In this podcast, Dr. Alexandra Solomon explores the fears and beliefs behind the phrase 'if they wanted to, they would' in relationships. She discusses the complexity of romantic relationships, the importance of relational reciprocity and courageous conversations, and the need for practicing self-awareness in expressing unmet needs. The podcast also delves into the concept of hermeneutic labor and the complexities of give and take in relationships.

We generally assume that long-term partners sleep in the same bed together. But for some couples, sleep issues or other concerns make it hard for two people to get a good night's rest. "Sleep divorces" are more common than you might think, but the stigma about them remains. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra shares tips for how to discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274The Extraordinary Importance of Sleep (P&T, December 2018) Susan WorleyMarital quality and the marital bed: Examining the covariation between relationship quality and sleep (NIH)Wendy M. Troxel, Ph.D., Theodore F. Robles, Ph.D., Martica Hall, Ph.D., and Daniel J. BuysseThe Bizarre Social History of Beds What We Did in Bed: A Horizontal History by Brian Fagan and Nadia DurraniIs sleeping in separate beds bad for your relationship? A sleep scientist answers (TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series)

Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio platform Dipsea, joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about sexuality, imagination, and empowerment. They discuss how audio erotica can help people— particularly women—reconnect with their pleasure and create a safe space for exploration with storytelling.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Use code LOVEPOD for a free month of Dipsea Audio Stories:https://www.dipseastories.com/LOVEPODWatch Gina's TED talk:https://www.ted.com/talks/gina_gutierrez_the_relationship_between_sex_and_imagination?language=enSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Life transitions are inevitable. For couples and families, these chapters offer unique challenges and opportunities. This fall, Dr. Alexandra and her husband, Todd, are experiencing a major change of their own, as they launch their youngest off to college and become "empty-nesters." They sat down together in the studio for a candid conversation about what this time is bringing up for them and how they plan to process and celebrate the beginning of this new chapter together.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

This podcast explores the complexities of the phrase 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you' in intimate relationships. It delves into the interplay between thoughts and emotions, the influence of romanticized myths on our beliefs about love, and the importance of understanding desire. It also discusses navigating love after trauma, the mystery and nuances of love expression, and the challenges of doubts in a relationship.

Working to improve your relationship is hard enough, and when your partner is resistant to the idea of reflecting together, it can feel like you're doomed. In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Alexandra explores this common conundrum and shares reminders for the enthusiastic partner who is ready to dive into Relational Self-Awareness work, as well as for the partner who may be feeling more reluctant for a number of reasons.A note: The podcast will be taking a break for the next two weeks and will return on August 22nd with another re-release episode!Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Lane Moore, the Author of "You Will Find Your People," joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about the joys and heartbreaks of friendship. Lane shares her impetus to write this thoughtful book, and the two discuss why some people might struggle more with friendship due to their upbringing or past experiences, and how they can create a community of people they love as adults.You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships As an Adult by Lane Moore:https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-will-find-your-people-how-to-make-meaningful-friendships-as-an-adult-lane-moore/18699308?ean=9781419762567Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

When a relationship comes to a close, how do we decide for ourselves what kind of connection, if any, should remain between us and our former partner? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the topic of friendship with exes and shares some helpful musings and questions for anyone who is hoping to gain clarity about what might serve them and their former partner best in this new uncharted chapter.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's brand-new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/

Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.Access this episode's companion worksheet herePre-order Dr. Alexandra's brand-new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and ThriveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener QuestionTake Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz

Dr. Alexandra sits down with Audrey Grunst, a therapist and crisis response expert, to honor the memory of the victims and survivors of the Highland Park Shooting, and to paint a picture of the circles of impact that devastating tragedies such as this one have on communities. Content warning: this episode contains discussions about gun violence, mass shootings, trauma, and recovery. If you're looking for ways to take action, please refer to the resources below as places to start:Moms Demand Action:https://momsdemandaction.org/act/Brady: United Against Gun Violence:https://www.bradyunited.org/take-actionEverytown:https://www.everytown.org/Learn more about Psychological First Aid:https://learn.nctsn.org/course/index.php?categoryid=11Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/reimagining-love-workbook-0c34cba5-a457-4253-b7d7-9ca051dc0326Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/