How Not To Suck At Divorce: Divorce Advice You Need To Hear

This episode is going to help you help your kids as you navigate your divorce.   Meet Sara Olsher. She's the founder of a company called Mighty and Bright, a company dedicated to helping parents help their kids through difficult transitions, like a divorce.  Mighty and Bright makes stylish coparenting calendars that are designed for your children! They are have books, games and tons of other resources!!   And wise words from Sara:   Here are three steps you can take to show your child EMPATHY: 1) Get on their level- physically.  Speak to them eye to eye so you're not looking down to them when you're talking 2) Validate their emotions- refrain from using phrases like "don't cry". Let them cry. It's okay for your child to be upset. Validate their feelings by saying, "I know that you're feeling really upset right now. That's okay. I'm here for you" 3) When your child is hurt by the other parent's actions, you can tell them: "Mommy and Daddy love you very much. We do not mean to hurt your feelings and we are sorry that your feelings got hurt. Thank you for letting me know and I will make sure we do better."  Go check out www.mightandbright.com to see how their resources can help you! And here's a special link to a book that Sara wrote to help talk to your kids about Divorce! Use CODE: DONTSUCKATDIVORCE for a special discount https://mightyandbright.com/products/ebook-how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-divorce And a nugget of wisdom from Morgan from our Fan Mail segment: If you find an attorney whom you cannot afford long term, but you really liked them ...you might want to consider paying them for a consultation. If can give you good feedback on your case!

Can you get divorced without f@cking up your kids??? In short: yes.  So, what can you do? If you are worried about screwing up your children by getting divorced, know this: 1) Your children are likely to sustain MORE damage by you NOT leaving an unhealthy marriage 2) There ARE things that you can do to help mitigate the pain your children experience during the divorce process!   In order to not totally mess up your kids by getting divorced, we suggest you: 1) Get insight from a children's therapist on how to talk to your kids  2) Keep the information you give your kids age appropriate information 3) Assemble a community for them (Make sure you listen to this episode to hear why Andrea is so passionate about step #3!)   Also, does anyone still watch the Real Housewives?? Andrea does, and make sure you listen to this episode to hear what Morgan thought of the hotel in Iceland that the Housewives cast stayed in a few years ago!   And remember, you've got this...and we've got you!  

Are you worried about how much your divorce is costing you?  Yeah, we bet you are.    Well, lucky for you, listeners, we have you covered! Here are some helpful tips on how to save money and avoid a major headache in your divorce: *Have a PLAN (sounds obvious, but it's not) You and your attorney should have a plan in place- and know that it's likely that this plan will CHANGE *Be mindful with how and when you're communicating with your attorney (billable hours, friends!!) *Be prepared for the UNEXPECTED  Avoid the "what the f#ck?!?" moments by ASKING your attorney what could possibly happen in your divorce case.    And remember, it takes a team to help you through a tranisiton. If you are struggling with an alochol problem, Soberlink is here to help you. If your soon to be ex spouse is struggling with an alcohol problem and you're concern about their abilty to safely parent, Soberlink is here to help.  Visit them: www.soberlink.com/notsuck You got this and we've got you. 

You're getting divorced, which sucks. But now, you still have to temporarily live under the same roof as your EX!!!?? WTF.   We know, we get it. On this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we are going to tackle the subject of what you can do to preserve your sanity while still living in the same house with your soon to be ex spouse.    Questions like: Can I date other people before I get divorced? Can I spend money on myself and going out if I'm still living with my ex? How will my ex and I figure out kid time? How do I make sure my ex and I are splitting household chores evenly? Will all be answered!   We are nearing the end of season 3 of our show and we are SO GRATEFUL for all of our listeners. We know that you have a lot going on in your life right now and we are honored that you carve out some time to spend with us.    We know that divorce is hard. We know it's long and draining.  We are here to help guide you, offer you information, entertainment, and empathy and ultimately, help you not SUCK at getting divorced.  Please rate and reivew our show!! And message us on social, we would love to hear from you!!

We know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay. We know that your gut that your marriage is not going to work. So, now what? If you have wondered: "What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you.  If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you.  If you're just miserable in your marraige, but feel stuck, this episode is for you.    This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process.  We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side.  Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy.  You've got this and we've got you. 

How do I pick the right mediator for my divorce? What does a  mediator actually do? How long does mediation typically last? How do you know if you should even try mediation?? If you have ever wondered the above questions, this episode is MUST LISTEN! Morgan and Andrea discuss everything you didn't know that you need to know BEFORE embarking on the mediation process. Remembering that we are here to help you not SUCK at getting divorced!   Mediation helps you step out of the court system to come to a more creative solution for disagreements in your divorce process.  Keep that in mind.    Take a listen to this episode and please message us with any questions! Hit us up on social media! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce You've Got This and We've Got You!        

What do you need to lookout for towards the end of your divorce process?? Basically, that you aren't rushing the process. When we rush, we make mistakes.   Here are a few PRO TIPS: 1) Print out your Martial Settlement Agreement and CIRCLE what doesn't make sense to you. CIRCLE to find a SOLUTION. Ask your attorney to go over all parts that you circled.  2) Understand all of the tax implications in your MSA. (Don't be caught by surprise) 3) If you're divorcing at the end of the year, evaluate whether it makes more sense (tax wise) to remained married until  Jan 2nd of the following year.  (could save you lots of money)   And remember: The aggrevation is temporary. The terms of a MSA (Martial Settlement Agreement) are permanment.    Please rate and review this show if it helped you!   And follow us on Instagram! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce And Facebook! http://www.facebook.com/hownottosuckatdivorcepodcast TikTok http://www.tiktok.com/hownottosuckatdivorcepod And our website! http://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Oh, and YouTube! http://www.youtube.com/hownotosuckatdivorce

    Stop texting your EX!! (about money)   The Onward app was created with co-parents and children in mind.   Every parenting situation is different. For families with divorced or separated parents, there are financial burdens and situations that need to be resolved.   That's where the Onward App steps in!   The Onward App was created to make tracking, sharing and settling expenses as easy as possible. That way, you and your co-parent don't have to spend as much time stressing about finances and who bought what for your child when, but rather using that time to focus on your children.   Both easy to use and free, you can download the Onward App on both Apple and Android phones on the Apple App Store and Google Play Store. Start using the app to track, share and settle expenses.   Divorce sucks, we know that. How Not to Suck at Divorce is here to offer you SOLUTIONS and guidance so that you won't suck at getting divorced, or suck at life post divorce.    Download Onward here: CLICK HERE!   Resolve you expenses with ease. Stop texting your Ex.  Move ONWARD and upward.       

What should you get your friends for Christmas or Hanukkah  this year? What should you buy your divorced friends for Christmas or Hanukkah  this year? Here's our "Oprah's" Favorite Things episode (Thanks to our FABULOUS guest, Bill Doherty, who once mentioned that we interviewed him better than Oprah did...we will forever think that we are in the same lane as the queen of daytime TV) This season, you FOR SURE want to get your hands on: 1. Chocolate Shakeology Protein Shake https://www.teambeachbody.com/shop/us/d/chocolate-plant-based-vegan-shakeology-SHKCHVegan?referringRepId=971096 2. Fresh Overnight Mask https://www.sephora.com/product/fresh-floral-recovery-redness-reducing-overnight-mask-P479841?country_switch=us&lang=en&skuId=2535417&om_mmc=ppc-GG_18525596383_139024248461_pla-1211245547446_2535417_626611912078_9021768_c&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIoq-LjKzX-wIV03NvBB1OagOrEAQYAyABEgIrv_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds 3. Rose Forever Roses www.roseforever.com 4. MomSquad Clothing "Diva" Leggings https://momsquadclothing.com/collections/bottoms/products/diva 5. Pura Home Fragrance https://www.trypura.com 6. Williams Sonoma Truffle Popcorn Salt https://www.williams-sonoma.com/products/regalis-black-truffle-popcorn-salt/ 7. Andrea's Giant Water Bottle https://a.co/d/34A4Pgc 8. Body Restore Shower Tabs https://a.co/d/fDF69VL 9.  The Original Chicago Sauce https://hereheremarket.com/products/the-original-chicago-sauce?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI6pvUu63X-wIVt2xvBB2J_AmEEAAYASAAEgIqQvD_BwE 10. One Piece Onesie https://www.onepiece.com/us   For forth and SHOP, folks! Wishing you a very merry/happy holiday shopping season!!      

How do you cope with the pain of not having your kids over a holiday? Coparenting is hard. Managing the weekends, weeks, and holiday weekends without your kids is harder.   Our guest, Lisa McGregor, of The Unplanned Chapter, helps divorced mom through the next phase of their life.   We list out ACTION STEPS that all moms can take is they are without they're kids over a holiday. We know that's it's not easy, but it's doable and we are here to help.  Please join Lisa's group for support, information, and entertainment. Lisa, along with Andrea from our show, will be providing entertainmnet ALL DAY LONG!! http://www.facebook.com/theunplannedchapter And if you want to try Andrea's FAVORITE protein shake, come check it out here: It's a GAME CHANGER!! https://www.teambeachbody.com/shop/us/d/chocolate-plant-based-vegan-shakeology-SHKCHVegan?referringRepId=2867305 Hang in there, friends. You've got this and We've Got YOU!