnancy.  We speak to the impact these losses have on us at times like the festive period. Speaking to the power of “ripping the rule book up on Christmas” and creating new traditions.  We speak to the complexities of grief and loss, emphasising the importance of coping mechanisms, open conversations about death, and finding joy amidst sorrow.  If you are navigating grief, I I hope that our conversation supports you at this tender time of year. Sharing these conversations are SO important, so if you know someone who is grieving, then remember to check in on them. Plus share this episode with them.  Key takeaways Grief is a personal and complicated journey. The festive season can amplify feelings of loss. Creating new traditions can help in coping with grief. It's important to allow oneself to feel grief rather than suppress it. Time does not erase grief, but it can change how we experience it. Acknowledging that things will never be the same is crucial for healing. Breaking old patterns can help in creating new memories. It's okay to seek support and share your grief with others. You are better able to cope and process feelings after loss. Open conversations about death are essential for healing. It's okay to feel hurt during the festive season after a loss. Finding small moments of joy can help during grief. Wearing items that belonged to loved ones can aid in remembrance. Different types of grief require different understandings and support. Advocacy for grief counselling and support is crucial. Self-advocacy is important in recognising health issues. Community support is vital in the grieving process. Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this pod Instagram: @death_onthedaily YouTube: Death on the Daily Where you can connect with Lou Nylander: LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lounylander/ Website: wildflowersldn.com Instagram: instagram.com/wildflowers_hq/ Pancreatic Cancer Action - understand the symptoms of pancreatic cancer: pancreaticcanceraction.org/about-pancreatic-cancer/symptoms/ Disclaimer:  This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.  The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Inspired by my recent conversation with comedian Daman Bamrah about our culture’s deathly disconnection. Today, I explore my perspectives on why Western culture has a deep disconnection from death. Plus the profound impact this has on our emotional well-being, grief processes, and societal wisdom.  I share practical tools about how you can reconnect to death. Including starting conversations about death with loved ones, using nature's cycles as a guide to understanding mortality and connecting into our cultures and ancestral wisdom. Tune in to learn why facing death is essential for reclaiming wisdom, connection, and a richer life. If you like this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with someone who might need it. Takeaways Connecting with our heart space can reveal ancestral wisdom. Death is a universal experience that should be embraced. Western culture has sanitised and medicalised death. Cultural narratives often glorify youth and avoid aging. Disconnection from death leads to unresolved grief and fear. Reconnecting with ancestral wisdom can provide valuable insights. Nature's cycles reflect the inevitability of death. Personal rituals can help honour our relationship with death. Conversations about death can alleviate fear and anxiety. Understanding death can enhance our appreciation for life. Don’t forget to like and subscribe to this podcast: Apple: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/death-on-the-daily/id1761150738⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/6Pr6DsoOxwMd1EIDscdqtg?si=9d268431aaf043d1⁠⁠ The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, shared with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

I am joined today by Sikh-British comedian and writer Daman Bamrah. Two friends chatting about our perspectives on death, we explore the multifaceted nature of death.  Discussing personal experiences with loss, cultural and religious perspectives, and societal attitudes towards mortality.  We delve into how capitalism influences our perception of death and the importance of having open conversations about end-of-life decisions.  Plus speak to death in our career transitions, speaking to our experiences as we left corporate. With Daman’s to carve out a new identity and career as a comedian.  Our chat highlights the interconnectedness of death, personal growth, and our identity shifts and letting go of former versions of our self in our career and life.  Takeaways Death is the great unknown, but also the great equaliser. Talking about death can bring empowerment and meaning. Personal experiences with loss shape our understanding of death. Religion plays a role in how we perceive death and the afterlife. Western cultural attitudes push death into the shadows. Finding peace with death can enhance our quality of life. Open conversations about end-of-life wishes are essential. Acceptance of mortality can lead to a more fulfilling life. It's important to talk about death openly. Living well now is crucial, given life's impermanence. Career transitions from corporate to follow your heart and purpose requires courage. Failure is a part of the creative process.  Embracing discomfort can lead to personal growth. Authenticity is key to finding fulfilment in life. Continual growth and reinvention are essential throughout life. Don’t forget to like and subscribe to this podcast: Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/death-on-the-daily/id1761150738⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/6Pr6DsoOxwMd1EIDscdqtg?si=9d268431aaf043d1⁠ Follow me on Instagram:⁠ instagram.com/death_onthedaily⁠ You can connect with Daman here: https://www.instagram.com/daman.bamrah/ https://www.tiktok.com/@daman.bamrah Plus find out about his latest comedy gigs here: https://www.damanbamrah.com

In this solo episode I share what palliative care teaches us about living well—right here, right NOW.  Starting with… what on earth is palliative care and what are common misconceptions of it.  Then unpacking transformational life lessons that palliative care can teach us. Like prioritising what truly matters, embracing community, and having hard conversations.  This episode will inspire you to live with intention, presence, and courage. With journal prompts to support you in personally reflecting on what you need to prioritise now.  What you’ll learn in this episode: What palliative care really is (and isn’t) Four life-changing lessons that we all need to know from palliative care principles How to prioritize meaning, connection, and joy in everyday life Don’t forget to like and subscribe to this podcast: Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/death-on-the-daily/id1761150738⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/6Pr6DsoOxwMd1EIDscdqtg?si=9d268431aaf043d1⁠ Follow me on Instagram:⁠ instagram.com/death_onthedaily

In today’s episode, I dive into the fascinating world of end of life care and choices with Dan Ariely, renowned Professor of Psychology and Behavioral Economics at Duke University and best selling author of Predictably Irrational. We explore how our most human decisions around dying are shaped by our medical systems and cultural norms that have pushed dying into the shadows. Making our last chapter one of the most under utilised chapter of our life. Dan is currently exploring the early stages of research into the end of life through his “The Life We Should Live” project.  Key takeaways Death is a process, not just a moment. Are we prolonging living, or dying?  What is most important to people at the end: no pain, no loss of dignity in the body, surrounded by love, having a sense of legacy.  Most physicians prefer not to prolong their own dying. Quality of life should be prioritised. Palliative care focuses on comfort and dignity. Communication about our end-of-life wishes and getting necessary paperwork e.g. do not resuscitate order (DNR or DNACPR) is crucial. Live and find something that makes you happy everyday Make a list of things that you want to achieve when you’re still around The psychological model of hope is about living a hopeful life, with objectives, paths to get to objectives and you’re in control What is your version of a hopeful life?  Don’t forget to like and subscribe to this podcast: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/death-on-the-daily/id1761150738 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6Pr6DsoOxwMd1EIDscdqtg?si=9d268431aaf043d1 Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/death_onthedaily You can find out more about Dan’s work here: danariely.com/ Plus explore and get involved with The Life We Should Live here: thelifeweshouldlive.com/

Today we explore the mixed emotions (including sometimes grief) and growth that can accompany major career transitions. Drawing from my own journey with a 14-year corporate career in entertainment to becoming a death doula and coach. Sharing five powerful lessons to help you navigate big career transitions with compassion, purpose, and grace. This episode offers actionable insights for anyone facing a chapter of big change in life. Key takeaways:  Recognise and honour your identity beyond your career. Embrace your support systems during transitions. Acknowledge the multiple layers of grief in change. Your unique skills and experiences are valuable. Be patient and give yourself time to decide. Self-care is crucial during life transitions. Transitions can bring up unexpected emotions. You are not starting over; you are rebirthing. Take time to reflect on what truly matters to you. Navigating change is a shared experience; seek support. Support Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate and subscribe to this pod - it really helps me to get the word out.  Instagram: ⁠⁠instagram.com/death_onthedaily⁠⁠ The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

I am joined by Olympic,  medal winner, Team GB track & field athlete Marilyn Okoro OLY to explore the themes of career transitions, burnout, mental health, and the emotional landscape of retirement from professional athletics.  Marilyn shares her journey from being an Olympic medalist to navigating life beyond sports, emphasising the importance of self-care, rediscovering your identity and the impact of mentorship and support from others.  We explore the themes of resilience, identity, and the challenges of transitioning from a professional athletics career that has defined you since childhood. Marilyn shares so profoundly her personal experiences of the tenderness as she navigated her retirement. It’s a conversation that I have no doubt will be comfort, support and inspiration to you if you are navigating a big transition in life.  Key Takeaways Big career transitions can be a complex emotional journey. Finding stillness is essential during transitions. Mentorship plays a crucial role in personal and professional growth. Legacy is built through the impact we have on others. It's important to acknowledge the emotional side of retirement. Self-care and kindness to oneself are vital during transitions. Transitioning into a new career requires intentionality and support.  Support from others is crucial during difficult times. Resilience is built from challenging experiences. Identity can be multifaceted beyond one's career. Transitioning from a career can bring feelings of grief. It's important to embrace change. Conversations can open doors to new opportunities. Sharing stories can empower and connect individuals. Finding purpose in pain can lead to personal growth. Authenticity is key in navigating life's transitions. Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe to this pod Instagram: ⁠instagram.com/death_onthedaily⁠ Where you can connect with Marilyn: Instagram:⁠ www.instagram.com/marilynokorooly LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/marilynokorooly/ The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.  You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com