How do you cope with the pain of not having your kids over a holiday? Coparenting is hard. Managing the weekends, weeks, and holiday weekends without your kids is harder.   Our guest, Lisa McGregor, of The Unplanned Chapter, helps divorced mom through the next phase of their life.   We list out ACTION STEPS that all moms can take is they are without they're kids over a holiday. We know that's it's not easy, but it's doable and we are here to help.  Please join Lisa's group for support, information, and entertainment. Lisa, along with Andrea from our show, will be providing entertainmnet ALL DAY LONG!! http://www.facebook.com/theunplannedchapter And if you want to try Andrea's FAVORITE protein shake, come check it out here: It's a GAME CHANGER!! https://www.teambeachbody.com/shop/us/d/chocolate-plant-based-vegan-shakeology-SHKCHVegan?referringRepId=2867305 Hang in there, friends. You've got this and We've Got YOU!  

This episode digs into the trauma, mental, emotional and sexual abuse that went on in the FLDS cult, led by Warren Jeffs, and how it relates to the trauma that goes on in many marriages and divorces.  This episode has been produced to support KidSide Miami. A charity which enables families in the family court system to recieve FREE therapy in the Miami Day county.  PLEASE visit our special link TODAY (11/17) to donate to KidSide. Every donation goes DIRECTLY to helping a family work towards happier and healthier relationships with their children in the family court system.  Donate HERE! How hard is it to leave a cult? What happened in the FLDS? What kind of abuse went on in the FLDS? Can you get a divorce in a cult?    

  You read that correctly. I Bought My Husband's Mistress Lingerie. It's a brand new, emotional tell-all memoir,  written by Stacey Freeman.  This is a TRUE STORY, and yes, it's juicy. But it's also packed with hope and persceptive.    PRE ORDER THIS BOOK HERE: Amazon This episode will leave you with your mouth and your heart open. Stacey's candor and transparency are inspiring. She waded her way through the nauesous feelings that come with a marriage that ends in infidelity. Have you wondered: How to get along with my ex husband's new girlfriend? How to help my kids get along their stepmother? How to heal from an affair? If so, this episode and book is EXACTLY what you've been looking for!       And on OBSESSED: Skinny Pop Popcorn. Yes, Morgan is obsessed. And Andrea is currently eating out of bag of one right now...likely.   

What happens if you die during your divorce process??  What happens to your children?  What happens to your money?   We are talking with Lauren Wolven, she’s a partner in Trusts and Estates with Levenfeld Pearlstein in Chicago, IL.    Here’s the good news: There are several steps you can take to ensure that you’ve covered all of your bases, just in case you die during or soon after your divorce.   We cover a lot of ground on this episode, including:   1. How do I change my power of medical attorney during a divorce?         2. How do I change my Life Insurance policy when going through a divorce?   3. How do I change my Will when I'm going through a divorce? **How Not to Suck at Divorce Pro Tip**: Don’t buy your Will template from Etsy. (this started as a joke, until we realized that it's actually possible)   And remember, all roads lead back to hiring the RIGHT team to support you during your divorce process.    The RIGHT divorce attorney, the RIGHT estate attorney, and the RIGHT podcast to help you along the way! Make sure you listen all the way to the end of the episode to hear some crazy stories about what some people leave as their final wishes! To get in touch with Lauren Wolven, please visit her at: LP Chicago   Oh, and our OBESSION this week??   Andrea tells us all about her obsession with Mark and Graham! Their monogramed handbags are to die fo... nope, not gonna use that expression today!     We love hearing from you! Email us at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.com or dm us at: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago WE'RE ON YOUTUBE NOW! Check us out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMSvrn9lrdJt8mY1i_1tFwg You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Please rate and review so our little show can reach more people xo

Parental Alienation is not a fun topic but it's an important one for everyone who is considering or going through a divorce to understand so they can avoid it. Because it harms children and none of us want that. It also harms both parents and their relationships with their kids, not just the parent being alienated.   Dr. Malissa Tigges is back. If you missed episode 37, Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator.  Parental Alienation is a buzzword thrown around in family court but today Dr. Tigges, Andrea and Morgan are going to break it all down. They will answer: 1. What is parental alienation?  2. How can we avoid parental alienation? 3. What are the two different types of alienation and how are they different? 4. What are the three levels of alienation? 5. What are the 17 strategies of alienation? 6. How parental alienation harms the kids (if you're the one alienating the other parent, trust us...you don't want to miss this part) 7. How can I help my child heal from parental alienation? 8. How parental alienation harms both parents  9. Can kids be taken away from a parent who is committing parental alienation? Morgan also shares advice she gives her own clients who are on both sides of parental alienation. *************** Special Segments Obsessed: Now onto something a little more comfortable. This week Morgan is obsessed with OnePiece at onepiece.com. It's a one-piece sweatsuit for women, men and kids. It's so cozy and makes the best gift. It's like a luxury adult onesie. We're not affiliated with OnePiece, Morgan is just obsessed and has been wearing them for years. Let's Be Positive: Andrea shares some things you can do with your children to reconnect and strengthen your relationship. **************** Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out!   We love hearing from you! Email us at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.com or dm us at: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago WE'RE ON YOUTUBE NOW! Check us out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMSvrn9lrdJt8mY1i_1tFwg You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Please rate and review so our little show can reach more people xo The Podcast does not contain legal advice. The information provided on the Podcast and the resources available for download through the Podcast and/or in show notes is not intended as, and shall not be understood or construed as, legal advice.

Today we have fan favorite Dr. Randy Heller to discuss how to heal from infidelity. Betrayal often has a huge impact on the divorce process because it adds fuel to an already raging fire. We want to help you move through the anger so you can make good decisions during your divorce. This is a heavy issue but we promise, by the end of the episode, you will feel better. If you're new here, Dr. Randy Heller is a licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed mental health counselor, certified Supreme Court family mediator, credentialed collaborative divorce family specialist and facilitator, parenting coordinator, certified hypnotherapist, and the founder and Clinical Director of The Family Network. Like, wow. Dr. Randy talks about the different types of infidelity. It's not just cheating. Infidelity can also be lying, stealing, and hiding money. Infidelity can be any type of betrayal. We talk about: Triggers after the betrayal How to trust your attorney after having your trust broken by your spouse How to deal with the pain of infidelity How to heal Because levity is important, we didn't skip our obsessed segment today. This week Morgan is obsessed with Meyers hand soap. Her fave scents are Rosemary, Rain, and Daisy (it doesn't smell like flowers). Post-pandemic Morgan is especially appreciative of how well it lathers and cleans. We're not affiliated with Meyers but if they want to slide into our dms, we won't be sad. You can find Dr. Randy Heller here: thefamilynetwk@aol.com 646-717-6718 mycollaborativeteam.com   No matter what you're going through, we're here for you. We love hearing from you so don't be shy. Slide into our dms: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago If you're liking our little show, it would mean the world to us if you rated and reviewed us right in your Apple podcast app or wherever you listen XO

This is no episode for babies (no offense, babies). We're getting into some real, REAL stuff in this episode. This is one of the biggest concerns our listeners have so we wanted to dedicate an entire episode to how to put your kiddos first in your parenting agreement. Today, we have therapist Dr. Malissa Tigges with us to talk about how to create a parenting agreement that prioritizes the welfare of your kids. Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. She helps people make the best decisions possible when developing their parenting agreements. Dr. Tigges, Morgan and Andrea answer: What do divorcing couples need to understand when putting together their parenting agreement? How to design the parenting agreement so it's appropriate at each age of the children. The biggest mistake divorcing couples make when creating their parenting agreement. What is the main difference of a parenting plan that involves a younger child vs. a teenager? Can you modify a parenting agreement? Who should you consult with to ensure your parenting agreement is the best for your child? Should you open the parenting agreement email after having a few drinks? What is co-parenting therapy and is it necessary? What do you do when your rights are being violated during the divorce process when you're drafting the parenting agreement? What's the best schedule for co-parenting? 50/50? Week on, week off? Every other weekend? The answer may upset you, but it's important to understand. Is there wiggle room in a parenting agreement if there's a special trip or long weekend planned? Dr. Tigges also shares her absolute "must-dos". Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out! OBSESSED: This week Andrea is obsessed with a non-medicated inhaler that has been scientifically proven to calm anxiety. It's called CalmiGo. It measures how much air you exhale and will vibrate when you exhale properly to help you regulate your breathing. It helps Andrea feel more grounded and has made her realize how shallow she typically breathes during the day. It's genius. CalmiGo sent the inhaler to Andrea after she posted the instagram reel of the time she was in the hospital for a panic attack. But please know, we do not recommend products just because we got one free. We will only recommend products we truly love and use.  And this is one of those, for sure. If you go to Andrea's IG and click the link in her bio, you'll get a $30 off coupon. Don't miss the very end of the episode because we talk about how it has just been discovered that honey bee venom can kill breast cancer cells. Amazing! There's also a new study on a possible cure for lupus and other autoimmune diseases AND, new developments on slowing the progression of Alzheimer's. We love ending the show with some positivity :) To our one listener in Honduras, we see you and adore you. Thank you for being here with us. xo We'd love to know what you think of the show! Please email us at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.com or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com We read every message and reply personally because our community means the world to us and we want you to know we're here for you. You got this and we got you.

Andrea and Morgan are back with best friend of the podcast and fan fave Rob Roseman!   Rob is the host of the popular podcast WTF Divorce and a single dad who felt the very common feeling of isolation when he went through his own divorce 2.5 years ago. Rob shares his story and the three discuss how to avoid isolation and find your community so you can not just survive, but thrive. Morgan, Andrea and Rob discuss: Is it helpful to find others who are going through a divorce or does that make it even more difficult? Trauma bonding during divorce. How Rob and Andrea met. How finding divorce friends is like dating. How Andrea's painful divorce and isolation led her to the podcast and our wonderful community with the absolute best listeners. Why Morgan started this podcast with Andrea and what surprised Rob about her reason. *** Be sure to listen until the end because Andrea and Morgan get real about friendships during a divorce. If you're not already listening to Rob's podcast, following him on IG, and all over his website taking advantage of all his free resources (including a search tool to find divorce attorneys and therapists in your area), we highly recommend you do so now! Here is where you can find Rob: @wtfdivorce www.wtfdivorce.com WTF Divorce Podcast If you're struggling to find your community, please reach out to us and we will be here for you. Email us at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.com or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com   By the way, we love that you love our new OBSESSED segment, because we love it too! This week Morgan is obsessed with Sand and Fog candles. If you like candles that actually do what they're supposed to, smell up your house and last, these are for you. They're pretty, smell incredible and they won't break the bank. They even have candles that are meant to clean up pet smell. This week Morgan is burning Juniper Mint, yum. She also highly recommends Clean Linen. We're not affiliated with Sand and Fog and they didn't pay us to review them...Morgan just truly adores them and wants to share the love. Sand and Fog website That's all for this week, friends. Don't forget, you got this and we got you xo.

This week we're talking about how to find the right divorce lawyer.  It's like Tinder for Attorneys! To break it all down, we have Max Leinoff on the pod. Max is a family law attorney in Miami, Florida with Leinoff and Lemos, P.A. His firm was voted one of the Best Law Firms by U.S. News and World Report for 2021 and 2022. Max answers: What three things you must hear from your divorce attorney What should you do if your divorce lawyer disagrees with you? The importance of expressing your goals honestly with your divorce lawyer Who will you be working for when you hire an attorney? Is it a bad sign if they have other associates helping you? What questions should you ask divorce lawyers before deciding who to hire? These may surprise you. What is a no fault state when it comes to divorce? How can you work with your divorce attorney to move things along swiftly and smoothly? "When you're looking for an attorney, you don't want a yes man or a yes woman." - Max Leinoff If you're in Florida, here is where you can find Max Leinoff: Max@LLPA.com www.llpa.com (305) 661-1556 - office Also, Max shouts out his lovely wife, Katy, who is an incredibly talented, professional artist who has worked with Vans and was recenly featured on the Ralph Lauren website. You can see Katy's work on instagram @katyilana. We checked her out and now we're obsessed with her, too! We had so much fun with Max, we made him participate in Spin the Wheel, Andrea's favorite segment (Morgan hates it). What embarrassing thing will Max have to do? Stay to the end to find out.   Don't missed our OBSESSED segment: This week, Morgan is obsessed with Portillos. We ordered Portillos during the photoshoot for this season, because Morgan and Andrea love nothing more than a great cheeseburger. The photographer kept shooting because watching the us chow on Portillos in fancy dresses was too good to miss. If you're not from Chicago, you may not know how amazing Portillos is. They are iconic. They're best known for hot dogs, burgers and Italian beef (and cheese fries and chocolate cake shakes).  If you're not in Chicago, you can have their food shipped to your door. Life-changing. We're not affiliated (yet)....we're just obsessed. We'd love to know what you think of the show! Please email us at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.com or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com We read every message and reply personally, because our community means the world to us and we want you to know we're here for you. You got this and we got you.

Oh friends, you won't want to miss this episode. Morgan and Andrea are back this week with top Dallas family law attorney, Rebecca Armstong, talking about the things you SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do after you file for divorce. Rebecca, Morgan and Andrea answer: What 3 things should you do after you file for divorce? What 3 things should you absolutely NOT do after you file for divorce? Do I need a therapist if I'm going through a divorce? Can being in therapy be used against me if I'm going through a divorce? Why should I go to an annual checkup at the doctor during a divorce? Can I record my spouse during an argument and use it during divorce proceedings? Will my spending habits be scrutinized during a divorce? What advice did Oprah give Andrea about her own divorce?   Texas friends! You can reach our fabulous guest Rebecca at: www.armstronglawtexas.com 214-741-9906   As always, we love hearing from you so feel free to slide into our dms: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You got this and we got you xo