Reimagining Love

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Relevant links:Listen to Part One of the Conflict seriesAccess the Conflict Skills worksheetCouples therapy directories: Gottman Referral NetworkTherapist.comPsychology TodayDomestic Violence ResourcesOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Relevant links:Access the Conflict Skills worksheetCouples therapy directories: Gottman Referral NetworkTherapist.comPsychology TodayDomestic Violence ResourcesOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Dafna Lender, a family therapy expert with 25 years in parent-child dynamics, joins Dr. Alexandra to unravel the intricacies of familial relationships. They discuss how to break the cycle of blame, using empathy to strengthen connections. Dafna emphasizes playful engagement as a path to joy, and the vital need for involving both parents and children in therapy. With insights into authentic parenting, they highlight the importance of understanding attachment histories to foster healing, ultimately encouraging a nurturing and supportive environment for growth.

Chip Conley, expert in midlife transitions, discusses the importance of navigating midlife transitions with grace and courage. Topics include reimagining love in midlife relationships, emphasizing protein intake for a healthy lifestyle, and ritualizing major life transitions. The podcast explores the transformative chrysalis of midlife and the significance of adopting a growth mindset in navigating life stages.

Research shows that gender socialization plays out most rigidly in our intimate relationships. How do we learn to separate our thoughts and actions from our socialization? In this episode, podcaster, author, and feminist coach Kara Loewentheil joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation that confronts the ways in which patriarchy influences our thoughts, beliefs, and actions.Relevant links:Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head--And How to Get It Out  a New York Times Bestseller by Kara LoewentheilListen to the Unf*ck Your Brain PodcastOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.Relevant links:Listen to Part One of this seriesGet the Relational Ambivalence worksheet"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. AlexandraE-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”Mark Groves Ted TalkBook: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. GoldmanOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.Relevant links:Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheetOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

June 24th marks the two-year anniversary of The Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Because Reimagining Love is a show devoted to relationships and helping people cultivate relationships founded in empowerment and care, Dr. Alexandra wanted to shine a light on the pervasive and pernicious impacts of the Supreme Court’s decision on individuals, couples, and families in the United States. In fact, abortion has become virtually unavailable or significantly restricted in 21 states leaving pregnant people and their loved ones across the country facing the fears and roadblocks in their attempts to access reproductive healthcare. In this episode Dr. Alexandra facilitates a roundtable discussion with two strong voices in the field who help us better understand the mental health and the relational health effects of living in Post-Roe America– and how restriction of access to abortion exacerbates economic and racial inequality. Shefali Luthra is a health policy journalist who recently released her first book, Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America, and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a perinatal psychiatrist and the author of Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness.Shefali and Dr. Pooja’s powerful insights will resonate with listeners who have experienced these impacts firsthand as well as those watching the landscape unfold from afar.Relevant Links:Read Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America by Shefali LuthraRead Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals,  Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja LakshminThe UCSF Turnaway StudyTwo years after Roe’s overturn, there are more abortions in America — but they’re harder to get by Shefali Luthra on the 19th Connect with Shefali on X or through emailLearn more about Dr. Pooja’s work, subscribe to her newsletter, and connect with her on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Dr. Ish Major joins Reimagining Love for a frank and honest conversation about modern masculinity and the communication gap across genders. Together, they discuss what is often missing from communication in relationships, what masculinity means in our modern era, and how truth is the antidote to toxic masculinity.Relevant links:Connect with Dr. Ish online and on InstagramWatch Counsel Culture with Nick CannonReimagining Love Episode: “Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski”Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves.Relevant links:To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank AndersonConnect with Dr. Anderson online and on InstagramLearn more about the Trauma Institute and Trauma-Informed Media.The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der KolkOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question