Would you benefit from Discernment Counseling? This week, we find out. The founder of discernment counseling, Dr. Bill Doherty, joins us on the podcast. Not only did Dr. Doherty develop a specific type of counseling for couples where one is considering divorce, he's also been on Oprah not just once, but twice! From Harpo to How Not To Suck At Divorce, Dr. Doherty is moving up in the world, that's for sure. Discernment counseling is when one person is leaning OUT of the relationship and considering divorce and the other person is leaning IN and wants to try to make things work. This type of counseling gives people clarity and confidence based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in the marriage. Dr. Doherty answers the questions: What is discernment counseling? Does discernment counseling solve problems in the marriage? What are the differences between couples therapy and discernment counseling? How long is discernment counseling? What are the three paths of discernment counseling? How do I know if we should try couples therapy or discernment counseling?   Stay until the end because Dr. Doherty blows the lid off traditional therapy and tells us he favorite type of wine (you won't believe his answer).    You can find Dr. Bill Doherty and search for a local discernment counselor at discernmentcounselors.com.   Please hit the 5 stars in your podcast app, we need the external validation, but more importantly, it helps our podcast show up in searches so we can help those who are struggling through the divorce process.    Remember, you got this and we got you.   Slide into our dms, we love hearing from you! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago

Divorce and prenuptial agreements go together like champagne and charcuterie.  The prenup queen Katie Post joins us. Katie is a family law attorney, like Morgan, and an expert on prenup agreements. Prenups can play a huge role in divorce settlements. But they are often a total mystery so we decided to break it all down for you. Katie answers:  What are the three things EVERYONE needs to know about their prenuptial agreement? Should I get a prenup? Do I qualify for a prenup? Is it true only wealthy people get prenups? Does getting a prenup make me a gold digger? What does a prenup cover? Can a prenup impact my business? What is maintenance? How can I get a prenup thrown out?   We'll also discuss the one huge mistake you should not make when writing up your prenup, divorce and prenup law in Illinois and other states, and the type of attorney you should use to draw up a prenup. Also, Andrea will share some wild prenup stories. Be sure to stay until the end for a really sweet story that will make your day. You can find the Prenup Queen, Katie Post, here: kpost@beermannlaw.com You can also contact Katie at 312-621-9700    As always, we love hearing from you! Slide into our dms with questions, comments, grievances or love here: Morgan on IG @divorceattorneychicago Andrea on IG @theandrearappaport And don't forget to follow our show's new IG for more tips and divorce humor: @hownottosuckatdivorce You got this and we got you xoxo Please tag us on social, and send us your fave photos of Kanye West!

Today we're talking about divorce when alcohol addiction is involved, with Soberlink's Chris Beck. Alcohol addiction is on the rise and it can exacerbate the already difficult process of divorce. We know how delicate and important this issue is so we want to remove the stigma and speak openly about how it impacts both parties and how to make navigating divorce with alcohol addiction a little easier. We talk about a device called Soberlink that Morgan has been using for several years in her family law practice. Soberlink combines a breathalyzer with facial recognition software and wireless connectivity to produce a confirmation report of sobriety that can be sent to anyone who is a part of the monitoring agreement (lawyers, coparent, rehab facilities, etc). This reduces conflict and gives the coparent assurance that their child is being cared for by a sober parent. It also gives the parent with the alcohol addition the opportunity to be in their child's life. It's truly a wonderful device for all involved. We loved our conversation with Chris because it's so clear how much he cares about keeping families together during divorce when one person struggles with alcohol addiction. Keeping families together during and after divorce is our mission as well so his words really resonated with us. Plus Chris made us laugh, and he made Andrea cry so it's very well-rounded just as we like it. Thank you, Chris! Tap here to go to soberlink.com to learn more about their tech, programs and examples of family law orders. You can also check out soberlink on: Twitter @soberlink Facebook @soberlink We'd love to hear from you! Are you divorcing someone with an alcohol addiction? Do you have an alcohol addiction and you're worried how it will play out? Have you used Soberlink? @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago Remember, you got this and we got you.

Listener fave Dr. Randy Heller is back with us today to discuss one of the most common questions we get: Is it my marriage that's making me miserable? Dr. Heller shares what people should do if they're feeling depressed, stressed and overwhelmed and an easy exercise to do to determine if it's the marriage that is the root of the problem. We also talk about how to start to feel better, regardless of the decision we make in our marriage. You can find Dr. Randy Heller here: thefamilynetwk@aol.com 646-717-6718 mycollaborativeteam.com   No matter what you decide, you got this and we got you. We love hearing from you so don't be shy. Slide into our dms: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago  

We're back with Season 3! We thought we'd kick off the best season yet by starting at the beginning of the end . . . when you know it's over. We welcome guest and retired husband Mike Draper to the show as he shares his story of when he knew it was over and what life after divorce is really like for a single dad. Check out Magic Mike, I'm sorry, I mean Mortgage Mike on IG @mortgage_mike As always we're keeping it real and keeping the levity because this process is tough enough. But you are never alone. You got this and we got you. We MISSED you and love when you slide into our dms so reach out! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago

Season 3 drops next week! And it's so good. To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music)   Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make sense of this agreement and how to get through it in one piece. We'll talk about: What is a parenting agreement? What should I include in the parenting agreement? Should we get a mediator? Holidays during and after divorce Visitation during and after divorce Who pays for the kids' things when you get divorced Cohabitating during divorce We make it easy to understand. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment: Wild divorce stories that are a lesson in what NOT to do. Hopefully we'll make you laugh and feel less alone. Remember, you got this and we got you. See you next week for an epic Season 3! Be sure to catch our little sneak peaks on IG: @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport  

Season 3 drops in a few short weeks! To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music) Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less scary. What we talk about in this episode: How to find a divorce attorney What questions to ask a divorce attorney or a divorce lawyer Where do you find a divorce lawyer or attorney Should you google "tough divorce lawyer" How do you vet a divorce lawyer or divorce attorney What steps do you need to take if you don't have a financial advisor How much do divorce lawyers charge and what's included What is a divorce mediator   This is a lot but we promise you, we make it easy to digest and we'll make you laugh. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment - wild divorce stories that are a hilarious lesson on what NOT to do.   Be sure to hit follow so you don't miss Season 3!

We are ending season 2 with the beloved Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and continuing our discussion of high conflict divorces. Bill teaches us a simple tool that has the power to not only change the whole vibe of your high conflict divorce and how you deal with conflict with literally anyone....but we think it could heal the whole damn world. We are hard at work planning Season 3 and it's going to be a big one! Stay tuned, we'll be back soon. In the meantime, please slide into our dms and let us know what topics you'd like us to highlight in S3: @theandrearappaport Morgan's IG was hacked (she didn't leave law to sell "cloths") so send her an email here: mlstogsdill@beermannlaw.com You can learn more about Bill Eddy and his work on high conflict divorce at www.highconflictinstitute.com and www.conflictplaybook.com where you'll find a parenting class and other resources for parents who are going through divorce. You can buy Bill's book "Calming Upset People with EAR" here: www.amazon.com

Today on How Not To Suck At Divorce, Morgan is recording from a beach, Andrea is learning kung foo, it's a typical day over here. We are so excited to have the legendary Bill Eddy on the show. Bill is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, keynote speaker and the author of over 16 books on divorce. Not only does he specialize in high-conflict divorces that involve people with personality disorders like narcissistic, borderline, anti-social, and histrionic, he has also trained over 500,000 professionals on managing high conflict disputes. Morgan is fan-girling big time. Today we're going to dive deep into high conflict divorce with the master himself and learn how to use Bill's BIFF technique if you're going through one of these messy divorces. Order Bill's books on Amazon here and here or at your favorite independent bookstore. His latest book has been #1 in the divorce category the last 18 months. It's a must-read-now. Connect with Bill at www.highconflictinstitute.com If you'd like to see a reel of Andrea doing her kung foo moves please flood her dms: @theandrearappaport  

Today we're back with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to discuss if divorce can kill you. We'll talk about the impact of long term and short term stress when going through a divorce and what sex, drugs and tacos have to do with it. If this sounds heavy, don't worry, we know how to bring the levity. Be sure to stay until the end because we have roped Dr. Meg into playing the game you all love (we hope), Decline to Comment.  Bonus...Morgan shares what your lawyers talk about when they go out for drinks together ;) You can find Dr. Daly here: www.harper-health.com And you can slide into our dms here: @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport