Playing With Fire

Relationships require so many different skills. Do you ever struggle to process an argument, or to identify what you really want and need? Dedeker, Emily, and Jase, the hosts of the Multiamory podcast and authors of the book Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships, talk with us about relationship tools that work for ALL relationship structures. This is a must-listen whether you are non-monogamous, monogamous, or just want to upgrade your communication skills for every area of your life! Order their book at multiamory.com/book. (order your copy now!) Subscribe to the multamory podcast in your favorite podcast player app. Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com

Struggling with intimacy but you've already tried *everything*? Not sure what could possibly help? Surrogate partner therapy is amazing and we want you to know more about it! Brian Gibney, a Surrogate Partner Therapist talks with us about how he and other SPTs help people build trust and communication that allows them to experience physical touch with safety and connection. For more information about Surrogate Partner Therapy and Brian Gibney go to BrianGibney.org, Resources mentioned in the episode: https://www.surrogatepartnercollective.org/ https://www.embracespt.org/ Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com

Did you jump into the open waters and find the water kinda choppy? Totally normal, we're sharing: -How the scientific method can help you do this all with less pain (really!) -Why you are struggling with managing change -What do you need to consider about starter boundaries for opening There are a lot of changes to navigate, but you don't have to figure it all out by yourself. We're outlining how we recommend navigating the change, strategically avoiding pitfalls by taking a tested approach, and, bottom line, how to open up without burning things down. Or, if you're already scorched around the edges, let's talk about how to handle that too. www.theyearofopening.com Want to open up with support? email Joli @ JoliHamilton.com and find out how Referenced: Maxx Hill's Relationship Smorgasbord

In this podcast, Mollena Williams-Haas, a Kink Doula, writer, performer, and podcast host, discusses power exchange, authenticity, and kink. The speakers explore the concept of kink and power exchange relationships, the importance of power exchange, personal stories of addiction and mental health, and the exploration of kink as a spectrum. They also touch on topics like race play and self-discovery in embracing one's kinks.

Jung has this great quote “Where love rules, there is no will to power, and where power predominates, love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.” The shadow of love is power in Jung's estimation. I look around the world and that sure seems true on a grand scale. And in our daily life, I think we *mean* to center love rather than power in our close relationships...but in reality, most of us struggle with power. We struggle to accept that we want unnegotiated power (entitlement) or We struggle to accept that we want to experience a lack of power (martyrdom) or We struggle to accept that having power--even power we didn't ask for-- means having great responsibility (cue the Spiderman theme song) But we aren't taught how to share power with our partners. How to be real about the shadow element that is ruling so much of our love life. This isn't an episode about the grand scale- we are talking about how we made a mess of our loving home by ignoring the power dynamics at work under the surface and WHAT we each did to reverse the problem. Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com

It's no secret that we started our relationship in a bad place. Together, we worked and learned our way from a painful, confused state to a conscious, growth-oriented, and gentle love. We transformed that messy, painful relationship by taking a page (several thousand pages, actually) from the world of kink. Kinksters regularly talk about power exchange--we think everyone should. Every single day Joli hears from people who don't recognize that unnegotiated power dynamics are creating suffering in their most cherished relationships. Want an unconventionally happy life? You've got to start dealing with the power dynamics in your relationships. In this episode, we're talking about how we: make power visible in our daily life unpack old icky-but-comfortable manipulative habits practice reading each other's minds (you can too!) make (& keep) thoughtful, creative agreements rather than rely on social norms for security Referenced in the episode: Playing Well with Others by Lee Harrington & Mollena Williams (if you love that, check out Mollena's podcast All That and Mo') Thinking about opening your relationship? Joli has a free salon happening soon to get you started with the 5 pillars you NEED to do it well.

Ken, someone who embraced their darker parts, discusses the concept of shadow work and the importance of accepting and integrating one's inner monsters. They explore the relief that comes with self-recognition and the potential for personal growth. The podcast also touches on hidden desires, fantasies, and the significance of finding support and utilizing creative expression in the process of shadow work.

Having a plan for when your partner goes on a date makes it way more likely that you will both have a positive relationship experience, no matter how the date itself goes. What goes into our plans? We've got three categories and lots of examples of things that help us and have proven to help Joli's clients handle the big emotions of date nights, so dig in! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Looking for the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence tools we talk about all the time? We've made a FREE video training just for our listeners- find it here

Bringing up non-monogamy can be a shock to your partner's system. But if you never bring it up, you'll never even know what's possible for you. Here's how you can plan for success and make this potentially shocking conversation an opportunity to upgrade your relational skills.  Resources from this episode: The conversation guide: www.jolihamilton.com/easy Our video with tools for nervous system regulation: Neuro-Somatic Intelligence ™ for Navigating Change Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com

Libby Sinback, from Making Polyamory Work joins Joli for a conversation about one of the BEST parts of shifting from monogamy to non-monogamy: community that supports your authentic self. More connection is why so many of us practice non-monogamy, but it's not always clear how to actually make the community we long for. Listen as we provide both inspiration and practical advice on how to find, create, and enjoy non-monogamous community! Learn more about Libby at https://libbysinback.com/ Hear more from Libby on Making Polyamory Work Podcast Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Resources and communities mentioned in the episode: The Year of Opening Group with Joli Relational Non-monogamy Circles with Libby Multiamory Patreon Community Normalizing Non-monogamy Community Esther Perel Discussion Group The Daylovers Support Groups Poly.land Discord Community