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Playing With Fire

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Jun 17, 2023 • 1h 2min

115 The Nature of Relating with guest expert Megan Bhatia

Have you been *working* on your relationships so hard you've lost the sense of joy and pleasure of it all? Time for something new! Megan is an expert in coming home to our innate capacity to relate to your Self & Other by engaging with the natural world & your body Listen in as we bask in the joy of creating something new. We've been cooking up an exciting new project that will take you to your body & soul with ease & meaning. Check it out https://www.wetravel.com/trips/the-nature-of-relating-megan-bhatia-llc-costa-rica-43821186 Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
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Jun 10, 2023 • 32min

114 Non-monogamy is a psychological growth lab: Are you ready?

Non-monogamy comes in as many forms as there are people imagining outside the norm. Imagination is the tool we use to dream the dream forward to what's next. When you follow your imagination that way you gain a better understanding of yourself. Relationships that focus on growth don't have to be non-monogamous, but non-monogamy creates tons of opportunities to make your unconscious *stuff* conscious. It will also likely challenge you to face your relational wounds and fears. This might sound like it's not a ton of fun but in practice, it isn't just the tough stuff that surfaces- it also reveals deep layers of joy and pleasure. Knowing that you are in a psychological relationship makes the waves of *stuff* meaningful so you can get into the juicy fun too! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Watch this episode on YouTube Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠⁠Blue Dot Sessions
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Jun 3, 2023 • 1h

113 How to do hard things & build exceptional love with Neuro-Somatic Intelligence expert Elisabeth Kristof

Neuro-Somatic Intelligence expert, Elisabeth Kristof, shares tools for regulating the nervous system in relationships and navigating conflicts. They discuss the impact of neuro somatic intelligence on behaviors and relationships. They also explore the challenges of making life changes and the need for effective regulation in dating. The concept of neuro tags and emotional flashbacks is explained, emphasizing personal responsibility. Listeners are encouraged to start a daily practice for real change in life, relationships, and behaviors.
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May 27, 2023 • 1h 18min

112 Sex clubs and more with Ashley Weller from What's Your Position podcast

Swinging, sex clubs, bdsm, lifestyle - if you're into stories about these things, this episode is for you. Ashley Weller from the What's Your Position podcast joins us to share her experiences with and perspectives on sex, Check out Ashley's Instagram, @whatsyourpositionpodcast! And listen to the podcast! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
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May 20, 2023 • 55min

111 Build Your Relationship Toolkit with guest experts Dedeker, Emily & Jase of the Multiamory podcast

Relationships require so many different skills. Do you ever struggle to process an argument, or to identify what you really want and need? Dedeker, Emily, and Jase, the hosts of the Multiamory podcast and authors of the book Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships, talk with us about relationship tools that work for ALL relationship structures. This is a must-listen whether you are non-monogamous, monogamous, or just want to upgrade your communication skills for every area of your life! Order their book at multiamory.com/book. (order your copy now!) Subscribe to the multamory podcast in your favorite podcast player app. Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
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May 13, 2023 • 1h 6min

110 How surrogate partner therapy works with guest expert Brian Gibney

Struggling with intimacy but you've already tried *everything*? Not sure what could possibly help? Surrogate partner therapy is amazing and we want you to know more about it! Brian Gibney, a Surrogate Partner Therapist talks with us about how he and other SPTs help people build trust and communication that allows them to experience physical touch with safety and connection. For more information about Surrogate Partner Therapy and Brian Gibney go to BrianGibney.org, Resources mentioned in the episode: https://www.surrogatepartnercollective.org/ https://www.embracespt.org/ Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
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May 6, 2023 • 40min

109 We Opened Up & EEK! What to do when exciting beginnings turn scary

Did you jump into the open waters and find the water kinda choppy? Totally normal, we're sharing: -How the scientific method can help you do this all with less pain (really!) -Why you are struggling with managing change -What do you need to consider about starter boundaries for opening There are a lot of changes to navigate, but you don't have to figure it all out by yourself. We're outlining how we recommend navigating the change, strategically avoiding pitfalls by taking a tested approach, and, bottom line, how to open up without burning things down. Or, if you're already scorched around the edges, let's talk about how to handle that too. www.theyearofopening.com Want to open up with support? email Joli @ JoliHamilton.com and find out how Referenced: Maxx Hill's Relationship Smorgasbord
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Apr 29, 2023 • 51min

108 What would you do with your full power? A conversation about kink, power exchange, and everyday life with Mollena Williams-Haas

In this podcast, Mollena Williams-Haas, a Kink Doula, writer, performer, and podcast host, discusses power exchange, authenticity, and kink. The speakers explore the concept of kink and power exchange relationships, the importance of power exchange, personal stories of addiction and mental health, and the exploration of kink as a spectrum. They also touch on topics like race play and self-discovery in embracing one's kinks.
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Apr 17, 2023 • 51min

107 Power dynamics for non-kinksters (part 2) How to share power when you were raised to be an entitled jerk & a martyr

Jung has this great quote “Where love rules, there is no will to power, and where power predominates, love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.” The shadow of love is power in Jung's estimation. I look around the world and that sure seems true on a grand scale. And in our daily life, I think we *mean* to center love rather than power in our close relationships...but in reality, most of us struggle with power. We struggle to accept that we want unnegotiated power (entitlement) or We struggle to accept that we want to experience a lack of power (martyrdom) or We struggle to accept that having power--even power we didn't ask for-- means having great responsibility (cue the Spiderman theme song) But we aren't taught how to share power with our partners. How to be real about the shadow element that is ruling so much of our love life. This isn't an episode about the grand scale- we are talking about how we made a mess of our loving home by ignoring the power dynamics at work under the surface and WHAT we each did to reverse the problem. Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
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Apr 8, 2023 • 47min

106 The conversation that will change your life: Power dynamics for non-kinksters

It's no secret that we started our relationship in a bad place. Together, we worked and learned our way from a painful, confused state to a conscious, growth-oriented, and gentle love. We transformed that messy, painful relationship by taking a page (several thousand pages, actually) from the world of kink. Kinksters regularly talk about power exchange--we think everyone should. Every single day Joli hears from people who don't recognize that unnegotiated power dynamics are creating suffering in their most cherished relationships. Want an unconventionally happy life? You've got to start dealing with the power dynamics in your relationships. In this episode, we're talking about how we: make power visible in our daily life unpack old icky-but-comfortable manipulative habits practice reading each other's minds (you can too!) make (& keep) thoughtful, creative agreements rather than rely on social norms for security Referenced in the episode: Playing Well with Others by Lee Harrington & Mollena Williams (if you love that, check out Mollena's podcast All That and Mo') Thinking about opening your relationship? Joli has a free salon happening soon to get you started with the 5 pillars you NEED to do it well.

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